Ingabe ingane yami i-hyperactive noma inomsindo nje?

Ingabe ingane yami enovalo iyasebenza kakhulu? Cha, kunomsindo nje!

“Ibhethri likagesi langempela! Kungiqeda amandla ukudlikiza ngingami! U-hyperactive, kufanele umyise kudokotela ukuze athole ukwelashwa! “Kubabaza ugogo ka-Théo, 4, njalo lapho embuyisela emzini wendodakazi yakhe ngemva kokuyibheka ngoLwesithathu ntambama. Kule minyaka eyishumi nanhlanu edlule futhi ngokungezwani ngakho kwabezindaba, abazali ngisho nothisha baye bathambekele ekuboneni ukuxakeka yonke indawo! Zonke izingane ezinesiyaluyalu, ezilangazelela ukuthola umhlaba, zizohlushwa yile pathology. Iqiniso lihlukile. Ngokwenhlolovo ehlukahlukene yomhlaba wonke, ukungasebenzi kahle noma i-ADHD ithinta cishe u-5% wezingane ezineminyaka eyi-6 kuye kweyi-10 (abafana aba-4 entombazaneni eyodwa). Sikude negagasi elimenyezelwe! Ngaphambi kweminyaka engu-6, kungcono sibhekane nezingane ezingakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwazo. Umsebenzi wabo owedlulele kanye nokuntuleka kokugxilisa ingqondo akukona ukubonakaliswa kwesifo esizimele, kodwa kuhlotshaniswa nokukhathazeka, ukuphikiswa kwegunya kanye nokukhubazeka kokufunda.

Kuyaphazamisa, kodwa hhayi i-pathological

Kuqinisekile ukuthi abazali abanempilo ematasa kakhulu bangathanda ukuhlangana kusihlwa nangezimpelasonto phambi kwezingelosi ezincane! Kodwa izingane ezisacathula zihlala zihamba, yiminyaka yazo! Bayazi imizimba yabo, bathuthukise amakhono abo emoto, bahlole umhlaba. Inkinga iwukuthi, abakwazi ukulawula ukuvuka kwabo komzimba, ukubeka imingcele, kuthatha isikhathi ukuze bathole amandla okuzola. Ikakhulukazi labo abasemphakathini. Ivuselela futhi inothile ngemisebenzi, kodwa futhi ijabulisa kakhulu. Uma befika ekhaya ebusuku, bakhathele futhi becasukile.

Ebhekene nengane engaphumuli kakhulu engalokothi iqede lokho ekuqalile, i-zaps isuka komunye umdlalo iye komunye, ikubiza njalo ngemizuzu emihlanu, kunzima ukuhlala uzolile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ungacasuli. Ngisho nalapho isixuku sinezela: “Kodwa anazi ukuthi niyibambe kanjani! Awenzi into efanele! », Ngoba vele, uma ingane eshesha kakhulu ivame ukuphikiswa, kanjalo nabazali bayo!

Hlela injabulo yakho

Ngakho kufanele usabele kanjani? Uma uphakamisa izwi lakho, mtshele ukuthi athule, ehlise umoya, uzifaka engozini yokwengeza okunye ngokulahla yonke into etholakalayo ... Hhayi ngoba engalaleli, kodwa ngoba umbuza lokhu. lokho angeke akwazi ukukwenza. Njengoba uMarie Gilloots echaza: “ Ingane exokozelayo ayikwazi ukuzibamba. Ukumtshela ukuthi ayeke ukudlikiza, amthethise, kusho ukuthi unenhloso. Kodwa-ke, ingane ayikhethi ukucasuka, futhi ayikho esimweni sokuzola. Lapho nje esecasuke kakhulu, kungcono athi kuye: “Ngiyabona ukuthi ujabulile, kukhona esizokwenza ukuze wehlise umoya, ngizokusiza, ungakhathazeki. »Mgone, mnikeze okuphuzwayo, mculele ingoma ... Ngokusekelwa ukuzibophezela kwakho, ibhola lakho” lemizwa “lizokwehla ukucindezeleka futhi lifunde ukulawula injabulo yakhe ngokushukuma komzimba okupholile, ukuzijabulisa komzimba okuthulile.

