Okuqukethwe
Kujwayelekile yini ukuthi ingane ilale nabazali bayo?
Ukuze ungabi nenkinga engadingekile esikhathini esizayo, udinga ukubeka ama-accents ngendlela efanele kusukela ngesikhathi umntwana osanda kuzalwa ebonakala endlini. Kuhle kakhulu ngisho nangaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe ukuthengela ingane umbhede bese uyifake endaweni elula. Nokho, ngokuvamile ngisho noma enebhedi ekahle, umama usamlalisa nomntwana embhedeni. Futhi ukuncelisa ibele kulula kakhulu - akudingeki ukuthi uvuke, futhi ngokuvamile - umphefumulo usendaweni. Kodwa into esemqoka ukuthi ungayishiyi emikhubeni.
– Ukulala ndawonye kungaba yinto evamile kuze kube iminyaka emi-2. Futhi ngendlela, ukuhlehlisa ingane kuze kube yiminyaka emi-2 kulula kakhulu kunokukwenza kamuva, amanothi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezingane, isazi se-neuropsychologist uNatalia Dorokhina. - Uma ubambezela isikhathi, izinkinga ezahlukahlukene seziqala ukwenzeka. Isibonelo, uma ubuthongo obuhlangene bunwetshwa kuze kube sekupheleni kwesikhathi, ingane ikhula, njengoba ibizwa nge-psychology, ukukhanga kwe-libidinal, futhi esikhathini esizayo angase abe nezinkinga emkhakheni wezocansi. Noma kunjalo, uma ubuthongo obuhlangene bubambezeleka, khona-ke inkinga yokuhlukaniswa, okungukuthi, ukuhlukaniswa kwengane kubazali, ingaphindaphindwa kabili.
Ngakho-ke, uma ingane ine-crib yezingane ezisanda kuzalwa, kufanele ivele ishintshwe ngombhede ngokuya ngeminyaka. Futhi uma kwakungekho nhlobo futhi umntwana walala nabazali bakhe kusukela ekuzalweni, noma kwakukhona umbhede owengeziwe, khona-ke lapho eneminyaka engu-2 ubudala ingane kufanele ibe nombhede wayo.
“Akudingeki ube nekamelo lakho – phela akubona bonke abantu abanezimo zokuhlala, kodwa ingane kufanele ibe nombhede wayo ohlukene,” kugcizelela ungoti wethu.
Ukulumula ingane ukuze ilale nabazali
Uma ingane ilala ngaphansi kwengubo eyodwa nonina kusukela yazalwa, izinguquko ezisheshayo zingaba nengcindezi. Indlela yokukhipha ingane ngokushesha futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ngaphandle kokuhlukumeza ukulala nabazali bayo?
– Kuthinta isimo sengqondo sabazali. Kumele bakholelwe emthonjeni wengane, ukuthi ingalala kahle yedwa, kusho uNataliya Dorokhina. - Futhi ngokuvamile, uhlelo lonke lomndeni lubalulekile: ingabe ingane ixhumana nabazali phakathi nosuku, ingabe umama uyanga ingane, ingabe uvulekile kuye ngokomzwelo. Uma lokhu kungekho noma akwanele, khona-ke ukulala ngokubambisana kungaba yingxenye ebalulekile yengane, lapho ethola ukusondelana okudingekile nabazali bakhe, uthola lokho ayekuntule emini. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, ukuze uvikeleke ngokuphepha nangokusheshisa ingane ekulaleni nabazali, udinga ukuhlola la maphuzu: ingabe ingane isilungele ngokwengqondo futhi ingabe ithola uthando olwanele nothando phakathi nosuku.
Sijwayela ingane embhedeni wayo
Indlela yokwenza ngezinyathelo ezimbili nje?
Isinyathelo 1: Thenga umbhede, uwufake efulethini futhi unikeze ingane yakho isikhathi sokuyijwayela. Kudingekile ukutshela ingane ukuthi lokhu kungumbhede wakhe, umbhede wakhe, lapho ezolala khona.
