Ukunaka njengensiza kuyisihloko esisemfashinini. Amakhulu ama-athikili anikezelwe ekucabangeni, futhi amasu okuzindla kuthiwa ayindlela entsha kakhulu yokukhulula ukucindezeleka nokuqeda izinkinga. Ukucabangela kungasiza kanjani? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Anastasia Gosteva uyachaza.
Noma ngabe iyiphi imfundiso yefilosofi oyithathayo, kuhlale kunombono wokuthi ingqondo nomzimba kuyizinto ezimbili ezihlukene ngokuyisisekelo, ezihlukene zodwa. Nokho, ngawo-1980, isazi sezinto eziphilayo uJon Kabat-Zinn, uprofesa waseYunivesithi yaseMassachusetts naye ngokwakhe owayesebenzisa iZen neVipassana, wasikisela ukusebenzisa ingqondo, uhlobo lokuzindla kwamaBuddha, ngezinjongo zezokwelapha. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuthonya umzimba ngosizo lwemicabango.
Le ndlela yayibizwa ngokuthi Ukuncishiswa Kwengcindezi Okusekelwe Ekucabangeni futhi yabonakala isebenza ngokushesha. Kubuye kwavela ukuthi lo mkhuba usiza ezinhlungwini ezingapheli, ukucindezeleka, nezinye izimo ezimbi kakhulu - ngisho nalapho imithi ingenawo amandla.
“Okutholwe yisayensi emashumini eminyaka amuva nje kube nomthelela empumelelweni yokunqoba, okuqinisekisile ukuthi ukuzindla kushintsha ukwakheka kwezindawo zobuchopho ezihambisana nokunaka, ukufunda nokulawulwa kwemizwelo, kuthuthukisa imisebenzi yobuchopho futhi kukhulisa ukuzivikela komzimba,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomqeqeshi. Anastasia Gosteva.
Nokho, lokhu akuphathelene nanoma yikuphi ukuzindla. Nakuba igama elithi “umkhuba wokuzindla” lihlanganisa amasu ahlukene, anesimiso esisodwa esivamile, esakhiwa uJon Kabat-Zinn encwadini ethi “The Practice of Meditation”: siqondisa ukunaka kwethu okwamanje emizweni, emizweni, emicabangweni, ngenkathi sikhululekile futhi asakhi ukwahlulela okungabalulekile (njengokuthi “muphi umcabango omubi” noma “umuzwa ongajabulisi”).
Isebenza kanjani?
Ngokuvamile, umkhuba wokucabangela (ukucabangela) ukhangiswa ngokuthi "iphilisi lakho konke": kuthiwa uzoxazulula zonke izinkinga, ukhulule ukucindezeleka, ama-phobias, ukucindezeleka, sizozuza okuningi, sithuthukise ubuhlobo - futhi konke lokhu ngamahora amabili amakilasi. .
“Kulokhu, kufanelekile ukucatshangelwa: ingabe lokhu kungenzeka ngokomthetho? U-Anastasia Gosteva uyaxwayisa. Iyini imbangela yokucindezeleka kwanamuhla? Ukugeleza okukhulu kolwazi kuwela phezu kwakhe, okudonsa ukunaka kwakhe, akanaso isikhathi sokuphumula, ukuba yedwa naye. Akawuzwa umzimba wakhe, akayazi imizwa yakhe. Akaboni ukuthi imicabango emibi ihlala izulazula ekhanda lakhe. Ukuzijwayeza ukucabangela kusisiza ukuba siqale ukuqaphela indlela esiphila ngayo. Uyini umzimba wethu, uphila kangakanani? Sakha kanjani ubudlelwano? Kukuvumela ukuthi ugxile kuwena naseqophelweni lempilo yakho.”
Yini iphuzu?
Futhi ukukhuluma ngokuthula, kuvela lapho sifunda ukuqaphela imizwa yethu. Lokhu kusiza ukuba singabi namawala, singaphenduli ngokuzenzakalelayo kulokho okwenzekayo.
Ngisho noma singeke sikwazi ukushintsha izimo zethu, singashintsha indlela esisabela ngayo kuzo futhi siyeke ukuba izisulu ezingenamandla.
“Singakhetha ukuthi sizozola yini noma sikhathazeke,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Ungabheka ukuzijwayeza ukucabangela njengendlela yokubuyisela ukulawula impilo yakho. Ngokuvamile sizizwa njengabathunjwa bezimo esingenakuzishintsha, futhi lokhu kusenza sizizwe singenamandla.
“UViktor Frankl uthe kuhlale kunegebe phakathi kwesikhuthazo nokusabela. Futhi kuleli gebe kukhona inkululeko yethu, "kuqhuba u-Anastasia Gosteva. “Umkhuba wokucabanga usifundisa ukuthi sidale lelo gebe. Ngisho noma singenakuzishintsha izimo ezimbi, singashintsha indlela esisabela ngayo kuzo. Bese siyeka ukuba yisisulu esingenamandla futhi sibe abantu abadala abakwazi ukunquma izimpilo zabo.
Ungafunda kuphi?
Kungenzeka yini ukufunda umkhuba wokucabangela ezincwadini uwedwa? Usadinga ukufunda nothisha, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siqinisekile: “Isibonelo esilula. Ekilasini, ngidinga ukwakha isimo esifanele sabafundi. Ngicela abantu bakhululeke baqondise amaqolo abo. Kodwa abaningi bahlala begobile, nakuba bona ngokwabo beqiniseka ukuthi bahlezi nomhlane oqondile! Lawa ama-clamp ahlotshaniswa nemizwa engabonakali thina ngokwethu esingayiboni. Ukuzijwayeza nothisha kukunikeza umbono odingekayo.”
Amasu ayisisekelo angafundwa ku-workshop yosuku olulodwa. Kodwa ngesikhathi sokuzijwayeza okuzimele, imibuzo kufanele iphakame, futhi kuhle uma kukhona umuntu ongayibuza. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuya ezinhlelweni zamasonto angu-6-8, lapho kanye ngesonto, ukuhlangana nothisha mathupha, hhayi ngefomethi yewebhu, ungacacisa ukuthi yini ehlala ingaqondakali.
U-Anastasia Gosteva ukholelwa ukuthi yilabo kuphela abaqeqeshi abanemfundo yengqondo, yezokwelapha noma yezokufundisa kanye namadiploma afanele okufanele athembeke. Kuyafaneleka futhi ukuthola ukuthi usenesikhathi eside ezindla, othisha bakhe bangobani, nokuthi unayo yini isizindalwazi. Kuzodingeka usebenze wedwa njalo.
Awukwazi ukuzindla isonto lonke bese uphumula unyaka. “Ukunaka ngalo mqondo kufana nomsipha,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Ukuze uthole izinguquko ezisimeme kumjikelezo we-neural wobuchopho, udinga ukuzindla nsuku zonke imizuzu engama-30. Kuyindlela ehlukile yokuphila."