Funda futhi: Amathiphu ayi-10 okubhekana kangcono nentukuthelo yakho

Msize asebenzise imali yakhe

Ingane engaphumuli idinga amathuba amaningi okuzivocavoca futhi iveze ubungqabavu bayo. Kungcono ukuhlela indlela yakho yokuphila kanye nemisebenzi yakho yokuzilibazisa ucabangela lesi sici. Thanda imisebenzi yomzimba ngaphandle. Mnikeze izikhathi zenkululeko, kodwa unake ukuphepha kwakhe, ngoba abancane abahlukumezekile ukuphinga futhi bazifake engozini kalula ngokuqwala amatshe noma ukugibela izihlahla. Uma esededele umusi ngaphandle, mnike nemisebenzi ethulile (izindida, imidlalo yelotto, amakhadi, njll.). Mfundele izindaba, cela ukwenza amakhekhe ndawonye, ​​ukudweba… Okubalulekile ukuthi utholakale kuye, ukuthi ubukhona bakho kanye nesiteshi sakho sokunaka umsebenzi wakhe ongahlelekile. Ukuze athuthukise ikhono lakhe lokugxilisa ingqondo, isinyathelo sokuqala siwukwenza umsebenzi okhethiwe naye, futhi okwesibili, ukumkhuthaza ukuba awenze yedwa. Enye indlela yokusiza umntwana ongaphumuli ukuba ehlise umoya ukuhlela izikhathi zoshintsho, amasiko apholile ngesikhathi sokulala. Izingane ezisheshayo zikumodi yokuvula / yokuvala, zisuka ekuvukeni ziye ekulaleni “ngokuwa njengenqwaba”. Amasiko akusihlwa - izingoma ezipholile ezihunyiswayo, izindaba ezihletshwayo - zibasiza bathole ubumnandi bokuzinikela ku-reveria, umcabango, umcabango kunesenzo.

Ezinye izincazelo zokuyaluza kwakhe

Singaphikisa ngokuthi ezinye izingane zinesiyaluyalu kunezinye, ukuthi ezinye zinomoya oqhumayo, ezinye zinomoya ozolile futhi ozicabangelayo. Futhi sizobe silungile. Kodwa uma sizama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani abanye beyaluza kangaka, siyaqaphela ukuthi kunezinye izimbangela ngaphandle kwe-DNA nezakhi zofuzo. Izingane “izivunguvungu” zidinga okungaphezu kwezinye ukuthi siphinde siqinisekise imithetho okufanele ihlonishwe, imingcele okungafanele yeqiwe. Futhi bayizingane ezivame ukungazethembi. Yiqiniso, abawangabazi amakhono abo angokomzimba, kodwa abalondekile lapho kuziwa emandleni abo okucabanga nokukhuluma. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhuthaza isishingishane sakho esincane ukuthi sithathe igama, kunesenzo. Menze athole ukuthi kunentokozo ekukhulumeni, ekumiseni, ekulaleleni indaba, ekuxoxisaneni. Mkhuthaze ukuthi akutshele akwenzile, lokho akubukele njengopopayi, lokho akuthandile ngosuku lwakhe. Ukuntula ukuzethemba kwezingane ezingaphumuli ngokweqile nakho kuqiniswa nobunzima bazo bokujwayela isigqi sesikole, ingcindezi yesikole. Uthisha ubacela ukuthi behlise umoya, bahlale kahle ezihlalweni zabo, bahloniphe iziyalezo… Besekelwe kabi othisha abanezingane eziningi okufanele bazilawule ekilasini labo, futhi abesekwa kabi ezinye izingane ezibacabangelayo. ukuba ngabalingani abampofu bokudlala! Abayihloniphi imithetho, abadlali ngokuhlanganyela, bayama ngaphambi kokuphela… Umphumela uba ukuthi bakuthola kunzima ukwakha ubungane nokuhlanganisa iqembu. Uma ingane yakho iyibhethri likagesi, ungangabazi ukutshela uthisha wayo. Qaphela ukuthi uthisha nezinye izingane ekilasini bangambiza ngokuthi “wenza izinto eziwubuwula”, “obanga umsindo” ngoba lokhu kucwaswa kuholela ekutheni akhishwe eqenjini. . Futhi lokhu kushiywa ngaphandle kuzoqinisa ukuyaluza kwakhe okungahlelekile.

