Okuqukethwe
“Zazi”, “Zisize”, “I-Psychology for Dummies”… Amakhulu okushicilelwe nezindatshana, izivivinyo kanye nezingxoxo ziyasiqinisekisa ukuthi singakwazi ukuzisiza… njengezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo. Yebo, lokhu kuyiqiniso, ochwepheshe bayaqinisekisa, kodwa hhayi kuzo zonke izimo futhi kuze kufike iphuzu elithile.
"Kungani sidinga lezi zazi zokusebenza kwengqondo?" Ngempela, kungani emhlabeni kufanele sihlanganyele izimfihlo zethu zomuntu siqu kakhulu, ezisondelene kakhulu nomuntu esingamazi, futhi simkhokhele, lapho amashalofu ezincwadi egcwele abathengisi abasithembisa ukuthi "sizitholele thina uqobo" noma "silahle izinkinga ezingokwengqondo ezifihliwe. » ? Akwenzeki yini, njengoba usulungiselele kahle, ukuba uzisize?
Akulula kangako, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uGerard Bonnet upholisa intshiseko yethu: “Ungathembi ukuthi uzoba owakho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, ngoba ngalesi sikhundla udinga ukuziqhelelanisa nawe, okuyinto enzima kakhulu ukuyenza. Kodwa kungenzeka ukwenza umsebenzi ozimele uma uvuma ukukhulula ukuquleka kwakho futhi usebenze ngezimpawu ezinikezayo. Kwenziwa kanjani?
Bheka izimpawu
Le nqubo isekela yonke i-psychoanalysis. Kwaqala kusukela ekuzihloleni, noma kunalokho, kwelinye lamaphupho akhe, angena emlandweni ngaphansi kwegama elithi "Iphupho ngokujova i-Irma", uSigmund Freud ngoJulayi 1895 waveza umbono wakhe wamaphupho.
Le nqubo singayisebenzisa ngokuphelele futhi siyisebenzise kithi, sisebenzisa zonke izimpawu ezivezwa ukuquleka: hhayi amaphupho kuphela, kodwa futhi nezinto esikhohlwe ukuzenza, ukushelela kolimi, ukushelela kolimi, ukushelela kolimi. , ukushelela kolimi, izenzakalo eziyinqaba - konke okwenzeka kithi kaningi.
Kungcono ukurekhoda edayari yonke into eyenzekayo ngendlela ekhululekile, ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngesitayela noma ukuhambisana.
“Kudingeka uzinikele njalo isikhathi esithile kulokhu,” kusho uGerard Bonnet. - Okungenani izikhathi ezingu-3-4 ngesonto, okuhle kunakho konke ekuseni, ngokulambisa ukuvuka, kufanele sikhumbule usuku olwedlule, sinake ngokukhethekile amaphupho, ukukhishwa, iziqephu ezazibonakala ziyinqaba. Kungcono ukurekhoda edayari yonke into eyenzekayo ngendlela ekhululekile, ukucabanga ngezinhlangano futhi ungakhathazeki ngesitayela nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhambisana. Khona-ke singaya emsebenzini ukuze kusihlwa noma ngakusasa ekuseni sibuyele kulokho esikubhalile futhi sizindle ngakho ngomoya ophansi ukuze sibone ukuhlobana nencazelo yezenzakalo ngokucacile.
Phakathi kweminyaka engu-20 nengu-30, uLeon, manje oneminyaka engu-38, waqala ukubhala phansi amaphupho akhe ngokucophelela ebhukwini lokubhalela, wabe esenezela kubo izinhlangano zamahhala ayenazo. Uthi: “Lapho ngineminyaka engu-26, kwenzeka okuthile okungavamile kimi. - Ngazama izikhathi eziningana ukuphumelela ukuhlolwa kwelayisensi yokushayela, futhi konke kwaba yize. Kwathi ngobunye ubusuku ngiphuphe ngindiza emgwaqeni omkhulu ngemoto ebomvu futhi ngidlula umuntu. Ngemva kokudlula okwesibili, ngezwa ngijabule ngendlela emangalisayo! Ngivuke nalomuzwa omnandi. Ngesithombe esicace ngendlela emangalisayo ekhanda lami, ngazitshela ukuthi ngingakwenza. Kwangathi ukuquleka kwanginika umyalelo. Futhi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, empeleni ngangishayela imoto ebomvu!”
Kwenzenjani? Yini "chofoza" eyabangela ushintsho olunjalo? Ngalesi sikhathi kwakungadingi ngisho nokuchazwa okuyinkimbinkimbi noma ukuhlaziywa okungokomfanekiso kwamaphupho, ngoba uLeon wayenelisekile ngencazelo elula, ekha phezulu kakhulu azinika yona.
