Ingabe ikhona ngempela into eyenziwa yi-hypersexualization eFrance? Ihumusha ini?
UCatherine Monnot: “Ukuxhashazwa ngokobulili kwemizimba yamantombazane kukhona eFrance njengakwamanye amazwe anezimboni, ikakhulukazi ngabezindaba kanye nemboni yezimonyo nezingubo. E-France, ukukhukhuleka kubonakala kuncane futhi kuncane kakhulu kunase-United States noma eJapane ngokwesibonelo. Kusukela eminyakeni engu-8-9, amantombazane akhuthazwa ukuba ahluke kusukela ebuntwaneni ngokufaka umfaniswano we "pre-adolescent". Lona kufanele amukele imibandela esebenzayo kulokho okufanele kube "ubufazi" futhi okudlula ngaphezu kwakho konke ngokuhlobana nomzimba. Inqubo iphinde iqiniswe yizinqubo zeqembu: ukugqoka, ukucwala izimonyo, ukuhambahamba, ukukhulumisana njengomuntu omdala kuba umdlalo wesikole nowekamelo lokulala ngaphambi kokuba kancane kancane ube yindinganiso yomuntu ngamunye kanye neqoqo. »
Uyini umthwalo wemfanelo wabazali? Abezindaba ? Abalingisi bemfashini, ukukhangisa, izindwangu?
CM: « Amantombazane amele umgomo wezomnotho, onamandla okuthenga akhula njalo: ngakho-ke abezindaba nabakhiqizi bafuna ukuthwebula le makethe njenganoma iyiphi enye, ngokugcina izimiso zokuziphatha ezishintshashintshayo.. Ngokuqondene nabazali, banendima engaqondakali: ngezinye izikhathi abahloli kanye nababhali, ngezinye izikhathi baphelezela noma bakhuthaze indodakazi yabo ukuthi ilandele ukunyakaza ngenxa yokwesaba ukuyibona ikhishwe inyumbazane. Kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuyavuza ngomzali ukuba nendodakazi ehlangabezana nazo zonke izimiso zobufazi. Ukuba nendodakazi enhle nemfashini kuwuphawu lwempumelelo njengomzali, futhi ikakhulukazi njengomama. Kakhulu, uma kungenjalo, kunokuba nendodakazi ephumelelayo esikoleni. Izinto kufanele zifaneleke ngokuya ngesizinda senhlalo njengoba esigabeni sabasebenzi, ubufazi bendabuko kanye nobufaniswano buthakazelelwa kakhulu kunasendaweni enenhlanhla: uma izinga likamama lemfundo liphakeme, kulapho ezoba nenqubomgomo yemfundo eqhelelene nabezindaba, isibonelo. Kodwa ukuthambekela okuyisisekelo kusala lokhu, futhi noma kunjalo izingane zihlalisana ngezinye izindlela eziningi ngaphandle komndeni: esikoleni noma phambi kwe-inthanethi noma i-TV, phambi komagazini wemfashini, amantombazane afunda okuningi ngalokho umphakathi okudingayo kuwo kule ndawo.. "
Ingabe ukufunda ngobufazi namuhla kuhluke kakhulu kulokho obekuyikho izolo?
CM: Njengayizolo, amantombazane azizwa enesidingo sokuhlala eyedwa futhi ehlangene, ukudlula kokuthomba ngokomzimba kodwa nokwenhlalo. Ngezingubo zokugqoka kanye nezimonyo, benza ukuqeqeshwa okudingekayo. Lokhu kuyiqiniso nakakhulu namuhla ngoba amasiko angokomthetho okudlula ahlelwa abantu abadala anyamalele. Ngenxa yokuthi awusekho umgubho ngesikhathi sokuqala, ibhola lokuqala, ngenxa yokuthi isidlo asisaphawuli ukudlulela eminyakeni “yobusha”, amantombazane, njengabafana, kumele abuyele komunye nomunye, enze eminye imikhuba engahlelekile. Ingozi ilele eqinisweni lokuthi abantu abadala abasondelene, abazali, ogogo nomkhulu, omalume kanye no-anti, abasayidlali indima yabo yokuqondisa. Indawo ishiywe ezinye izinhlobo zenhlangano, ezithengisa kakhulu futhi ezingasavumeli inkhulumomphendvulwano phakathi kwezingane nabantu abadala. Imibuzo nokukhathazeka okukhona kulesi sikhathi esibucayi sempilo kungahlala kungaphendulwa ”.
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