Ukuba ngumama kufana nesifundo sesayensi okufanele sifundwe kahle. I-Montessori, i-Makarenko, i-Komarovsky, izinkolelo-mbono zokuthuthukiswa kokuqala nokuphuzile, izinhlelo zamakhono okufundisa kanye nemikhuba yokudla. Inkulisa, izifundo zokulungiselela, ibanga lokuqala … I-Ballet, umculo, i-wushu ne-yoga. Ukuhlanza, isidlo sakusihlwa sezifundo ezinhlanu, umyeni ... Umyeni udinga ukuthandwa nokunakekelwa ngokwezindlela zabesifazane. Ngakho bakhona yini abesifazane abahle ngempela abangenza konke lokhu ngesikhathi esisodwa?
I-Supermom iwuhlobo lwesidalwa wonke umuntu afuna ukufana naso, kodwa okungavamile ukuthi kube khona umuntu owabona bukhoma. Iwuhlobo oluthile lwenganekwane, kodwa ifaka kunoma yimuphi umama ongumuntu inqwaba yezakhiwo. Isibonelo, nakhu omama ababelana ngakho ezithangamini:
U-Olga, oneminyaka engama-28, umama wezingane ezimbili: "Nginamahloni okuvuma, kodwa ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwezingane zami ngangizibheka njengomama olungile. Futhi manje bonke laba omama abakhulu bayangicasula! Ubheka zonke lezi zithombe ku-Instagram: zikamiwe, zizinhle, nengane ezandleni zakhe. Kanye nesidlo sasekuseni sezifundo ezinhlanu namajikijolo aluhlaza esibekwe ngendlela yenhliziyo. Futhi isignesha: "Abafana bami babejabule!" Futhi ngi… Ngezingubo zokulala. Umsila wezinwele ubheke ohlangothini olulodwa, esikibha kukhona iphalishi le-semolina, umdala akadli i-omelet, umyeni u-ayina ihembe ngokwakhe. Futhi kusafanele ngiye esikoleni ... Izandla ziyawa, futhi ngifuna ukukhala. “
U-Irina, oneminyaka engama-32, unina kaNastya oneminyaka engu-9: “Ngikhathele yilaba mama abasile! Namuhla emhlanganweni ngiye ngasolwa ngokungalethi ama-tangerine ekhonsathini yokusiza abantulayo, ngokungalungiseleli indodakazi yami ubuciko be-cone, nokunganaki kakhulu impilo yekilasi. Yebo, angizange ngihambe nabo lapho ngiye e-planetarium noma esekisini. Kodwa nginomsebenzi. Ngizizwa nginengeka. Ngingumama omubi? Bakuphatha kanjani konke lokhu? Futhi kuthiwani, izingane zabo ziphila kangcono? “
Futhi bavame ukuwela ekusolweni.
U-Ekaterina, oneminyaka engama-35, unina wamadodakazi amabili: “Yeka ukukhala! Awunaso isikhathi sokwenza noma yini, iphutha lakho! Kufanele ucabange ngekhanda lakho. Bala usuku, sebenza nezingane, futhi ungaziphonsi ezinkulisa nasezikoleni ezinamahora esikole engeziwe. Kungani pho wazala? Umama ojwayelekile uzokwenzela izingane zakhe konke. Futhi umyeni wakhe upholishiwe, futhi izingane zinekhono. Nonke ningamavila nje! “
Ngemva kwalezi zimpi eziku-inthanethi, Usuku Lwabesifazane luqoqe izinganekwane ezingu-6 ezinkulu mayelana nogogo. Futhi ngathola ukuthi yini eyayingemuva kwabo.
Inganekwane 1: Akakhathali.
Iqiniso: umama uyakhathala. Kwesinye isikhathi kuze kufike amadolo aqhaqhazelayo. Ngemva komsebenzi, ufuna nje ukukhasa embhedeni. Futhi sisadinga ukondla wonke umuntu ngesidlo sakusihlwa, senze umsebenzi wesikole nengane. Ingane ayinangqondo futhi ayifuni ukufunda, kopisha ohlwini, phrinta uhlamvu "U". Kodwa lokhu kufanele kwenziwe. Futhi ukuqonda kuza ukuthi kungcono ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole nomama ozolile. Abafundi bazizwa becasukile futhi bekhathele umzali. Lena imfihlo "yomama ongapheli" - imizwelo ethwala ukukhathala, owesifazane umane afihle ukuze athole ngokushesha imisebenzi yasekhaya. Futhi umcabango wokuthi ufuna ukuwela kanjani ebusweni bakhe emcamelweni, sonke lesi sikhathi akasuki ekhanda lakhe.
Inganekwane yesi-2: I-Supermom ihlale ifanelekile
Iqiniso: uma unenqwaba yezinto ongayenza ezingangeni osukwini, wenzani? Kulungile, uzama ukuhlela imisebenzi yakho. Beka kuqala, setha isimiso sosuku. Ekuxazululeni izinkinga zomama, le ndlela nayo iyasiza. Umama ohlakaniphile akanqabi usizo, usebenzisa impumelelo yobuchwepheshe besimanje (shaja i-multicooker kusihlwa ukuze apheke iphalishi ukuze adle ukudla kwasekuseni, isibonelo), ucabanga ngemenyu isonto lonke futhi athenge imikhiqizo ngokusekelwe ohlwini, abeke indlu ngokulandelana ngokohlelo oluthile (isibonelo, ukuhlukanisa ngokuhlanza izinsuku zendawo). Futhi ngolunye usuku uyaqaphela ukuthi unesikhathi esincane sokuqina, ukubhukuda, i-yoga noma ukudansa.
