Ungaluthola kanjani uthando ngokuzihlukanisa nawe

Noma ngabe ungaphezudlwana kwe-30, unomshado ongaphumeleli ngemuva kwakho, futhi izingane ezimbili ziphindwe kathathu ukulwa komcamelo esofeni, lisekhona ithemba lokuthola inkosana yakho. Umbuso wokuzihlukanisa wenze izinguquko ezinkulu ezimpilweni zethu - manje ngeke uye esitolo sekhofi ukuze uhlale nencwadi, futhi kusihlwa uyothwebula endaweni yokudlela ubheke phezulu ufuna ama-bachelor abukekayo. Manje kufanele uhlele impilo yakho yomuntu siqu ukude. Umdidiyeli onolwazi lweminyaka engu-30, umqeqeshi onolwazi nochwepheshe bezengqondo banikeze iseluleko sokuthi ungangeni kanjani enkingeni futhi uthole “lowo” odalelwe ukudalelwa.

Isinyathelo 1: Beka kuqala

Okuxakayo ukuthi, kodwa ukusesha othenjisiwe kumele kuqale ... ngawe. Okokuqala nquma: ufunani empilweni? Shiya izingane kumzanyana futhi uzakhele umsebenzi? Shiya ihhovisi uhambe ngekhanda emndenini, ubelethe abanye abathathu futhi upheke izibiliboco ezimnandi kusukela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku? Hamba unyaka wonke, uhamba nomndeni wakho nisuka endaweni ethile yasezulwini uye kwenye? Unqume? Manje cabanga: yini ekuvimbayo ekwenzeni iphupho lakho lifezeke nokuthi hlobo luni lwendoda okufanele ibe khona ukuze libe ngokoqobo.

- Abesifazane abaningi, kuhlanganise omama abangabodwa, balinde inkosana ukuba ivele empilweni yabo futhi ixazulule zonke izinkinga zabo. Lokhu akulungile ngempela - indoda inezinkinga zayo, kungani idinga eyakho? – uyacabanga umqeqeshi, unjiniyela wegeyimu, umbhali wezinguquko, imidlalo yebhizinisi namakhadi engathekiso u-Anna Seglina. - Okokuqala, ziqonde, ubeke phambili, gxila kokubalulekile, bese uqala ukusesha.

Ukuzihlukanisa nawe kukhulise kakhulu amathuba okuqomisana: yonke into ikude, okusho ukuthi ku-inthanethi - xhumana ukuze uthole impilo, hhayi kuphela nabanumzane basedolobheni lakini kulo lonke Izwe Lethu ngisho nabangaphandle.

- Hlola amakhono akho kusengaphambili: imfundo, ulwazi lolimi, isiko, indlela yokuziphatha, zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebalulekile futhi eyigugu ongayinika indoda. Cabanga ukuthi iliphi izwe osulungele ukuthuthela kulo, uma konke kuhamba kahle, u-Anna Seglina uyeluleka. – Zilungiselele umehluko emqondweni: ngokwesibonelo, e-Italy kuzodingeka uvumelane nokubaluleka kwamasiko omndeni kanye neqiniso lokuthi umama womyeni wakho nguyena ozophatha endlini. E-Iceland, ngokuphambene nalokho, okuhamba phambili ukubambisana nasezindaweni zokudlela wonke umuntu uyazikhokhela.

Ngokuqondile

1. Gcwalisa iphrofayela yakho ngendlela enenjongo, bonisa amandla akho kuyo, khetha isithombe lapho wenze kahle khona, kodwa usabukeka njengawe empilweni yansuku zonke.
2. Bheka umuntu wangempela, hhayi inkosana: vuma, cishe, i-betrothed yakho akuyona i-general, hhayi i-tycoon yamafutha noma i-superman.
3. Tadisha ngokucophelela isithombe sendoda oyithandayo kuphrofayela, sihlole ngosizo lwezinjini zokusesha ukuze uthole okwangempela.
4. Ngesikhathi sokuxhumana, cela ukukuthumelela izithombe ezivela esigabeni "ukuphi manje", qiniseka ukuthi usebenzisa ukuxhumana kwevidiyo. Izithombe ezithathwe endlini yangasese, izithombe ezinqanyuliwe, ukwenqaba ukuxhumana ngezingcingo zevidiyo nezimpelasonto ezimatasa njalo ziyizimpawu eziqinisekile zokuthi iqhawe lakho alikhululekile noma lizenza omunye umuntu.
5. Uma ufuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi indoda ithembekile kuwe, bhalisa amaphrofayili ambalwa kusayithi elifanayo, mawavumele abe ngcono kunewakho. Bheka ikhasi lomuntu ongase ube isoka lakho, kodwa ungathathi isinyathelo sokuqala. Uma ekubhalela kuqala, eqala ukuhlakazeka ngokuncoma, khona-ke mhlawumbe ungowokuqala ongenasithakazelo kuye kangangokuthi wayeka ukufuna owesifazane wenhliziyo. Ukujwayelana okunjalo kufanele kuyekwe.

