Iklayenti lingaqonda kanjani ukuthi umsebenzi walo ne-psychotherapist uyasebenza?

Ukwelashwa "okucacile".

Ezimweni lapho iklayenti liza nesicelo esithile—isibonelo, ukusiza ukuxazulula ukungqubuzana noma ukukhetha okufanele—kulula kakhulu ukuhlola ukusebenza. Ukungqubuzana kuyaxazululwa, ukukhetha kwenziwa, okusho ukuthi umsebenzi usuxazululiwe. Nasi isimo esijwayelekile.

Umuntu wesifazane ufika kimi enezinkinga nomyeni wakhe: abavumelani ngalutho, bayaxabana. Ukhathazekile ngokuthi uthando, sengathi, seluphelile, futhi mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuhlukanisa. Kodwa usafuna ukuzama ukulungisa ubudlelwano. Emihlanganweni yokuqala, sifunda indlela yabo yokusebenzisana. Usebenza kanzima, futhi ngamahora amahhala angavamile uhlangana nabangane. Ubhorekile, uzama ukumhudulela ndawana thize, uyenqaba, esho ukukhathala. Ucasukile, wenza izimangalo, uyathukuthela ekuphenduleni futhi kancane ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi naye.

Umbuthano ononya, obonakalayo, ngicabanga, ngabaningi. Futhi ngakho-ke sixazulula ingxabano ngemva kokuxabana naye, sizame ukushintsha ukusabela, ukuziphatha, ukuthola indlela ehlukile, esimweni esithile siye kumyeni wakhe, simbonge ngokuthile, sixoxe ngokuthile naye ... Umyeni uyaqaphela izinguquko futhi uyazithatha. amagxathu abheke . Kancane kancane, ubudlelwano buya kufudumala futhi buyancipha. Ngeqiniso lokuthi namanje akunakwenzeka ukushintsha, uyasula futhi ufunda ukuphatha ngendlela eyakhayo, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokho, ubheka isicelo sakhe saneliswe ngamaphesenti angamashumi ayisithupha futhi uqeda ukwelashwa.

Lapho kungacacile...

Kuyindaba ehluke ngokuphelele uma iklayenti liza nezinkinga ezijulile zomuntu siqu, lapho okuthile kudinga ukuguqulwa ngokungathi sína kuye. Akulula ukucacisa ukusebenza kahle komsebenzi lapha. Ngakho-ke, kuyasiza ukuthi iklayenti lazi izigaba eziyinhloko zomsebenzi ojulile we-psychotherapeutic.

Imvamisa imihlangano yokuqala eyi-10-15 ibonwa njengesebenza kakhulu. Eqala ukuqaphela ukuthi inkinga emvimbela ukuba aphile ihlelwa kanjani, ngokuvamile umuntu uzizwa ekhululekile futhi enomdlandla.

Ake sithi indoda ingithinta inezikhalo zokukhathala emsebenzini, ukukhathala nokungafuni ukuphila. Phakathi nemihlangano embalwa yokuqala, kuvela ukuthi akakwazi nhlobo ukuvikela nokukhuthaza izidingo zakhe, ukuthi uphila ngokukhonza abanye - kokubili emsebenzini nasempilweni yakhe yomuntu siqu. Futhi ngokuqondile - uya kuhlangana wonke umuntu, uyavumelana nakho konke, akazi ukuthi "cha" futhi aphikelele ngokwakhe. Ngokusobala, uma ungazinakekeli nhlobo, ukukhathala kuyaqala.

Ngakho-ke, lapho iklayenti liqonda izizathu zalokho okwenzeka kuye, libona isithombe esijwayelekile sezenzo zakhe nemiphumela yazo, lithola ukuqonda - ngakho-ke nakhu! Kusele ukuthatha izinyathelo ezimbalwa, futhi inkinga izoxazululwa. Ngeshwa, lokhu kuwukukhohlisa.

Inkohliso eyinhloko

Ukuqonda akufani nesinqumo. Ngoba kuthatha isikhathi nomzamo ukwazi noma yiliphi ikhono elisha. Kubonakala kumthengi ukuthi angasho kalula ukuthi “Cha, sorry, angikwazi ukukwenza / Kodwa ngifuna kanje!”, Ngoba uyaqonda ukuthi kungani futhi kanjani! A uthi, njengenjwayelo: "Yebo, sithandwa / Yebo, ngizokwenza konke!" - futhi uzithukuthelele ngokuhlanya ngalokhu, bese, ngokwesibonelo, ehlephula umlingani kungazelelwe ... Kodwa empeleni akukho lutho oluzomcasula!

Abantu ngokuvamile abaqapheli ukuthi ukufunda indlela entsha yokuziphatha kulula njengokufunda ukushayela imoto, isibonelo. Ngokwethiyori, ungazi konke, kepha ngena ngemuva kwesondo bese udonsa i-lever ngendlela engafanele, bese ungangeni endaweni yokupaka! Kuthatha umkhuba omude ukufunda indlela yokuxhumanisa izenzo zakho ngendlela entsha futhi uzilethe kulokho okuzenzakalelayo lapho ukushayela kuyeka ukucindezeleka futhi kuphenduka injabulo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kuphephe ngokwanele kuwe nakulabo abaseduze nawe. Kuyafana namakhono engqondo!

Okunzima kakhulu

Ngakho-ke, ekwelapheni, kufika isigaba esisibiza ngokuthi "i-plateau". Kufana nalologwadule lapho kufanele uhambe khona iminyaka engamashumi amane, uzungeza imibuthano futhi ngezinye izikhathi ulahlekelwe ukholo ekufinyeleleni umgomo wokuqala. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuba nzima ngendlela engabekezeleleki. Ngoba umuntu usevele ebona yonke into, uyaqonda “njengoba kufanele kube”, kodwa lokho azama ukukwenza kuphumela entweni encane kakhulu, noma isenzo esinamandla kakhulu (ngakho-ke singasebenzi), noma into ngokuvamile ephambene nalokho okufiswayo. ukuphuma - futhi kulokhu iklayenti liya liba libi kakhulu.

