Okuqukethwe
Lapho ineminyaka engu-12-17, intsha eningi iba nenkinga yokuzethemba nokuzazi ukuthi ingubani. Ukunganeliseki ngokubukeka kuholela emizweni yecala ngisho nenzondo ngawe nomzimba wakho. Ngokuvamile akunakwenzeka ukuthi osemusha anqobe lezi zakhiwo eyedwa. Abazali bangasiza kanjani, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uLarisa Karnatskaya.
Ebusheni, ukuncika ekuzethembeni kuphakeme kakhulu, kakhulu kunalokho abantu abadala abakucabangayo. Namuhla, amantombazane nabafana bangaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu yokuhlangabezana nezindinganiso zemidiya zobuhle nokuphelela ngokomzimba. Ucwaningo lomkhiqizo we-Dove lwembule leli phethini: kuyilapho u-19% kuphela wamantombazane asemasha ekhuluphele, u-67% ukholelwa ukuthi udinga ukwehlisa isisindo. Futhi kunezinkinga zangempela ngemuva kwalezi zinombolo.
Amantombazane asebenzisa izindlela ezingenampilo ukuze anciphise umzimba (amaphilisi, ukuzila ukudla), futhi abafana badla izidakamizwa ukusiza ukwakha imisipha. Ngenxa yezinkimbinkimbi, intsha iziphatha ngendlela ecindezelekile emphakathini, ingavikelekile futhi izama ukugwema ukuxhumana ngisho nontanga yabo. Izingane ezizwa ukugconwa kubhekiswe kuzo, zidlulisela intukuthelo kubo kanye "nokushiyeka" kwazo ngokomzimba, ziba nomsindo, zifihle.
Ungalindi ukuthi ingane ikhule ngaphezu kwalezi zinkimbinkimbi. Kungcono uzame ukusiza.
Khuluma ngokungagwegwesi
Ukuze ukhulume nosemusha, kudingeka uqonde okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Zikhumbule ngeminyaka yakhe kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Ubunamahloni, futhi mhlawumbe uze uzizonde, uzibheka njengomuntu ongelutho, ukhuluphele, umubi. Uma sibheka emuva ebuntwaneni bethu, sijwayele ukukhumbula injabulo eqinile, sikhohlwe ubunzima nezinkinga. Futhi ingane inomuzwa wokuthi uma iqhathaniswa nabazali bayo iphila ngokungalungile.
Dumisani ngokuzwakalayo
Yisho engxoxweni ukuthi ubona kanjani ingane ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, ugcizelela izinhlangothi zakhe ezinhle kakhulu. Lokhu kuzonika osemusha ukwesekwa akudinga kakhulu. Uma ingane ihlekwa usulu, iyahoxa, futhi uma ingane ikhuthazwa, ifunda ukukholelwa kuye.
Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho, khumbula ukuthi ukwazile kanjani ukusinda ethonyeni elivela ngaphandle futhi ubhekane nezinkinga
Dumisani ukubukeka nje kuphela! Ngaphezu kokuncoma ngokubukeka, kuyasiza ukuba ingane izwe izincomo ezivela kubazali ngezenzo zabo. Kwazise umzamo umntwana ewenzayo ukuze afinyelele umgomo, hhayi umphumela. Chaza ukuthi akuzona zonke izinto ezihlala zihamba ngendlela ofisa ngayo. Kodwa uma ugxila kukho konke ukwehluleka, ngeke kukusondeze empumelelweni.
Ziphathe ngobumnene
Omama akufanele bagxeke ukucabangela kwabo esibukweni phambi kwendodakazi yabo esemusha, bakhononde ngemibuthano ngaphansi kwamehlo abo, ukukhuluphala ngokweqile. Kungcono ukukhuluma naye ngokuthi umzimba wentombazane ushintsha kanjani, indlela enhle yokuhamba nokumamatheka enakho. Yabelana nendodakazi yakho ngendaba yokuthi ubungajabule kanjani nawe eminyakeni yayo. Sitshele ukuthi ukwazi kanjani ukusinda ethonyeni elivela ngaphandle noma ukuthi othile obalulekile kuwe ukwazile kanjani ukubhekana nezimo. Elinye iphuzu elibalulekile ukumodela: nikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokubheka ukuthi uziphatha kahle, uzazisa, uzinakekele.
Yakha isistimu yenani
Chazela ingane yakho ukuthi ukwahlulela umuntu ngokubukeka kwakhe kuwukukha phezulu. Ungagxeki abanye phambi komntwana, akufanele ahlanganyele ezingxoxweni ezinjalo noma abe ufakazi kubo. Ingqondo yengane isabela kahle, futhi osemusha uzoveza kuye ukugxeka okuqondiswe kwabanye.
Chaza ukuthi asichazwa kakhulu ngokubukeka kodwa ngezimfanelo zethu kanye nezwe langaphakathi.
Ukuxoxa ngezici zangaphandle, siwela ohlelweni oluthile lwemibono yabantu bese sincika kuzo. Futhi kuvela ukuthi hhayi "ngiphila", kodwa "ngihlala". "Ngiyaphila" - ubukhulu obubekiwe, imingcele nemibono mayelana nendlela okufanele ngibukeke ngayo.
Thola izimfanelo ezinhle
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, intsha ifuna ukufana nabanye abantu, kanti ngakolunye uhlangothi ifuna ukuhluka futhi ivelele. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi iziqhenye ngamakhono ayo, izici nobuhle bayo. Mbuze ukuthi yini ehlukile ngelungu ngalinye lomndeni wakhe noma abangani. Mvumele asho izimfanelo zakhe futhi athole ukuthi angagcizelela kanjani.
Chaza ukuthi akukhona kakhulu ukubukeka kwethu okusichazayo, kodwa izimfanelo zethu zomuntu siqu kanye nezwe langaphakathi, izici zobuntu, amakhono ethu, amathalenta, izinto esizilibazisa kanye nezithakazelo. Ithiyetha, umculo, ukudansa, ezemidlalo — noma yikuphi ukuzilibazisa kuzokusiza uhluke esixukwini futhi kukusize uthuthukise umuzwa wokuzethemba.
Hlakulela ulwazi lwemidiya
Chaza ukuthi abezindaba zobuhle nemfashini, izingqwembe zokukhangisa azivezi abantu njengoba benjalo. Izithombe ezifanele kumamagazini acwebezelayo nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana ezidumile zenzelwe ukuheha ukunaka futhi zikwenze ufune ukuthenga okuthile. Bonisa ngokubonakalayo ukuthi ungasishintsha kanjani isithombe ngaphandle kokuqashelwa ngosizo lwezinhlelo zesimanje.
Batshele ukuthi omagazini abacwebezelayo nezinkundla zokuxhumana azibonisi abantu njengoba benjalo
Siza ingane yakho ikhulise iso elibucayi okuzosiza ukungathathi kalula konke. Xoxa ukuthi ingabe kulungile yini ukuqhathanisa abantu bangempela nezithombe ezidalwe ngokuzenzisa, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ugcizelela ukubaluleka kokuhlonipha nokwazisa okusenza sihluke.
Ake sikhulume
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ibe nombono futhi iwuveze. Buza kaningi ukuthi indodana noma indodakazi yakho ifunani, ivumele ukuthi izikhethele, futhi usize ukuletha imibono ekuphileni. Lokhu kukunika ithuba lokukholelwa kuwena futhi ukhule ube umuntu ozethembayo ngomuso.