Isinyathelo sesi-2: Ukusesha kufanele kusebenze

Phakathi nesikhathi sokuzihlukanisa, inani lamakhasimende ezinkampanini zemishado landa: yini okufanele uyenze uma abakhwenyana ngokwabo bengangeni?

- Nganginekhasimende - owesifazane osemusha owayengatholi muntu - amadoda alahlekelwa isithakazelo ngokushesha lapho ethola ukuthi unezingane ezimbili, - kusho umnikazi wenhlangano yomshado iMetkiy Cupid, umlingani oneminyaka engama-30 wesipiliyoni uSvetlana Radaeva. – Kwadlula iminyaka emithathu waze “wavuthwa” kimi, ekugcineni, ukulalela. Futhi sengivele ngineso eliqeqeshiwe: ngimnikeza indoda, futhi yena: “O, akalona uhlobo lwami, uhlobo oluthile oluzacile. Ngithi kuye: “Bheka, hamba ujwayelane, uma ungakuthandi, ngena – sizokhetha omunye.” Futhi ucabangani? Umbhangqwana ojabulayo, oshadile, ndawonye iminyaka engu-4.

Namuhla, imakethe yezinkonzo zomshado inikeza izindlela eziningi zokunciphisa ukusesha "lowo": ukubhula ngezinombolo kuzokusiza ukuthi uthole umnumzane ofanelekayo ngosuku lokuzalwa, i-physiognomy - ukususa abahlanekezeli, abaqambimanga be-pathological kanye namadoda ajwayele ubudlova, i-tarot. amakhadi - ukucacisa ikusasa kancane, kanye nohlelo olungavamile "Antikhvarna" - ukucacisa izimpawu "zokuwohloka" ngesibonakaliso se-zodiac nezici zokubukeka - ukuma kwezindlebe, umbala wezinwele, izimpawu zokuzalwa.

"Njengochwepheshe kule ndaba, ngingasho ukuthi indoda enempandla, uphawu lwakhe lwe-zodiac ibhubesi, ingumuntu omubi kakhulu," kusho uRadaeva. - Uphawu ngalunye lunezici zalo, ukuze uthole ukuthi yini, udinga ukuxhumana nochwepheshe.

Iseluleko sikameshi, noma “okwenziwa nokungakwenziwa”

1. Awukwazi ukubheka umaqondana engosini yokuqomisana - lesi yisizinda samaqola nabantu abangenaso isifiso sokuthola ubudlelwano obuqinile - bangu-90% wabo. Ungasebenzisa izinkundla zokuxhumana ngalezi zinhloso: iya ku-VKontakte, thayipha injini yokusesha "kusesho olusebenzayo", setha ubulili, ubudala futhi ufunde ngokucophelela amakhasi amadoda owathandayo: izithombe, ukuthi ungowaphi amaqembu, yimuphi umculo. uyalalela, funa labo othanda okufanayo nabo.
2. Ungabhali kuqala. Faka ukuthanda - kwanele. Kungcono ukuzikhethela "izinto" ezimbalwa phakathi kwalabo abangabangane bakho. Ngakho-ke indoda izobona ukuthi unabangane ababili, izoba nesithakazelo. Uma ekuthanda uzobhala. Uma ukuxhumana kuqala, ungabuza lo mngane oyedwa ukuthi kufanelekile yini ukuchitha isikhathi "entweni" yakho.
3. Ungayithumeli yonke indaba yakho yokuphila ngesikhathi esisodwa. Uhlu lwezihloko ezingavumelekile luhlanganisa ubudlelwano bangaphambili, ubunzima bezezimali kanye nezikweletu. Kuzokwazi ukukhuluma ngakho konke lokhu ngemuva kocansi, noma okungcono, ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ezifanayo "eziqhubekayo". Futhi ngaphambi kwalokho, khuluma ngezinto zokuzilibazisa, bheka izihloko ezivamile zengxoxo.
4. Awukwazi ukukhombisa ukukhathazeka okukhulu ngezingane, ngaphandle kwalokho indoda izonquma ukuthi iyohlala isendaweni yesibili nangaphezulu futhi ivele ibaleke. Singasho ukuthi bahlakaniphile, banamakhono, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, abazimele. Izingane nazo zidinga ukulungiswa ngokwengqondo ukuze ziqonde ukuthi umama unelungelo lokuba ngasese.
5. Ungavumeli indoda ihlale nawe ngemva nje kokuhlangana nawe - ungagijima ungene ku-gigolo, okuzoba nzima kakhulu ukuyikhipha. Ungavuma ukumvakashela ngokwakho (uxwayise kusengaphambili, yithi, umngane oseduze mayelana nokuthi uzoba kuphi), ukuze ukwazi ukuqhuba "ukuhlola ngamandla": bheka ukuthi uhlanzekile yini ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, ukuthi izandla zakhe ziyakhula yini. indawo efanele, futhi into eyinhloko ukuthi ngabe unesizungu ngempela: ama-slippers abesifazane kanye ne-bathrobe, yebo, kungaba okukamama wakhe, kodwa amathuba okuthi unkosikazi usezweni futhi indoda ifuna nje i-adventure kakhulu. eliphezulu kuleli cala.