Inganekwane yesi-3: Omama abakhulu bakhumbula yonke into.
Iqiniso: cha, akanawo nhlobo ubuchopho benjoloba. Ngaphandle, kubukeka sengathi unolwazi ngayo yonke imininingwane yalokho okwenzekayo empilweni yengane yakhe: uyazi lapho kunezingoma ezithi "Winter" kanye "Ubani ophethe ehlathini", ukhumbula konke. kuya osukwini olulodwa, kusukela osukwini lokuzalwa lukathisha wekilasi kuze kufike osukwini lwe-English Olympiad, njll. Eqinisweni, lo mama ugcina idayari. Noma mhlawumbe ezingaphezu kweyodwa. Amathayimithebula awo wonke amakilasi afakwa esiqandisini. Ifoni igcwele ulwazi nohlelo lwesikhumbuzi. Ekhaleni elikhulu "i-alamu".
Inganekwane yesi-4: U-Supermom unesipho sokubekezela okungapheli.
Iqiniso: sonke singabantu, sonke sinesitoreji esihlukile sokubekezela - othile uzoqhuma ngesigamu somzuzu, umuntu udinga ukulethwa ngamathumba amahora. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi akukho okungenziwa ngakho. Ukubekezela kungakhuliswa futhi kusetshenziswe. Isibonelo, ungaphoqa ingane ukuthi ilahle amathoyizi akhe ekamelweni ngezindlela ezahlukene: isikhathi ngasinye ngokumemeza, noma ngisho nokushaya, noma ube nesineke isonto lonke futhi uqoqe amathoyizi ngokuthula nangothando nengane. Ukufundisa ingane imithetho ethile yikho okunikeza umama isineke esingaka.
Inganekwane yesi-5: Omama abakhulu banomyeni ophelele (umama, umndeni, ubuntwana, ikhaya)
Iqiniso: asikwazi ukushintsha ubuntwana bethu, kodwa singashintsha manje. Amantombazane angenabo ubudlelwano obuhle emndenini nawo abe omama abakhulu. Futhi izithombe ezicwebezelayo ngamabomu ze-"My Ideal Family" ezinkundleni zokuxhumana azikho ngoba umama uqhuma isifiso sokuhlanganyela injabulo yakhe. Kunalokho, ngenxa yokuthi abathandekayo (umyeni ofanayo) abamnaki ngokwanele owesifazane. Ukuthanda kuba ukusekelwa kubo, abangakutholi emndenini, futhi izincomo ezivela kwababhalisile ziba ukuqashelwa kokufaneleka nemizamo umyeni nabantwana abangayijabuleli.
Inganekwane yesi-6: Omama abakhulu banezingane eziphelele.
Iqiniso: uyakholelwa ezinganeni ezifanele? Yebo, bangaba nezindondo, izitifiketi kanye namamaki amahle kakhulu, okukhuluma ngemizamo emikhulu yabazali. Kodwa zonke izingane zidlula ezigabeni ezifanayo zokukhula. Wonke umuntu unezifiso, ukungalaleli kanye nokuwohloka. Ngendlela, kukhona okunye okwedlulele lapha, lapho omama bezama ukuqaphela amaphupho abo angagcwaliseki ngengane. Futhi ingane iqala ukuthola izindondo ezingadingekile neze nezitifiketi futhi iya kofundela ukuba ngummeli, nakuba yayihlale iphupha ngokuba umklami.
Ngakho ubani umama omkhulu? Futhi ingabe ikhona nhlobo?
Muva nje, iphuzu lenkambiso ethi "umama omuhle" liye langena emkhathini, lapho i-rocket ingakafinyeleli khona. Omama abasebasha bazama kanzima ukuthola lezi zindinganiso: “Singakanani isikhathi esisichitha nomntwana ukuze sibe umama okahle?”, “Umama angabuyela nini emsebenzini?” amandla akho obuhlakani? “
Khumbula: awudingi ukunikela impilo yakho yonke ekulwela ukuphelela. Uma ungafuni, vele, ukubizwa ngokuthi “umama ohlanyayo”, “Yazhmat”, “Ngizokwephula”. Ukuba ngumama akuhambisani nemiyalelo ecacile, imithetho efanele kanye nezibopho zomsebenzi - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi noma ubani uzama kanjani ukubeka imithetho yokuziphatha komama.
Sekuyisikhathi eside ososayensi befakazela ukuthi ukuthanda ngokweqile nokuba ngumama kuyizinto ezingahambelani. Uma owesifazane ngokuhlanya elwela ukuba supermother, lezi kakade izimpawu neurasthenia, ukunganeliseki ngempilo yomuntu siqu, isizungu. Umama onganaki ngezinye izikhathi uyozuzisa ingane ngaphezu kukamama omkhulu ngemizamo yakhe yokuba ngcono kunawo wonke umuntu, ngisho nangezingane zakhe. Lezi yizinto ezimbili ezeqisayo okufanele zigwenywe - zombili.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziye zasho izikhathi eziningi: “Akunakwenzeka ukuba umama ofanelekayo. Ukuba muhle nje kwanele. ” Incazelo yegolide imayelana nathi.