Akasafuni futhi akasakwazi ukuphila ngendlela endala, kodwa namanje akazi ukuthi kufanele aphile kanjani ngendlela entsha. Futhi abantu abaseduze basabela ezinguqukweni hhayi njalo ngendlela ejabulisayo. Nansi indoda ewusizo, yayisiza wonke umuntu, imhlenga, ithandwa. Kodwa lapho nje eqala ukuvikela izidingo zakhe nemingcele, lokhu kubangela ukunganeliseki: "Uwohloka ngokuphelele", "Akunakwenzeka manje ukuxhumana nawe", "Psychology ngeke ilethe okuhle."

Lesi yisikhathi esinzima kakhulu: intshiseko idlulile, ubunzima buyabonakala, "ama-jamb" abo abonakala ngokubheka nje, futhi umphumela omuhle awubonakali noma awuzinzile. Kukhona ukungabaza okuningi: ngingashintsha? Mhlawumbe ngempela senza umbhedo? Kwesinye isikhathi ufuna ukuyeka yonke into futhi uphume ekwelashweni.

Yini esiza?

Ukudlula kuleli thafa kulula kulabo abanolwazi lobudlelwane obuseduze bokuthembana. Umuntu onjalo uyakwazi ukuthembela komunye. Futhi ekwelashweni, umethemba kakhulu uchwepheshe, uthembele ekusekeleni kwakhe, uxoxa ngokukhululekile naye ngokungabaza nokwesaba kwakhe. Kodwa kumuntu ongathembi abantu kanye naye, kuba nzima kakhulu. Bese kudingeka isikhathi esengeziwe nomzamo ukuze kwakhiwe umfelandawonye osebenzayo weklayenti nowezokwelapha.

Kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ukuthi hhayi kuphela iklayenti ngokwayo emiselwe umsebenzi onzima, kodwa futhi izihlobo zakhe ziyaqonda: kuyoba nzima kuye isikhathi esithile, udinga ukubekezela nokusekela. Ngakho-ke, ngokuqinisekile sixoxa ngokuthi singabazisa kanjani futhi ngani, hlobo luni lokusekelwa okufanele sikucele. Uma kuncipha ukunganeliseki nokwesekwa okwengeziwe endaweni, kuba lula ngeklayenti ukuthi lisinde kulesi sigaba.

hamba kancane kancane

Iklayenti ngokuvamile lifuna ukuthola umphumela omuhle ngokushesha naphakade. Ukuhamba kancane angase angaboni ngisho nokuyibona. Lokhu ikakhulukazi ukusekelwa kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo - ukukhombisa ukuthi kukhona okuguquguqukayo kokungcono, futhi namuhla umuntu uyakwazi ukwenza lokho abengakwazi ukukwenza izolo.

Inqubekelaphambili ingaba ingxenye - igxathu eliya phambili, ukuhlehla, isinyathelo esibheke eceleni, kodwa siyakubungaza nakanjani futhi sizame ukukwazisa. Kubalulekile ukuthi iklayenti lifunde ukuzithethelela ngenxa yokwehluleka, ukufuna ukusekelwa kuye, ukubeka imigomo efinyelelekayo, ukwehlisa izinga eliphezulu lokulindela.

Lesi sikhathi singahlala isikhathi esingakanani? Ngiwuzwile umbono wokuthi ukwelashwa okujulile kudinga cishe unyaka wokwelashwa njalo eminyakeni eyi-10 yempilo yeklayenti. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu oneminyaka engama-30 udinga cishe iminyaka emithathu yokwelashwa, oneminyaka engama-50 - cishe iminyaka emihlanu. Yiqiniso, konke lokhu kulinganiselwa kakhulu. Ngakho, ithafa lale minyaka emithathu enemibandela lingaba iminyaka emibili noma emibili nengxenye.

Ngakho-ke, emihlanganweni yokuqala eyi-10-15 kunenqubekelaphambili eqinile, bese kuthi iningi lokwelapha lenzeka endaweni yethafa ngokukhuphuka ngokukhululeka. Futhi kuphela lapho wonke amakhono adingekayo esebenza kancane kancane, ehlanganiswa futhi ehlanganiswe endleleni entsha yokuphila ephelele, kwenzeka ukugxuma kwekhwalithi.

Kubukeka kanjani ukuqeda?

Iklayenti liya ngokuya likhuluma hhayi ngezinkinga, kodwa ngempumelelo yalo kanye nezimpumelelo zalo. Yena ngokwakhe uyaqaphela amaphuzu anzima futhi yena ngokwakhe uthola izindlela zokuwanqoba, uyaqonda indlela yokuzivikela, uyazi ukuthi azinakekele kanjani, angakhohlwa ngabanye. Okusho ukuthi, uqala ukubhekana nempilo yakhe yansuku zonke nezimo ezibucayi ezingeni elisha. Uya ngokuya enomuzwa wokuthi wenelisekile ngendlela ukuphila kwakhe okuhlelwe ngayo manje.

Siqala ukuhlangana kancane, kunalokho kunethiwekhi yokuphepha. Bese kuthi-ke, ngesikhathi esithile, sibambe umhlangano wokugcina, sikhumbula ngemfudumalo nangenjabulo indlela esihambe ngayo kanye nokuhlonza imihlahlandlela esemqoka yomsebenzi ozimele weklayenti esikhathini esizayo. Cishe lena inkambo yemvelo yokwelashwa kwesikhathi eside.