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Ungazenza kanjani izinto ezinhle zenzeke kuwe ngoKhisimusi
Psychology
Uchwepheshe uMarian Rojas-Estapé uyazazi izikhiye ukuze izinsuku zikaKhisimusi zibe yithuba lokuzuza umfutho hhayi elosizi olungenakufinyeleleka olusondela kithi.
Ingabe ungomunye walabo abathanda uKhisimusi noma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingabe uyawuzonda? Lezi zinsuku ezimakwe ekhalendeni seziphenduke isikhathi esibi kakhulu sonyaka kubantu abaningi abathi, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, bangaboni umqondo walezi zinsuku zokugubha futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, bachithe. Ibonakala ngokuba yinyanga yenjabulo, izibani, abantu yonke indawo, Izingoma zikaKhisimusi nokunye okujabulisayo, uZibandlela ungenye yezinyanga ezesatshwa kakhulu. Isizathu? Ezimweni eziningi ikhuluma nomuzwa wokudabuka lapho ubheka izinyanga eziyishumi nanye ezidlule, ngalokho osekuphila, okuzuziwe kanye nalokho okuye kwasala… Yinyanga yokuthengwa kwabathengi kanye nokuhlangana kabusha . UMarian Rojas-Estapé, udokotela wezifo zengqondo kanye nomlobi wencwadi ethengiswa kakhulu "Indlela yokwenza izinto ezinhle zenzeke kuwe", uyazi izihluthulelo zokuqinisekisa ukuthi izinsuku Christmas Bayithuba lokuthola umfutho hhayi elokudabuka okungaphezu kwamandla ethu.
Lo ngoti, obona kufanele ukuthi kukhulunywe ngokudabuka ngoKhisimusi, akakucabangi ukuthi kufanele ajabule ngoba izinkundla zokuxhumana nomphakathi jikelele uyakufuna. Umlobi nesazi sefilosofi uLuis Castellanos usexwayisile kakade: «Kubonakala sengathi injabulo isebunzimeni bokuhlala emhlabeni ngoba, ezikhathini eziningi, ukucinga kwayo kuveza ukuhlupheka okukhulu kunenhlalakahle.
UMarian Rojas-Estapé ugcizelela amazwi akhe: «UKhisimusi unengxenye yokudabuka okufanele ufunde ukuyilawula. Kukhona ukuthambekela okujwayelekile kokujabula. Kubonakala sengathi sinesibopho esifunwa umphakathi ukuba sizibonise sijabule, ukukhombisa ukuthi akukho okusithintayo, ukuthi akukho ukuhlupheka ... Kungazelelwe sifikelwa nezincwadi, ama-podcasts, amavidiyo ... ahlala ekhuluma ngokuthola injabulo. Ngikholelwa ukuthi injabulo ingumqondo onzima kakhulu ukuwufinyelela kule mpilo, uma kungenakwenzeka, ”kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Eqinisweni, isihloko sencwadi yakhe («Ungazenza kanjani izinto ezinhle zenzeke kuwe») Akuyona ingozi. "Kucatshangelwe kahle kakhulu ngoba bengingafuni ukubeka igama elithi injabulo. Kimina akuchazwanga, kunolwazi. Yizikhathi lapho uxhuma khona nezinto ezinhle ezenzeka usuku nosuku. Impilo iyidrama, inokuhlupheka, inomuzwa wokudabuka, usizi … futhi ngeke siyifihle leyo mizwa,” kusho uDkt. Rojas.
Nokho, ingaphakathi ngalesi sikhathi sonyaka uma lokhu kudlondlobala kugqama futhi nomphakathi osizungezile ubonakala unecala ngalokhu okwenzekayo. “Ngalesi sikhathi konke kufanele kube kuhle. Injabulo incike encazelweni esiyinikezayo ekuphileni, ngakho-ke Christmas ikakhulukazi, kuncike encazelweni esiyenzayo ngakho. Kukhona labo abathola ekupheleni konyaka inkolo, umndeni, inkohliso, ukuphumula, umzuzu wokusetshenziswa ... ", kuchaza uchwepheshe.
Lungiselela ukufika kukaKhisimusi
Akukhona ukuthi kufanele wenze umkhuba wansuku zonke ukuze ingqondo ibambe ukuthi uKhisimusi usuzofika, kodwa ukuthi ucabangela izici ezithile zempilo yakho futhi uzisebenzise ukuze uzuze. “Yilowo nalowo kumele azi ukuthi ufika kanjani kulowo Khisimusi. KunoKhisimusi ofika ujabule ngoba ube nonyaka omuhle, uyohlala nabantu obathandayo, kunemicimbi ofisa ukuya kuyo… Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuneminyaka lapho ningenzi okufanayo. umbono ngoba othile emndenini uphethwe ukugula , kube nokulahlekelwa, ngokwezomnotho angiphilanga ... Christmas Izwe. Kuhle ukuthi uzilungiselele ukwazi ukuthi ufuna ukuphila kanjani », kweluleka uMarian Rojas. "Kufanele wamukele ukuthi mhlawumbe uKhisimusi ongafuni ukuza kodwa uzozama ukuba nesikhathi esingcono kakhulu. Uma ulahlekelwe othile, yisikhathi esihle sokumkhumbuza. Kulezi zinsuku abantu abahambile bakhona kakhulu ezingqondweni zethu. Kungumzuzu wokubakhumbula ngaphandle kokuba yinto emangalisayo, ngaphandle kokugxila kuzo zonke lezi zinsuku, "kusho udokotela, osekhiqize uchungechunge lwezincwadi. Tricks ukuze leliPhasika libe ngumzuzu wokubuyisana.
Zama ukungadli ukudla okungenampilo. “Kubonakala sengathi ngezinye izikhathi kufanele unikeze izipho ukuze wenze futhi usebenzise imali ekuthengeni. Izikhathi eziningi inkulumo, incwadi, ikhadi leposi likaKhisimusi lihle kakhulu futhi libiza kancane », kuchaza uMarian Rojas-Estapé.
Kufanele wenze umqondo kaKhisimusi. «Kukhona umdlandla, uthando, ubumbano futhi akumele sikhohlwe ukuthi ngoKhisimusi umuntu ufuna ukujabulisa abanye, ukuxhumana nengaphakathi kanye nengqikithi yezinto. NgoKhisimusi abantu abaningi bayaxolelana, bayabuyisana,” usho kanje.
Gwema izingxabano. "Uma kufanele wabelane ngesikhala nomuntu owenze impilo yakho ingenzeki, yiba nokwelashwa okunempilo. Ungangeni ezindabeni zokungqubuzana, gxila kubantu obathandayo kakhulu,” kweluleka uchwepheshe.