Okuqukethwe
- Ulwa nomqondo wokuthi kunendlela ekahle yokufunda. Incwadi yakho ikubalekela kanjani lokhu?
- Kungani abazali abasebasha namuhla beba nobunzima obuningi ngokwengeziwe bokuthola ukuthi iyiphi indawo abangayinikeza ingane yabo?
- Ukukhungatheka kuyisisekelo semfundo enhle?
- Indlela yokujezisa umntwana ngendlela efanele?
- Ukukhuluma kusiza ukuvikela ukukhala, intukuthelo, udlame ...
- Kodwa ungakwazi yini ukutshela ingane yakho konke?
- Ingabe futhi uyayigxeka ithrendi yamanje ebhekise ku-zero engcupheni?
Ulwa nomqondo wokuthi kunendlela ekahle yokufunda. Incwadi yakho ikubalekela kanjani lokhu?
Ngenza isiqiniseko sokuthi incwadi yami isezingeni eliphezulu, ikhonkolo futhi ivuliwe. Kuyo yonke imibuthano yezenhlalo, abazali namuhla bazizwa bekhungathekile ngenxa yokuthi abasenalo ulwazi oluyisisekelo olwadluliselwa phambilini ngaphandle kokuqaphela, ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane. Abanye besifazane, isibonelo, banolwazi mayelana nokubunjwa kobisi lwebele, kodwa abanalo ulwazi lokuthi bangase bancelise kanjani izingane zabo. Lokhu kwesaba kwenza umbhede wochwepheshe ukhulume nezinkulumo ezinecala, kodwa futhi ziphikisana. Mina ngokwami, ngiqiniseka ngokujulile ukuthi abazali banamakhono. Ngakho-ke ngiyaneliseka ngokubanika amathuluzi ukuze bathole eyabo indlela yokufunda, efanelana nengane yabo ikakhulukazi.
Kungani abazali abasebasha namuhla beba nobunzima obuningi ngokwengeziwe bokuthola ukuthi iyiphi indawo abangayinikeza ingane yabo?
Ngaphambili ingane yayingenalo ilungelo lokukhuluma. Intuthuko enkulu isivumele ukuthi ekugcineni siqaphele amakhono wangempela wezingane. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuqashelwa sekubaluleke kakhulu kangangokuthi ingane namuhla icatshangwa futhi itshalwe ngokweqile ngabazali bayo. Ngobufakazi babo, ngihlangana kanjalo nezingane eziningi “izinhloko zemikhaya” abazali abangalokothi benqabele lutho kuzo, ngoba bahlale bezibuza ukuthi “Ingabe usangithanda uma nginqaba kuye?” »Ingane kumele idlale indima eyodwa kuphela, eyokuba yingane yabazali bayo, hhayi eyokushada nowakwakhe, umelaphi, umzali wabazali bayo noma i-punching bag lapho abazali bengekho. bengavumelani phakathi kwabo.
Ukukhungatheka kuyisisekelo semfundo enhle?
Ingane ayikwamukeli ngokuzenzakalelayo noma yikuphi ukukhungatheka. Izalwa nesimiso sokuzijabulisa. Okuphambene nakho kuyisimiso seqiniso, esivumela umuntu ukuba aphile phakathi kwabanye. Ngenxa yalokhu, ingane kufanele iqaphele ukuthi ayiyona isikhungo sezwe, ukuthi ayitholi yonke into, ngokushesha, okumele ihlanganyele. Ngakho-ke intshisekelo yokubhekana nezinye izingane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukwazi ukulinda kusho futhi ukuhileleka kuphrojekthi. Zonke izingane zizwa isidingo sokuba nemingcele, futhi zize zixove ngamabomu ukuze zibone ukuthi zingahamba ibanga elingakanani. Ngakho-ke badinga abantu abadala abakwaziyo ukuthi cha futhi babonise ukungaguquguquki kulokho abakwenqabelayo.
Indlela yokujezisa umntwana ngendlela efanele?
Ukukhetha unswinyo kubalulekile. Ukushaywa njalo kuyisehluleki ndawana thize. Ngakho-ke isijeziso kufanele sisheshe futhi sidluliselwe ngumuntu okhona ngesikhathi sobuwula, okusho ukuthi umama angalindeli ukubuya kukayise ukuze ajezise ingane yakhe. Kufanele futhi ichazelwe ingane, kodwa hhayi kuxoxiswane naye. Okokugcina, yiba nobulungisa, uqaphele ukuthi ungenzi umlandu ongalungile, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukulinganisa. Ukwesabisa ingane yakhe ngokuyilahla egalaji elilandelayo likaphethiloli kuyasabisa kakhulu ngoba uthathwe ebusweni. Futhi lapho ukucindezela kuphakama crescendo, khona-ke singazama ukumphathisa kwabanye abantu abadala ukuba bamenze amukele unswinyo ayenqaba kubazali bakhe.
Ukukhuluma kusiza ukuvikela ukukhala, intukuthelo, udlame ...
Ezinye izingane ziqinile ngokomzimba: ziluma konke abanye abanakho ezandleni zabo, bayamemeza, bayakhala, bazigiqeke phansi … Lulimi lwabo, futhi abantu abadala kufanele baqale baqaphele ukuthi bangasebenzisi ulimi olufanayo nabazithethisa. Uma inkinga isidlulile, bheka okwenzeka nengane yakho futhi ulalele ukuthi ithini, ukuze uyifundise ukuthi ngokubeka amagama, sixoxe nomunye. Ukukhuluma kuyakhulula, kuyadambisa, kuyapholisa, futhi kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokudlulisa ulaka lwakhe. Kufanele sikhulume ngamagama ukuze singafiki emafutheni.
Kodwa ungakwazi yini ukutshela ingane yakho konke?
Akumelwe uqambe amanga kuye, noma ugodle izinto ezibalulekile ngomlando wakhe siqu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kumelwe futhi siqaphele ukuba singawadli ngokweqile amakhono akhe futhi ngenxa yalokho sihlale sibuza ukuthi “ukulungele kangakanani” ukusilalela. Asikho nje isidingo sokungena emininingwaneni yokugula kuka-anti wakhe lapho efuna ukwazi ukuthi kungani elala embhedeni futhi ukuthi kubucayi yini. Ukubheja kwakho okuhle ukumenza azizwe evulekile emibuzweni yakhe, ngoba lapho ingane ibuza umbuzo, ngokuvamile kusho ukuthi iyakwazi ukuzwa impendulo.
Ingabe futhi uyayigxeka ithrendi yamanje ebhekise ku-zero engcupheni?
Namuhla sibona ukukhukhuleka kwangempela kwezokuphepha. Ukulunywa kwengane enkulisa kuba yindaba yombuso. Omama abasavunyelwa ukuletha amakhekhe azenzela esikoleni. Yiqiniso, kufanele uqinisekise ukuphepha kwengane, kodwa futhi umvumele athathe izingozi ezibalwe. Lena ukuphela kwendlela yokuba afunde ukulawula ingozi futhi angazitholi esethukile ngokuphelele, engakwazi ukusabela, ngokushesha nje lapho kwenzeka okuthile okungalindelekile.