Okuqukethwe
Amacala angakaqedwa futhi angakaqalwa ayanqwabelana, ukubambezeleka akusenakwenzeka, futhi asikakwazi ukufeza izibopho zethu … Kungani lokhu kwenzeka nokuthi singayeka kanjani ukuhlehlisa yonke into ngokuzayo?
Abekho abantu abaningi kangaka phakathi kwethu abenza yonke into ngesikhathi, ngaphandle kokuhlehlisa isikhathi esizayo. Kodwa kunezigidi zalabo abathanda ukuhlehlisa kuze kube kamuva: ukubambezeleka kwaphakade, okubangelwa umkhuba wokuhlehlisa ikusasa lokho osekuphuze kakhulu ukukwenza namuhla, kuthinta zonke izici zokuphila kwethu - kusukela emibikweni yekota kuya ohambweni lokuya ezu nezingane. .
Yini esethusayo? Iqiniso liwukuthi: udinga ukuqala ukukwenza. Yebo, uma isikhathi esinqunyiwe sesiphelile, sisaqala ukuxokozela, kodwa ngokuvamile kuvela ukuthi kakade isikhathi sesihambile. Ngezinye izikhathi yonke into iphetha ngokudabukisayo - ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, ukuhluleka ezivivinyweni, ihlazo lomndeni ... Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zisho izizathu ezintathu zalokhu kuziphatha.
Ukwesaba kwangaphakathi
Umuntu obeka yonke into kuze kube kamuva akakwazi nje ukuhlela isikhathi sakhe - uyesaba ukuthatha isinyathelo. Ukumcela ukuba athenge incwadi yezenzakalo zansuku zonke kufana nokucela umuntu ocindezelekile ukuba “amane abheke inkinga ngendlela eyakhayo.”
“Ukubambezeleka okungapheli kuyisu lakhe lokuziphatha,” kusho uJosé R. Ferrari, Ph.D., uprofesa eDePaul University e-American University. - Uyaqaphela ukuthi kunzima kuye ukuba aqale ukwenza, kodwa akaqapheli incazelo efihliwe yokuziphatha kwakhe - isifiso sokuzivikela. Isu elinjalo ligwema ukubhekana nokwesaba nokukhathazeka kwangaphakathi.
Ukulwela okufanelekile
Abazindelayo besaba ukungaphumeleli. Kodwa okuyindida ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo, njengomthetho, kuholela ekuhlulekeni nasekuhlulekeni. Ukubeka izinto emhlane, baziduduza ngenkohliso yokuthi banamandla amakhulu futhi basazophumelela empilweni. Bayaqiniseka ngalokhu, ngoba kusukela ebuntwaneni, abazali babo baye baphindaphinda ukuthi bangcono kakhulu, abanamakhono kakhulu.
UJane Burka noLenora Yuen, abacwaningi baseMelika abasebenza nge-procrastination syndrome bayachaza: “Babekholelwa ekukhetheni kwabo, nakuba, eqinisweni, ekujuleni kwenhliziyo babengakungabazi. "Njengoba bekhula futhi babeke eceleni ukuxazulula izinkinga, basagxile kulesi sithombe esihle "seMina", ngoba abakwazi ukwamukela isithombe sangempela."
Isimo esiphambene asiyona ingozi encane: lapho abazali behlala bengajabule, ingane ilahlekelwa isifiso sokwenza okuthile. Kamuva, uyobhekana nokungqubuzana phakathi kwesifiso esiqhubekayo sokuba ngcono, ukuphelela kakhudlwana, namathuba alinganiselwe. Ukudumazeka kusenesikhathi, ukungaqali ukwenza ibhizinisi kuyindlela yokuvikela ekuhlulekeni okungenzeka.
Ungamkhulisi kanjani umuntu ozindelayo
Ukuze ingane ingakhuli njengomuntu ojwayele ukubeka yonke into kuze kube kamuva, ungamgqugquzeli ukuthi "ungcono kakhulu", ungakhulisi ukuphelela okungenampilo kuye. Ungahambi kokunye okwedlulele: uma ujabule ngalokho ingane ekwenzayo, ungabi namahloni ukumbonisa, ngaphandle kwalokho uzomkhuthaza ngokuzingabaza okungenakuvinjelwa. Ungamvimbeli ekwenzeni izinqumo: makazimele, futhi angakhulisi umuzwa wokubhikisha kuyena. Uma kungenjalo, kamuva uzothola izindlela eziningi zokuyiveza - kusukela kokungajabulisi kuya kokungekho emthethweni.
