Okuqukethwe
😉 Ngibingelele wonke umuntu ongene kulesi siza! Bangane, ngicabanga ukuthi manje nginelungelo lokunikeza iseluleko kubashadikazi abasebasha ngesihloko esithi: Indlela yokugwema izingxabano zomkhaya.
Okuhlangenwe nakho komkhaya wami kungaphezu kweminyaka engu-30, kodwa lona umshado wami wesibili. Ebusheni bakhe, maningi amaphutha enziwa aholela ekubhidlikeni komshado wokuqala, weminyaka emi-4 ... Uzigwema kanjani izingxabano zomndeni?
Umuntu ngamunye ujwayele isigqi esithile sokuphila, ngamunye wethu unemikhuba yakhe kanye nombono othile wezinto eziningi. Ngamunye wethu namuhla ungumkhiqizo wezigidi zezizukulwane. Ungazami ukwenza omunye umuntu - umsebenzi omoshiwe!
Uma ucabangela lokhu, izingxabano kuyo yonke imindeni ayinakugwenywa, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo udinga ukucabanga futhi uvule ubuchopho bakho! Uma ubheka amaphutha namaphutha kothandekayo, uzowathola!
Izingxabano emndenini
Awukho umndeni ongenazingxabano nezingxabano. Abantu abaningi bebengakwazi ukusindisa imindeni yabo ukube bebengajahi ukubhaklaza umnyango ngesikhathi kunengxabano encane. Noma ushise amabhuloho okubuyisana.
Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni, yonke into encane ingaqhuma ibe yihlazo. Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi abesifazane nabesilisa basabela ngendlela ehlukile ezenzakalweni futhi banake izinto eziningi ngamazinga ahlukahlukene.
Ngakho-ke, owesifazane ubheka ngokujulile ngokujulile, ucabangela wonke ama-nuances, ubona wonke amaphutha amancane. Futhi nakakhulu ukhathazeka ngezinkinga ezinkulu.
Umzwelo isici isici cishe bonke abesifazane. Amadoda, ngakolunye uhlangothi, avame ukuba lula ukuxhumana nezwe futhi angacabangi izinto ezincane. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zokuxabana komndeni. Lezi izimangalo komunye nomunye ngezinto ezincane zansuku zonke, umona, ukukhathala, izikhalazo ezedlule. Indlela yokugwema izingxabano zomndeni?
Imvamisa uma kunehlazo abantu bakhuluma izinto ezilimazayo abangazicabangi ngempela.
Ungawashi ilineni elingcolile phambi kwabantu
Ukuqwashisa kwamanye amalungu omndeni mayelana nobunzima bakho besikhashana kwandisa ubungozi bokubudlulisela esigabeni sobungunaphakade. Ukuncipha kogogo, okhokho, umamezala, umamezala abazi ukuthi uxabene nomyeni wakho, maningi amathuba okuba uhlenge umshado wakho.
Isifiso sokukhuluma, ukububula mayelana nentombazane kanye nesilisa - bagxila ebubini bengxenye yabo enye.
Lokhu kuyasebenza nasekuqwashiseni izintombi, ozakwenu, amaqabane, omakhelwane ngokwenzeka emndenini wakho. Khumbula umthetho wegolide: usizo ngeke lusize, kodwa xoxa (futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ulahle) uzoxoxa!
Bheka isihloko esithi “Ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano nomamezala nomamezala”
Ungabaleki!
Ngesikhathi sengxabano, akufanele ubalekele ikhaya - lokhu kuwukukhohlisa noma ukukhohlisa kumlingani wakho. Ingxabano engaqediwe ibhidliza imindeni ngokushesha okukhulu.
Ungalinge uxabane phambi kwezingane
Ukungezwani komndeni kuhlukumeza izingane, kungakhathaliseki ubudala bazo. Amahlazo avamile phakathi kwabazali awonakalisa umuzwa wokulondeka. Ngenxa yalokho, izingane zizizwa zingalondekile. Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kubonakala, ingane ihoxiswa futhi ingavikelekile.
Ikhethini lensimbi
Indlela yokugwema izingxabano zomndeni? Izingxabano zasekhaya akufanele zigcine ngokuthula okuvala izindlebe. Lapho sithula, kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuqala ingxoxo futhi. Ukuthula “kuyikhethini lensimbi” elihlukanisa indoda nomfazi.
Ubani oyisithulu lapha?
Ningalokothi niphakamisele izwi komunye nomunye. Lapho umemeza kakhulu, kunciphisa usizo kakhulu ukulungisa izinto bese kuba khona ukucasuka ngemva kokuba intukuthelo isidlulile. Esikhundleni sokuthuka oshade naye, kuphumelela kakhulu ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho - mayelana nokucasuka nobuhlungu. Lokhu akubangeli ulaka kanye nesifiso sokuhlaba kabuhlungu.
Intukuthelo
Enye indlela yokungalethi indaba ehlazweni ukuthi ungaqoqi intukuthelo nemizwelo emibi kuwe amasonto, izinyanga neminyaka, ngaphandle kwalokho ngolunye usuku ngokuqinisekile kuzophela ngengxabano enkulu.
Uma okuthile kukucasulile noma kukuzwise ubuhlungu, khuluma ngemizwa yakho ngaso leso sikhathi. Khuluma ngokuthi yini ngempela ebangele ukudumazeka kwakho nokuthi uzizwe kanjani ngakho.
"Izikhalo akufanele ziqoqwe nhlobo, hhayi ezinkulu, njengoba besho, ingcebo" (E. Leonov)
Okubaluleke kakhulu: kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi asibona ingunaphakade futhi asilokothi sibandakanye abantu bangaphandle kanye nezingane zethu ezindabeni zomndeni.
Amathiphu ahlakaniphile okugwema izingxabano zomndeni, bheka ividiyo ↓
Bangane, yabelanani ngamathiphu noma izibonelo kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu esihlokweni: Ukugwema kanjani ukuxabana komndeni. 🙂 Phila ndawonye!