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Izithiyo ezingokwengqondo zokuzala
Imithi yokuzala iye yenza intuthuko enkulu eminyakeni yamuva kangangokuthi umuntu angase alindele ngokunengqondo ukwehla inzalo. Kodwa akunjalo, ngokocwaningo lwakamuva lwabantu olwenziwe yi-INED, izinga lokuqala lokuzala (4%) alikashintshi ikhulu leminyaka. Okumangalisa nakakhulu, ochwepheshe kuma-LDC baya ngokuya bezithola bebhekene “nobunyumba obumangalisayo”. Njengamanje, isigameko esi-1 kwezi-4 sokungazali asikachazwa. Ingane efiseleka kakhulu ayifiki kanti nokho ukuhlolwa kokungazali, amajika okushisa, ukuhlolwa nokuhlaziya kujwayelekile ngokuphelele. Benamahloni kakhulu, odokotela bese benza ukuxilongwa "kwe-psychogenic sterility", okubonisa ukuthi isithiyo esivimbela owesifazane ukuba abe ngumama akuyona inkinga yezinto eziphilayo kodwa engokwengqondo. Ngokusho kodokotela, izici ezingokwengqondo zidlala indima cishe kukho konke ukungazali. Kodwa-ke, kunezinyumba zemvelaphi engokwengqondo kuphela ezizibonakalisa ngezimpawu eziguquguqukayo, njenge-ovulation disorder.
Zizwe ukulungele ukuba nomntwana
Yiziphi izici ezingokwengqondo ezinamandla ngokwanele ukuze zibangele ukuvinjelwa kokuba ngumama? Ngaphambili, usongo lwengane lwalukhona yonke indawo, kwakudingeka sidlale ngomlilo, ingane ivela engaziwa, isifiso sobulili sowesilisa nowesifazane kanye nengozi engenakugwemeka esasiyithathile ngokwenza uthando. Manje abesifazane abafuna umntwana kufanele bayeke ukuphuza iphilisi noma bakhishwe i-IUD. Ngokuvimbela inzalo, umthwalo wemfanelo usushintshele ohlangothini lowesifazane. Okwakubonakala sengathi inkululeko yaphenduka a umthwalo wosizi onzima kakhulu ukuwuthwala. Ngokuqaphela nangokungazi, miningi imibuzo ephakamayo: ingabe le ndoda ingifanele? Ingabe lesi yisikhathi esifanele? Sengilungile? Kuthiwani uma kuvela kabi? Umphumela, kuyavimba! Le nkululeko entsha, engenakwenzeka ihlanganisa ukushintsha ngesikhathi sesinqumo ukuya emikhawulweni yengozi yokwehluleka. Ngakho-ke abesifazane bangena ephuzwini lenselele.
I-PMA ayikwazi ukuxazulula yonke into
Kusukela kwazalwa u-Amandine, umntwana wokuqala weshubhu lokuhlola, abezindaba bebelokhu besakaza impumelelo emangalisayo yemithi yokuzala. Ngenxa yentuthuko kwezobuchwepheshe, konke kuyenzeka, yilokho esikuzwa yonke indawo. Abesifazane bathembele emuthini ukuze bacacise ukuntula kwabo izingane, bafuna ukuthola izixazululo ngaphandle kwabo, bencika ngokuphuphutheka olwazini lukadokotela njengo-hypnotist. Beqiniseka ngokuthi umuthi unamandla onke, bahlanganyela ekwelapheni okunzima kakhulu, ukuhlola umzimba kanye nengqondo, ngokulangazelela impumelelo okunciphisa imiphumela. Kuyindilinga enonya.
Ukufuna ingane akukona njalo ukufuna ingane
Umgomo wodokotela uwukusiza imibhangqwana ekulungele ukunikeza ingane uthando ukuze ifeze isifiso sayo. Kodwa asikaze sazi kusengaphambili isixhumanisi esicashile phakathi kwentando eshiwo, eqaphelayo, kanye nesifiso esingazi ukuthi lokhu kuzosembulwa. Akukhona ukuthi ingane ihleliwe, ifunwa unembeza, ukuthi iyafunwa. Futhi ngokuphambene, ukuthi ingane ifika ingahlelwanga akusho ukuthi ayithandeki. Odokotela abathatha izimfuno zabesifazane ngokoqobo futhi baphendule kubo bakushaya indiva inkimbinkimbi yengqondo yomuntu. Ngokuxoxa neziguli ezithile ezicela usizo lokuzala, siyaqaphela ukuthi lokhu kukhulelwa komntwana kwakungenakwenzeka. Bathi banengane, kodwa uthando lomndeni wabo lufana nokuthi ukwenza ingane akuvunyelwe. Kungazelelwe, impendulo yodokotela bezifo zabesifazane abanikeza usizo lokuzala ayifanele ...
Ubunzima nomama wakhe
Abashwabene abazibhekile lezi ukungasebenzi okungaziwa kugcizelelwe ukubaluleka kwesibopho sesiguli nomama waso. Ukungabi nanzalo ngakunye kuhlukile, kodwa ezigxotsheni zokubeletha okungenakwenzeka kufaniswa kabusha ubuhlobo obungaphambi kwesikhathi owesifazane ayenabo nomama wakhe. Kukhona ukuhlonza okungenakwenzeka ngomama ayenaye esemncane, into yalolu hlelo yayizodlala kabi noma ihlanganiswe kabi. Sivame ukuthola " iphupho lokwenqatshelwa kokubeletha lowo wesifazane noma onjalo acabanga ukuthi uyinto, ngaleyo ndlela enelise izifiso ezingacacile ezivela kumama wakhe ukuze ambone ephucwa abantwana. », Kuchaza uchwepheshe we-PMA uFrançois Olivennes, osebenza noRené Frydman. “Kodwa qaphela, sivame ukucabanga ukuthi ngumama wangempela lo, kodwa ngumama esinaye ekhanda! Alisho ngokuqondile ukuthi 'Awudalelwanga ukuba nabantwana' noma 'Angikuboni njengomama nhlobo! », Kumelwe kucaciswe ...
Izingozi “ezibuhlungu” zokuphila
Izici ezithile ziphindaphindeka ezindabeni "ze-psychogenic sterility", yilokhu okwathinta uDkt Olivennes ngesikhathi sokubonisana kwakhe. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nezimpawu ezingaqondile. Kukhona isibonelo lowo ofika ezobonisana nonina esikhundleni somngane wakhe, lowo owashonelwa yingane yokuqala ezimeni ezibuhlungu, owakhulela engajabulisi neze. Noma lowo unina owashona lapho ebeletha, lowo owahlukunyezwa ngokobulili, noma lowo unina achaza ukubeletha njengovivinyo oludabukisayo acishe wafa ngalo. Abanye abantu bazizwa benecala ngokuqeda ukukhulelwa kwabo. Ukungabi nabantwana okungachazwanga kutholakale ukuthi kunakho kancane ukuthi indoda ifuna ingane ngaphezu kowesifazane. Owesifazane akasekho esimweni sokwamukela ingane njengesipho, njengesipho, izimo zokuzala kwakhe ziphazamiseka. Bazizwa bephucwe izifiso zengane yabo. Abanye abantu bacaphuna njengembangela yokungazali kwengqondo a ukungatshalwa kwezimali komsebenzi wobaba. Kodwa ukuklelisa lezi zici “ezibangelayo”, lezi zimo zengqondo ngale ndlela ziyi-caricature ngoba azikwazi ukukhishwa ngaphandle komongo! Kukumuntu wesifazane ngamunye ukuthola eyakhe indlela ebheke ekususeni okuvalekile.