Umuzwa wokubhikisha
Abanye abantu balandela umqondo ohluke ngokuphelele: bayenqaba ukulalela noma yiziphi izimfuneko. Babheka noma yiziphi izimo njengokuphazamisa inkululeko yabo: abakhokhi, basho, ukugibela ibhasi - futhi yile ndlela abaveza ngayo ukubhikisha kwabo ngokumelene nemithetho etholwe emphakathini. Qaphela: basazophoqeleka ukuthi balalele lapho, ngokomuntu wesilawuli, lokhu kudingwa kubo ngokomthetho.
UBurka noYuen bayachaza: “Konke kwenzeka ngokwesimo kusukela ebuntwaneni, lapho abazali belawula zonke izinyathelo zabo, bengabavumeli ukuba babonise ukuzimela.” Njengabantu abadala, laba bantu bacabanga kanje: “Manje akudingekile ukuba ulandele imithetho, ngizosilawula mina ngokwami isimo.” Kodwa umzabalazo onjalo ushiya u-wrestling ngokwakhe ehluliwe - kuyamqeda amandla, akumqedi ukwesaba okuvela ebuntwaneni obukude.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
Fushanisa ubugovu
Uma uqhubeka nokucabanga ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza lutho, ukukhetha kwakho kuzokwanda. Khumbula: inertia iwuphawu lokungqubuzana kwangaphakathi: ingxenye eyodwa yakho ifuna ukuthatha isinyathelo, kanti enye iyamxosha. Zilalele wena: ukumelana nesenzo, wesabani? Zama ukufuna izimpendulo futhi uzibhale phansi.
Qala isinyathelo ngesinyathelo
Hlukanisa umsebenzi ube izinyathelo ezimbalwa. Kusebenza kangcono kakhulu ukulungisa ikhabethe elilodwa kunokuziqinisekisa ukuthi uzolihlukanisa kusasa. Qala ngezikhawu ezimfushane: “Kusuka ngo-16.00 ebusuku kuya ku-16.15 pm, ngizobeka izikweletu.” Kancane kancane, uzoqala ukususa umuzwa wokuthi ngeke uphumelele.
Ungalindi ugqozi. Abanye abantu bayaqiniseka ukuthi bayayidinga ukuze baqale noma yiliphi ibhizinisi. Abanye bathola ukuthi basebenza kangcono uma izikhathi ezibekiwe ziqinile. Kodwa akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukubala isikhathi esizosithatha ukuxazulula inkinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungase kuphakame ubunzima obungalindelekile ngomzuzu wokugcina.
Zivuze
Umklomelo wokuziqokela wona ngokuvamile uba yisisusa esihle soshintsho: funda esinye isahluko sendaba yomseshi osuqalile ukuyihlela emaphepheni, noma uthathe iholidi (okungenani izinsuku ezimbalwa) lapho uvula iphrojekthi enomthwalo wemfanelo.
Iseluleko kulabo abaseduze nawe
Umkhuba wokubeka yonke into kuze kube kamuva uyacasula kakhulu. Kodwa uma ubiza umuntu onjalo ngokuthi akanandaba noma uyavilapha, uyomane wenze izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Kunzima ukukukholelwa, kodwa abantu abanjalo abanabo nhlobo abangenandaba. Bazabalaza nokungabaza kwabo ukuthatha isinyathelo futhi bakhathazeke ngokungavikeleki kwabo. Ungayikhiphi imizwelo: ukusabela kwakho ngokomzwelo kukhubaza umuntu nakakhulu. Msize abuyele eqinisweni. Ukuchaza, isibonelo, ukuthi kungani ukuziphatha kwakhe kungathandeki kuwe, shiya ithuba lokulungisa isimo. Kuyoba usizo kuye. Futhi akudingekile ngisho nokukhuluma ngezinzuzo ngokwakho.