Uma umuntu ecabanga kaningi ngokuhlukaniswa kwabantu abadala lapho sikhuluma ngokuhlukaniswa komndeni, lokhu kungathinta nezingane nabantu abadala abasebenzayo. Gxila esihlahleni esasakazeke ikakhulukazi entshonalanga.

Kusukela ekushayweni kokuqala kwenhliziyo yakhe, esibelethweni sikanina, ingane ibona imizwa yayo, ukuthula kwayo noma okuphambene nalokho, ingcindezi yayo. Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, uzwa izwi likababa wakhe nezindlela ezahlukahlukene zalabo abasondelene naye. Ngakho-ke umndeni uyisisekelo semizwelo kodwa futhi futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke izimpawu zomphakathi nezokuziphatha. Inkuthazo ethintekayo nenhlonipho yabazali enganeni zonke izinto ezingaba nomthelela ebuntwini bayo obudala.

Iphethini efanayo iyaphindwa inqobo nje uma izingane zinquma ukuba ngabazali ezikhundleni zazo. Uchungechunge oluqinile olungokomzwelo nolokuziphatha lube seludalwa phakathi kwamalungu omndeni owodwa, okwenza ukuzihlukanisa kaningi kube nzima ukukuthwala.

Ukufudukela kwelinye izwe, inkinga yababaleki, imisebenzi edinga ukuhlukaniswa komndeni okuphawulekayo, amacala okuhlukaniswa maningi kakhulu kunalokho esicabanga. Lokhu kude kungaba ezimweni ezithile kungaholela ku- umkhombe. Lapho kutholakala, ukusekelwa nokuhlanganiswa komndeni kungamela izixazululo ezisebenzayo.

Izingane nazo zingathola ukuhlukaniswa noma ukuhlukaniswa komndeni. Isehlukaniso noma ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali ababili kungaholela ekuhlukaniseni ngenkani komunye wabazali ababili (ikakhulukazi lapho owokugcina engowokufika noma ehlala endaweni ekude kakhulu). Isikole okuhlalwa kuso ngesikhathi kufundwa naso sibonwa abanye njengokuhlukaniswa komndeni okunzima kakhulu ukuhlala nakho.

Asebekhulile ngokungangabazeki yibo abathinteka kakhulu ngokuzihlukanisa. Lokhu kungachazwa kalula ngokuqhamuka okuhamba kancane nokuqhubekayo okuvela endaweni yezenhlalo, ngaphandle kohlaka lomndeni.

Ngempela, asebekhulile abasasebenzi futhi ngokuvamile bakhetha ukuzinikela emindenini yabo (ikakhulukazi lapho kufika izingane ezincane). Ozakwabo abahlangana nabo cishe nsuku zonke bakhohliwe noma okungenani, imihlangano iya ngokungajwayelekile. Ukuxhumana nabangane nakho akuvamile kangako ngoba nabokugcina bathathwa yimisebenzi yabo yomndeni.

Iminyaka iyahamba bese kuvela ukukhubazeka okuthile emzimbeni. Abantu asebekhulile bazihlukanisa kakhulu futhi babona abangane babo beya ngokuncipha. Ngaphezu kwama-80, ngaphezu komndeni wakhe, uvame ukwaneliseka ngokushintshana okumbalwa nomakhelwane, abadayisi nabanikezeli bezinsizakalo abambalwa. Ngemuva kweminyaka engama-85, inani labangeneleli liyancipha, ikakhulukazi lapho umuntu osekhulile encike futhi engakwazi ukuzihambela yedwa.

Njengokuhlukaniswa nomphakathi, ukuhlukaniswa komndeni kuyaqhubeka. Izingane ziyasebenza, azihlali njalo edolobheni noma esifundeni esisodwa, kuyilapho izingane ezincane zingabantu abadala (imvamisa kusengabafundi). Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kusekhaya noma esikhungweni esithile, kunezixazululo zokusiza asebekhulile ukuba bahlehle emuva ekubhekaneni nesizungu.

Uma befisa ukuhlala ekhaya, umuntu osekhulile ohlukanisiwe angasizwa ngalokhu:

• Amanethiwekhi wensizakalo yasendaweni (ukulethwa kokudla, ukunakekelwa kwezempilo ekhaya, njll.).
• Izinsizakalo zezokuthutha zabantu asebekhulile ukukhuthaza ukuzijabulisa nokuhamba.
• Izinhlangano zokuzithandela ezinikela ubudlelwano nasebekhulile (ukuvakashelwa emakhaya, imidlalo, ukufundisana, ukupheka, ukuzivocavoca, njll.).
• Amaqembu omphakathi nezindawo zokudlela ezinhle ukukhuthaza imihlangano phakathi kwabantu asebekhulile.
• Usizo lwasekhaya lomsebenzi wasendlini, ukuyothenga, ukuhamba ngezinja, njll.
• Abafundi bakwamanye amazwe abahlala egumbini endlini ngokushintshanisa izinkampani nezinsizakalo ezincane.
• Ama-EHPAs (Izakhiwo Zokuhlala Kwabantu Abadala) anikela ukugcina ukuzimela okuthile (isibonelo impilo yestudiyo) ngenkathi ethokozela izinzuzo zempilo ehlangene egadiwe.
• The I-EHPAD (Accommodation Establishment for Dependent Elderly People) ukwamukela, ukuphelezela nokunakekela asebekhulile.
• Ama-USLDs (Amayunithi Wokunakekelwa Kwesikhathi Eside Kwabadala Esibhedlela) anakekela abantu abathembele kakhulu kubo.

Kunezinhlangano eziningi ezisiza asebekhulile nabahlala bodwa, unganqikazi ukubuza ehholo lakho ledolobha.

Izikhungo eziningana futhi zenza ukuthi kugwenywe isizungu ngenkathi kukhulula imindeni eseduzane engatholakali njalo.

Ukuhlukaniswa noma ukuhlukaniswa komndeni kuyisikhathi esinzima kakhulu ukuhlala naso, ikakhulukazi lapho kubonakala kungenakuguqulwa (yingakho izikhalazo eziphindaphindekayo zabantu abadala abanesizungu). Ukuthatha izinyathelo eziphumelelayo zokubasiza kubavumela ukuthi bagugile ekuthuleni futhi banciphise ukukhathazeka kwabo.