Isinyathelo 2: Thatha futhi ubeke ingane embhedeni ohlukile.
“Ekuqaleni, umama angaba seduze, ephulula ingane, ethi konke kuhamba kahle,” kuphawula isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yengane. “Okwamanje, awukwazi ukusuka ndawo, hamba. Umsebenzi kamama ukuqukatha imizwelo yengane, okungukuthi, ukumsiza ukuba abhekane nemizwelo emibi, ngoba angakwazi ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba. Kodwa uma abazali beziphatha kahle ekuqaleni, lungiselela umntwana kusengaphambili embhedeni wakhe, unikeze ukondliwa okudingekayo ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, ngokuvamile abukho ubunzima. Izinkinga zivela lapho kunezinkinga ohlelweni lomndeni: isibonelo, uma ubaba ekhishwe ngandlela-thile kulolu hlelo, umama ubanda ngokomzwelo noma kunzima ukuzwa imizwelo yengane.
Sebenza emaphutheni: ingane iphinde ilale nabazali
Kungase kubonakale sengathi akukho lutho oluyinkimbinkimbi. Futhi, cishe, ingane izosheshe ijwayele izimo ezintsha. Kodwa ngokuvamile kuba namaphutha aholela ezinkingeni.
- Iphutha eliyinhloko ukuthi umzali akakakulungeli ngaphakathi ukubekwa kwengane, futhi ngokushesha nje lapho ehlangabezana nentukuthelo yokuqala yengane yakhe, ngokushesha uyibuyisela embhedeni wayo. Ngokushesha lapho lokhu kwenzeka, lo mshini usebenza: ingane iyaqonda ukuthi uma iphinde ibekwe ngokwehlukana, futhi ibonisa ukunganeliseki, cishe, unina uzombuyisela embhedeni wakhe. Ukungazinzi nokungaguquguquki kungenye yamaphutha avame ukwenziwa abazali, kusho uchwepheshe wethu. - Iphutha lesibili elivamile lapho abazali bedonsa kuze kube yiminyaka yengane, lapho engasacabangi ukuthi ungalala ngokuhlukana nabazali bakho. Ekuboneni kwakhe umhlaba kukhona uhlelo lokuthi unina akahlukani naye. Yilapho izinkinga zokuhlukana zingena khona.
Ngokuqinisekile phakathi kwabafundi bethu kuyoba khona labo abazothi: indodana yami ngokwayo yabonisa isifiso sokulala ngokwehlukana. Futhi njengoba abazali bevame ukuhlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo bodwa ezinkundleni nasezinkundleni zokudlala, kuzalwa inkolelo yokuthi ingane eneminyaka ethile izinqumela yona ukuthi isilungele ukulala ngokwehlukana. Kodwa ingabe kulungile?
"Uma sikhuluma iqiniso, kunezingane ezineminyaka engu-2 ubudala kakade zibonisa isifiso sokulala ngokwehlukana, kodwa ngokuvamile lokhu kumane kushintshe umthwalo wemfanelo enganeni," kugcizelela Natalia Dorokhina. - Futhi kwenzeka ukuthi izingane ezineminyaka engu-12 ubudala zilala eduze kwabazali bazo. Kodwa lokhu kakade kuyinkinga enkulu kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, kune-psychology eningi ekulaleni ngokubambisana kunokuba kungase kubonakale lapho uqala nje. Ukulumula ingane ukuze ilale embhedeni womzali ngeke kusebenze uma umzali engakakulungeli ngaphakathi. Futhi uma ulumula ngobudlova, ungayamukeli imizwa yengane, ungakunaki ukwesaba kwakhe, lokhu kungase kubangele ukucindezeleka. Kodwa uma umama ebeka umntwana futhi ekhona, emsekela, emnika ukusondelana akudingayo emini, konke kufanele kuhambe kahle.