Ukugqashula kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuthola incazelo
Ngokuvamile siqhutshwa isifiso esinamandla sokucacisa izenzo zethu, amaphutha, amaphupho. Izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo zibheka lokhu njengephutha. Lokhu akudingekile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngezinye izikhathi kwanele ukususa isithombe, ukuze «sixoshe» ngaphandle kokuzama ukusichaza, futhi uphawu luyanyamalala. Uguquko alwenzeki ngoba sicabanga ukuthi sizicabangele thina.
Iphuzu alikona ukuhumusha ngokunembile izimpawu zokuquleka, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyikhulula kulezo zithombe eziphakama ngokungapheli ekhanda lethu. Izifiso zethu eziqulekile zifuna ukuzwakala kuphela. Isiyala ngaphandle kolwazi lwethu lapho ifuna ukuthumela umlayezo ukwazi kwethu.
Akufanele sijule kakhulu kithina: sizohlangana ngokushesha nokuzitika
UMarianne oneminyaka engu-40 ubudala wayekholelwa isikhathi eside ukuthi ukwesaba kwakhe ebusuku kanye nezothando ezingajabulisi kwakuwumphumela wobudlelwane obunzima noyise owayengekho: "Ngabheka yonke into nge-prism yalobu budlelwano futhi ngakha ubudlelwano obufanayo obunezinzwa "nobungafanele." ” amadoda. Kwathi ngolunye usuku ngaphupha ugogo ozala ubaba engangihlala naye ebusheni bami elula izandla zakhe kimi ekhala. Ekuseni, lapho ngibhala phansi iphupho, isithombe sobuhlobo bethu obuyinkimbinkimbi naye savele saba sobala ngokuphelele kimi. Kwakungekho okumele kuqondwe. Kwakuyigagasi elavuka ngaphakathi, elaqala langehlula, labe selingikhulula.
Akusizi ukuzihlupha, sizibuza ukuthi incazelo yethu ihambisana nalokhu noma lokhu kokubonakaliswa kwethu. “Ekuqaleni uFreud wayegxile ngokuphelele ekuchazeni amaphupho, futhi ekugcineni wafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi ukuvezwa kwemibono ngokukhululekile kuphela okubalulekile,” kuphawula uGérard Bonnet. Ukholelwa ukuthi ukuhlola okwenziwa kahle kufanele kuholele emiphumeleni emihle. "Ingqondo yethu ikhululiwe, singasusa izimpawu eziningi, njengokuziphatha okuphoqelekile okuthinta ubudlelwano bethu nabanye abantu."
I-Introspection Inemikhawulo
Kodwa lo msebenzi unemikhawulo yawo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Alain Vanier ukholelwa ukuthi umuntu akufanele angene ajule kakhulu kuye: “Sizobhekana ngokushesha nezithiyo kanye nokuzitika kwethu ngendlela engenakugwenywa. Ku-psychoanalysis siqala kusukela ekukhonondeni, futhi ikhambi ukusiqondisa lapho kubuhlungu khona, khona kanye lapho sakhe khona imigoqo ukuthi singalokothi sibheke lapho. Yilapho okulele khona umnyombo wenkinga.”
Ubuso nobuso nathi ngokwethu, sizama ukungaziboni lezo zinto ezingavamile ezingase zisimangaze.
Yini efihlwe ekujuleni kokuqulekile, uyini umnyombo wako? - Yilokhu kanye ukwazi kwethu, okwethu «Mina» akalokothi abhekane: indawo yokuhlupheka ecindezelwe ebuntwaneni, engaqondakali komunye nomunye wethu, ngisho nalabo ukuphila okuye konakaliswa kusukela ngaleso sikhathi. Ungakubekezelela kanjani ukuyohlola amanxeba akho, uwavule, uwathinte, ucindezele izindawo ezibuhlungu esizifihlile ngaphansi kwesihenqo sezinzwa, imikhuba eyinqaba noma ukukhohlisa?
“Sibhekene nathi ubuso nobuso, sizama ukungaboni lezo zinto ezixakile ezingase zisimangaze: ukushibilika kolimi okumangalisayo, amaphupho angaqondakali. Sizohlala sithola isizathu sokungaboni lokhu - noma yisiphi isizathu sizoba sihle kulokhu. Kungakho indima ye-psychotherapist noma i-psychoanalyst ibaluleke kakhulu: zisisiza ukuthi sinqobe imingcele yethu yangaphakathi, senze lokho esingakwazi ukukwenza sodwa, ”kuphetha u-Alain Vanier. “Ngakolunye uhlangothi,” kunezela uGerard Bonnet, “uma sizihlola ngaphambi, phakathi, noma ngisho nangemva kwenkambo yokwelapha, ukusebenza kwako kuyoba okukhulu ngokuphindwe kaningi.” Ngakho-ke ukuzisiza kanye nenkambo yokwelashwa kwengqondo akukhipheli ngaphandle, kodwa kwandise ikhono lethu lokuzisebenzela thina.