Kusemhlabeni wonke: kusukela zisencane izingane ziyakuthanda ukudweba. “Uma nje sibanikeza ithuba, kungaba esihlabathini ngenduku noma eshidini elinomaka, badwebe.” Futhi ngesizathu esihle, "kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokukhula kwabo kwengqondo", kuchaza uRoseline Davido. Futhi “kuyindlela eyilungelo nenobungane yokuxhumana nabanye. Kuningi ukuthinteka emdwebeni », Icacisa i-psychoanalyst. Njengoba echaza, “umdwebo awuwona umsebenzi owenziwa uwedwa. Ngokunikeza umdwebo wakhe kubazali bakhe, ngempela wenza isipho. Ingane ayizidonseli yena kodwa ihlanganyela inhlalakahle yayo, ukukhombisa ukuthi kukhona angakwenza ”. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma omncane enomkhuba wokudabula imidwebo yakhe, “lokhu kungase kwembule ukuhoxa kuye noma ubunzima ekukhulumeni. », Kwengeza uchwepheshe.
KuRoseline Davido, kubalulekile ukukhombisa ukuthi siyayithakasela imidwebo yengane yakhe encane, ngokuyibonga, ukuyihalalisela. Ungangabazi ukuveza noma ukuthatha umsebenzi wakhe wobuciko ehhovisi ukuze uwuthuthukise. “Kuyindlela yokuxhumana nengane yakho, uyiqinisekise, uyibonise ukuthi akazenzanga ize leze zenzo”. Futhi khumbula ukunikeza ingane yakho encane amashidi namapensela endaweni ethile endlini.
Isithombe somndeni
Uma eqala ukudweba, okusho ukuthi kusukela esigabeni sokubhala, “omncane uzenzela umfanekiso wokuthuthuka kwakhe”, kugcizelela uRoseline Davido. Futhi uma enza izibalo, ngokuvamile, uqala ngokumela umndeni wakhe. Okunamathiselwe kwabazali kubonakala emidwebeni yakhe. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngokusho kochwepheshe, eshidini, “inxele lifanekisela ukunamathela kumama, esikhathini esidlule, isikhungo, isikhathi samanje, kwesokudla, ukunamathela kukababa, okusho ukuthuthuka. Isikhathi se-Oedipus complex sibonakala futhi emidwebeni yezingane ezincane. Ngokwesibonelo, “intombazanyana, ezizwa inecala kancane ngokukhetha uyise kunonina, iyamkhomba futhi imfanise emidwebeni yayo. Amanye amantombazane azinikela ngezici ezifanayo nomama wawo: amacici, izingubo zokugqoka… Iphethini efanayo ngokusobala itholakala kumfanyana, ozofuna ukusula noma ukufana noyise ngangokunokwenzeka,” kugcizelela uRoseline Davido.
Umdwebo wengane, uveza izinkinga?
“Ukuchazwa kwemidwebo kuyibhizinisi lochwepheshe,” kuchaza uRoseline Davido. ” Kusukela lapho ingane idweba, akukhona kubazali ukuyitolika », Uyacacisa. Futhi-ke umdwebo uwodwa awukwazi ukuveza yonke into, kufanele ucabangele umongo, ”uyanezela. Ngokusho kochwepheshe be-psychoanalyst, ngaphezu kwakho konke kudingekile ukuba unake ukusabela kwengane yakho encane lapho idweba, ukulalela indaba eyitshelayo, ngaphandle kokumbuza imibuzo eminingi. Ingane kufanele ivunyelwe ukuba iziveze, imbuze ngendlela engathathi hlangothi ukuze ingamthonyi. “Ngezinye izikhathi sibona izingane ezineminyaka engu-6-7 ezinqaba ukudweba ngoba ziqonda ukuthi imidwebo yazo ingaba nencazelo ecashile noma ezivumela ukuba zingene shi empilweni yazo”.
Uma imidwebo ivumela ochwepheshe ukuthi babone ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo noma izingxabano zomndeni, ngenxa yemibala, ukushiywa kwezinhlamvu noma izingxenye zomzimba, bangakwazi futhi ukuthola izinkinga zomzimba. Impela,” lapho ingane idweba imidwebo empunga, akusho ukuthi icindezelekile. Angase angaboni imibala », Kugcizelela uRoseline Davido. Futhi uma eneminyaka engu-4-5 ubudala, ingane ichitha isikhathi sayo i-doodling, kuyadingeka ukuthi izindlebe zayo noma ukubona kwayo kuhlolwe ngaphambi kokucabanga ngokuqondile ngokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. KuRoseline Davido, kufanele nje ulalele ingane yakho encane njengoba “imidwebo isinika ulwazi oluthulile mayelana nokukhula kwengane yakho”.