Isinyathelo sesi-3: Themba Intuition Yakho

- Kungenzeka futhi kuyadingeka ukuxhumana nokuhlela impilo yomuntu siqu ngesikhathi sokuzihlukanisa, - ngiyaqiniseka UProfesa Ohlangene woMnyango Wefilosofi weSamara State Medical University, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uNina Kovalyunas. - Amadoda avamile adinga uthando nokukhulumisana nawo manje asezihlukanisa yedwa, aphinde afune uthando, futhi abaningi abanandaba nokuthi owesifazane unezingane, noma ngabe ushadile, ngoba into eyinhloko ukuthola umuntu "wakho" .

Kodwa lapha kuvela inkinga ebalulekile: emhlanganweni womuntu siqu, owesifazane angaqonda ukuthi indoda imfanele yini, cishe ngokushesha - iphunga, imisindo, ukuthinta kuyasiza. Manje sekunzima kakhulu ngalokhu – ukuxhumana sekuthuthele kuzithunywa ezisheshayo. Amakholi wevidiyo akuvumela ukuthi uhlole ukubukeka ngandlela thize, kodwa izithunzi zezwi nakho konke okunye kuhlala kubizwa ngokuthi "ngemuva kwezigcawu", ukuze ukwazi ukukhohliswa kulokho okulindele.

“Kuyi-Internet, abesifazane ‘bangasungula’ kalula isithombe somlingani, benamahloni okubuza nokucacisa ukuthi yini ngempela ayithakaselayo,” kusho uNina Kovalyunas. - Ngakho-ke, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zeluleka, ngisho nasezimeni zokuphola ku-intanethi, ukulandela umthetho wezinsuku "okungenani ezintathu" ngaphambi kokuba uqonde ngokuqinisekile ukuthi kufanele wenqabe noma cha umfakisicelo wesandla nenhliziyo.

Yebo, ukuphola ngokuzihlukanisa kunzima manje, kodwa i-intanethi ikuvumela ukuthi ubuke i-movie ndawonye ukude futhi "uya endaweni yaseshashalazini" - konke kuyatholakala, kufanele nje ufune. Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ungakhumbula izimfihlo zakudala zokuyenga: izincwadi ezibhalwe ngesandla ephepheni elinephunga elimnandi, ukushintshaniswa kwezincwadi zakho ozithandayo ngeposi ngamanothi emaphethelweni - okhokho bethu baxhumana kanjani ngaphambi kobuchwepheshe bolwazi? Into eyinhloko lapha ukuthi ungayidluli futhi ungathuki isoka ngendlela yakho engavamile.

Iseluleko sochwepheshe

Indlela yokubona umqambimanga

- Uma uxhumana ku-inthanethi, ungakwazi "ukuhlangana" kalula nomkhohlisi noma i-gigolo. Futhi bayakwazi ukuguqula ukulangazelela kwabesifazane kwezothando ukuze kuzuze: amagama amahle, izincomo ezingapheli, izindaba ezikhala izinyembezi. Ukuze ungangeni ogibeni, kungcono ukusebenzisa amasayithi namaqembu athembekile ku-inthanethi, futhi qaphela ukuthi ungavezi okuningi ngawe.

Ekukhulumisaneni komuntu siqu, umqambimanga anganikezwa ngokungahambisani nezimpawu zomlomo nezingezona zamagama: ulimi lomzimba lwabantu abanjalo ngokuvamile luphikisana nomzimba. Ku-inthanethi, udinga ukunaka ukungahambisani okunengqondo, ukuphikisana ezindabeni ezimayelana nawe. Themba intuition yakho: uma ethi "okuthile okungalungile ngaye", cishe kunjalo.

Kufanele futhi uxwayiswe ngezimemezelo ezinobudlova zothando ngosuku lwe-1-2, uthembisa ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukufeza ngokucacile, ucela ukuboleka imali futhi uthembisa ukungena ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.