Okuqukethwe
Ngokuvamile, amaphutha esikhathi esidlule, ukugxeka kwabazali, ukuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni kusenza sicabange ukuthi singabantu ababi. Kodwa ingabe kungenzeka ukuthi ucabange kabusha ulwazi lwakho? Uzizwa ubuhle ngaphakathi? Uyabona ukuthi silungile ngempela? Simema wonke umuntu ukuthi azibheke ngokujulile futhi abone ukukhanya okungashintsha umhlaba.
Kubantu abaningi, mhlawumbe into enzima kakhulu ukukholelwa ekubalulekeni kwakho. Ukuthi "Ngingumuntu olungile." “Singakwazi ukunqoba iziqongo, sisebenze kanzima, sizuze amakhono futhi siziphathe kahle, kodwa ingabe ngempela, ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, singazizwa silungile? Ngeshwa cha!» kubhala isazi sezinzwa kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRick Hanson.
"Amasosha Amabi"
Sigcina siphatheka kabi ngezindlela eziningi. Ngokwesibonelo, uRick Hanson ukhumbula intombazanyana eyaye yathathelwa indawo ukuzalwa komfowabo omncane. Umama, ekhathele ukunakekela ingane, wayixosha wayithethisa. Intombazane yayithukuthelele umfowabo nabazali, idabukile, izizwa ilahlekile, ilahliwe futhi ingathandwa. Wabuka ikhathuni lapho amasosha endlovukazi embi ehlasela abantu basemaphandleni abangenacala, futhi ngolunye usuku ngokudabukisayo wathi: "Mama, ngizizwa njengesosha elibi."
Kuyo yonke impilo, amahloni, ukuziphatha okusolayo, ukusola ngokwenkolo, namanye amazwi agxekayo angathatha izinhlobo nobukhulu obuhlukahlukene. Lokhu kwehlisa ukuzethemba kwethu futhi kubangele umbono wokuthi sibabi. Ukungakholelwa “ebuhleni” bethu kubhebhezelwa izimo lapho sizizwa singelutho, singafaneleki futhi singathandeki. Ubaba kaHanson owazalwa epulazini wakubiza ngokuthi "ukuzizwa njenge-scraper."
Amathambo ekhabetheni
UHanson ubhala ukuthi abantu abaningi, kuhlanganise naye, benze izinto ezimbi, babe nemicabango emibi, noma bakhulume amazwi amabi. Izibonelo zingahluka - ukushaya umuntu ongakwazi ukuzivikela, ukufaka ukuphila kwezingane zakho engozini ngokushayela budedengu, okusho ukuphatha umuntu osengozini, ukweba esitolo, ukukopela umlingani, ukulahla noma ukumisa umngane.
Akudingekile ukuba wenze icala lobugebengu ukuze uzizwe unecala noma unamahloni. Ngezinye izikhathi ukweqa noma umcabango omubi kwanele. UHanson uyachaza: “Ngokomqondo ongokomfanekiso, ingqondo inezingxenye ezintathu. Omunye uthi: «Umubi»; omunye: "Umuhle"; kanti eyesithathu, esizichaza ngayo, ilalela le mpikiswano. Inkinga iwukuthi izwi eligxekayo, eligxekayo, eligxekayo livame ukuba phezulu kakhulu kunezwi elisekelayo, elikhuthazayo, nelivumayo ukubaluleka komuntu.”
“Yebo, ukuzisola okunempilo nokuzisola ngokulimaza abanye kubalulekile,” kubhala uHanson. "Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi endaweni ethile ekujuleni, kukho konke ukuphikisana komlingiswa nezenzo, umusa ongena kuwo wonke ukhanya komunye nomunye wethu. Ngaphandle kokuthethelela noma ubani ngezenzo zokuziphatha okubi, ngingasho ngokuzethemba: empandeni yazo, zonke izinhloso zinhle, ngisho noma zingenziwanga ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Lapho izinzwa zethu nengqondo kungafiphazwa ubuhlungu, ukulahlekelwa, noma ukwesaba, ingqondo ibuyela esimweni esiyisisekelo sokulinganisela, ukuzethemba, nozwela. Izindlela ezingaholela ekufezekeni kobuhle obufihliwe kithi azilula, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ziyimfihlakalo.
