Ngikhumbula, ekilasini lokugcina, uthisha we-physics wasitshela: “Ningaphasanga izivivinyo, nizoya esikoleni sokufundela amakhono okulungisa izinwele.” Futhi akukho lutho ukuthi iholo lomlungisi wezinwele olula liphindwe kabili noma kathathu kunelakhe. Kodwa-ke sashaywa ngesando emakhanda ethu ukuthi kuphela abahluliwe abaya kubalungisi bezinwele. Ngakho-ke, ukungaphumeleli ukuhlolwa kwakusho ukuyeka ukuphila kwakho.
Ngendlela, abaningana engifunda nabo ekilasini, sebefundele ukuba osomnotho, bagcina beziphilisa nge-manicure. Cha, angiceli ukucekela phansi imfundo ephakeme. Kodwa kunengcindezi enkulu kwabathweswe iziqu ngenxa yakhe. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ezikoleni.
Indodakazi yomngane wami iqeda ibanga le-11 kulo nyaka. Lena intombazane ehlakaniphe kakhulu, enekhono. Uthanda isayensi yekhompiyutha, akalethi kathathu kudayari yakhe. Kodwa naye ukhathazekile ngokuthi ngeke aphumelele ukuhlolwa.
“Ngesaba ukuthi ngeke ngikwenze lokho, ngeke ngifeze amathemba akho,” esho kunina. “Ngesaba ukuthi ngizokudumaza.”
Yiqiniso, umngane uzama ukuthulisa indodakazi yakhe, kodwa lokhu kunzima, ngoba intombazane iya esikoleni, futhi lapho, ngenxa ye-Unified State Exam, kukhona i-hysteria yangempela.
- Njalo entwasahlobo, phakathi kwentsha eneminyaka engu-16-17, inani lemizamo yokuzibulala likhula kakhulu. Kukhona nemiphumela ebulalayo, - kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uLarisa Surkova. - Wonke umuntu uyasazi isizathu: "uphumelele ngaphambi kokuhlolwa." Uyajabula umuntu lezi “zinhlamvu ezintathu ezihlekisayo” ezingasho lutho kuye.
Indlela yokuthulisa ingane yakho ngaphambi kokuhlolwa
1. Uma umphumela wokuhlolwa ubalulekile kuwe, khona-ke udinga ukulungiselela ingane yakho okungenani iminyaka embalwa kusengaphambili.
2. Ungalulazi ingane yakho. Ungayisebenzisi imishwana ethi “uma ungayiphasanga – ungabuyi ekhaya”, “uma wehluleka ukuhlolwa, ngeke ngikuvumele ukuthi uye ekhaya”. Ngake ngezwa umama evuma izono esho ukuthi “akaseyona indodana yami, nginamahloni ngayo.” Ungalokothi usho lokho!
3. Gada ingane yakho. Uma edla kancane, ethule, engakhulumi nawe, ehoxisa kuye, engalali kahle - lokhu kuyisizathu sokukhala i-alamu.
4. Khuluma nengane yakho njalo. Yenza izinhlelo ngekusasa lakhe. Ngabe uzofunda enyuvesi. Ongakulindela empilweni.
5. Khuluma naye ngokungaphezu nje kwezifundo zakho. Ngezinye izikhathi, ngokwesicelo sami, abazali bagcina idayari yezokuxhumana. Kukhona yonke imishwana efika embuzweni othi: "Yini esikoleni?"
6 Kunoma yiziphi izimo ezisolisayo, khuluma ngokungagwegwesi. Khuluma ngemizwa yakho, ukuthi uyamthanda nokuthi ubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Khuluma nengane yakho ngokubaluleka kokuphila. Uma ubona izimpawu ezisolisayo, phuthuma ulethe kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ukhiye izindlu, ngisho nokwelashwa okuyimpoqo kulungile.
7. Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho. Mayelana nolwazi lokuphasa izivivinyo, mayelana nokwehluleka kwabo.
8. I-Glycine ne-Magne B6 azikahluphi muntu okwamanje. Inkambo yokungena izinyanga ezingu-1-2 izobuyisela izinzwa zengane esimweni esijwayelekile.
9. Zilungiseleleni ndawonye! Lapho mina nendodakazi yami uMasha silungiselela i-USE ezincwadini, ngakhohlwa umcabango othi “lokhu umbhedo ophelele.” Khona-ke ubuncane bekhandidethi kufilosofi kuphela obabubi kakhulu.
10. Ukufunda kubalulekile, kodwa abangane, umndeni, ukuphila nempilo kubaluleke kakhulu. Iba nengxoxo kanye ngokubaluleka kwempilo. Sitshele ukuthi kunezinto ezimbi kakhulu kunokufeyila esivivinyweni. Nikeza izibonelo ezithile.
11. Nikeza ukusekelwa okuphezulu enganeni yakho, njengoba izingane zivame ukufakwa ngaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu esikoleni.