Umsebenzi oweqile, uphawu lokungazethembi

Imisebenzi eyeqile yengane encane ingaxhunyaniswa nokukhathazeka, ukungazethembi okucashile. Mhlawumbe ukhathazekile ngoba akazi ukuthi ubani ozomlanda enkulisa? Ngasiphi isikhathi ? Mhlawumbe uyesaba ukuthethiswa unkosikazi? njll. Khuluma naye, mkhuthaze ukuba asho lokho akuzwayo, ungavumeli ukungakhululeki kungene phakathi kwalokho okungenza ukuyaluza kwakhe kuqine. Futhi noma ngabe ikuvumela ukuthi uphefumule, khawula isikhathi osichitha phambi kwezikrini (i-TV, ikhompuyutha ...) kanye nezithombe ezithokozisayo kakhulu, ngoba zandisa ukuphazamiseka nokunaka. Futhi uma eseqedile, mcele ukuthi akutshele ngesiqephu sekhathuni asibonile, ukuthi umdlalo wakhe umayelana nani ... Mfundise ukubeka amazwi ezenzweni zakhe. Ngokuvamile, ukugcwala kwemisebenzi kuba ngcono ngokukhula: lapho ungena ebangeni lokuqala, izinga lokungahlaliseki ngokuvamile liye lehla. Lokhu kuyiqiniso kuzo zonke izingane, kuyenzeka ngokwemvelo, kuchaza uMarie Gilloots: “Phakathi neminyaka emithathu yenkulisa, abahlukumezi bafunda ukuhlala emphakathini, ukubanga umsindo omkhulu, ukungaphazamisi abanye, ukuzola ngokomzimba, ukuhlala bathule. futhi unake ibhizinisi labo. Iziyaluyalu zokunakwa ziba ngcono, ziyakwazi ukugxila kangcono emsebenzini othile, hhayi ukweqa ngaso leso sikhathi, aziphazanyiswa kalula ngumakhelwane, umsindo. “

Kufanele uthintane nini? Yiziphi izimpawu ze-hyperactivity ezinganeni?

Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, akukho lutho olungcono, ingane ihlale ingalawuleki, ikhonjwa nguthisha, ikhishwe emidlalweni ehlangene. Umbuzo-ke uphakama ngo-hyperactivity wangempela, futhi ukuqinisekiswa kokuxilongwa nguchwepheshe (udokotela wengqondo yengane, ngezinye izikhathi udokotela wezinzwa) kufanele kucatshangelwe. Ukuhlolwa kwezokwelapha kuhlanganisa ingxoxo nabazali kanye nokuhlolwa kwengane, ukuze kutholwe izinkinga ezingase zibe khona (isithuthwane, i-dyslexia, njll.). Umndeni kanye nothisha baphendula imibuzo eklanyelwe ukuhlola ukushuba kanye nemvamisa yezimpawu. Imibuzo ingathinta zonke izingane: “Ingabe unenkinga yokuthatha isikhathi sakhe sokuhlala esihlalweni?” Ingabe ulahlekelwa izinto zakhe? », Kodwa ku-hyperactive, ikhesa iphezulu kakhulu. Ukuze usize ingane iphinde ikwazi ukuthula, Udokotela wengqondo ngezinye izikhathi uzonikeza i-Ritalin, isidakamizwa esigcinelwe izingane lapho ukuphazamiseka kugxambukela kakhulu empilweni yezenhlalo noma yesikole. Njengoba uMarie Gilloots egcizelela: “Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi uRitalin usesigabeni sezidakamizwa, ama-amphetamine, akayona ivithamini” eyenza umuntu ahlakaniphe “”. Kuyi-a usizo lwesikhashana ngezinye izikhathi kudingekile, ngoba ukungasebenzi kahle kuwukukhubazeka. Kodwa uRitalin akaxazululi yonke into. Kumelwe kuhlotshaniswe nokunakekelwa kobudlelwane (i-psychomotricity, i-psychotherapy, ukwelapha inkulumo) kanye nokutshalwa kwezimali okuqinile okuvela kubazali okufanele bazihlomise ngokubekezela, ngoba ukwelashwa kokungabi namandla kuthatha isikhathi. “