Ngamunye wethu muhle
Iqiniso liwukuthi, uHanson uyakholelwa, ngamunye wethu ungumuntu olungile. Uma sizibheka ngokuthi «amasosha amabi» noma simane singakufanelekeli ukuhlonishwa nenjabulo, khona-ke siziphatha ngokunganaki nangobugovu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lapho sesizwa umusa wethu wemvelo, cishe siyoqala ukwenza izinto ezinhle.
Ukwazi lokhu kukhanya kwangaphakathi, singakuqaphela kalula kwabanye. Ukubona isiqalo esihle kithi nakwabanye, maningi amathuba okuthi sizame ukwenza umhlaba wethu ovamile ube muhle futhi. Kanjani? U-Rick Hanson uphakamisa ukuthi ziningi izindlela zokuzizwa ujabule futhi uchaza ezinhlanu zazo.
1. Qaphela ukuthi sinakekelwa nini
Lapho sibonwa, sizwakala futhi sizwiwa, saziswa, sithandwa futhi saziswa, kungase kuthathe imizuzwana embalwa nje ukujabulela lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, ukuze sizilungisele thina, sikuvumele kugcwalise umzimba nengqondo yethu.
2. Qaphela umusa emicabangweni yethu, emazwini nasezenzweni zethu
Kuhlanganisa nezinhloso ezinhle, ukucindezela intukuthelo, ukunqanda ukuqubuka kwemizwa elimazayo, umuzwa wobubele nokuba wusizo kwabanye, ukubekezela nokuzimisela, uthando, isibindi, ukuphana, ukubekezela kanye nokuzimisela ukubona ngisho nokukhuluma iqiniso, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani. kungenzeka.
Ngokuqaphela lomusa kithina, singakha indawo engcwele ezingqondweni zethu futhi sigcine amanye amazwi, amanye amandla eceleni. Labo abalungele ukuhlasela futhi bangcolise indlu engcwele, njengamazwi nezenzo ezilulazayo zabanye esizifundile.
3. Izwa ubuhle ngaphakathi kuwe
“Ukwethembeka okuyisisekelo nomusa kukhona kuwo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kujule kangakanani,” kusho uHanson. Ungamandla aseduze, angaziwa, mhlawumbe ngisho angcwele, umthombo osezinhliziyweni zethu.
4. Bheka umusa kwabanye
Lokhu kuzosisiza ukuba sizwe ukukhanya kwethu kwangaphakathi. Nsuku zonke zingagujwa ngokunye ukubonakaliswa kobulungiswa, umusa kanye nezicukuthwane. Ukuzizwa ngaphakathi kwawo wonke umuntu isifiso sokuba nesizotha nothando, ukunikela, ukusiza, hhayi ukulimaza.
5. Ukwenza okuhle
Vumela ukukhanya kwangaphakathi kanye nezicukuthwane nsuku zonke zisuse okubi ezimpilweni zethu. Ezimweni ezinzima noma ebuhlotsheni, kufanelekile ukuzibuza: "Yini, njengomuntu olungile, engingayenza?" Lapho senza ngokuqaphela ngenxa yezinhloso ezinhle, kuba lula ngathi ukubona umuntu omuhle kithi futhi siziqinise kulo muzwa.
Ukuqaphela ukuba khona kokukhanya kwangaphakathi kungaba umthombo wamandla nenjabulo. “Jabulela lokhu okuhle okumangalisayo, okungokoqobo nokuyiqiniso,” kunxusa uRick Hanson.