Okuqukethwe
Yebo, maduze kuzokwenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu: ukushiya umsebenzi, impilo entsha yokuthatha umhlalaphansi, ulwandle lwesikhathi esingama-XNUMX… ukuba khona njalo kwendoda noma unkosikazi ekhaya, eduze kwakho. Futhi lokhu, njengoba abaningi bezitholela bona kungazelelwe, kungaba uvivinyo olunzima. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uKatherine King sichaza ukuthi yini okufanele yenziwe ukuze kugcinwe ubuhlobo obuqinile nobufudumele.
Ngemuva kweminyaka yokusebenza, ungagcina uphumule futhi ungajahi noma kuphi ekuseni. Cishe uzizwa ukhululekile, uphakanyiswe, ukhathazekile, futhi udabuke kancane. Futhi uyaqonda ukuthi ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kusho ithuba lokuchitha isikhathi esiningi ekhaya nomlingani wakho. Ekuqaleni, lokhu kuyajabulisa, kodwa isonto nesonto liyadlula, futhi isithombe semibuthano ehlangene ekhishini noma phambi kwe-TV siyayeka ukuba mnandi kakhulu.
Ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kungase kube nzima ngempela umshado, ngisho noqinile uma kuqhathaniswa. Sekuyiminyaka ulinganisela, futhi manje ngokuzumayo ibhalansi ivaliwe. Emsebenzini wami wokwelapha, ngihlangane nezithandani ezimbalwa ezidlule kulesi sikhathi esinzima. Nazi izincomo engivame ukuzinikeza amaklayenti ami.
I-1. Iba nesineke
Izinyanga zokugcina ngaphambi neyokuqala ngemva kokuphela komsebenzi zingaqhathaniswa ne-roller coaster yangempela mayelana nokuqina kwemizwelo. Ngisho noma usulinde lesi sikhathi isikhathi eside, lokhu akukunaki ukucindezeleka okukhulu nokubonakala kwemicabango nemizwa engalindelekile ehambisana nayo.
Eqinisweni, ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kuyinto ephawulekayo, inkathi yoshintsho ekuphileni njengomshado noma ukuzalwa komntwana. Injabulo kuleli cala ihlale ihlotshaniswa nokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka okukhulu kwangaphakathi. Ngakho-ke, bonisanani ukuzwelana okungaphezu kokuvamile, ikakhulukazi uma nobabili nisanda kuthatha umhlalaphansi.
2. Qaphela izinguquko emicabangweni yakho, emizweni yakho nasekuziphatheni kwakho
Ingabe uke wazithola uphuza kakhulu, uthenga kaningi, futhi ucasulwa izinto eziwubala? Kuthiwani ngomngane wakho womshado? Lokhu kungase kube izimpawu zokuthi oyedwa noma nobabili nithole kunzima kakhulu ukwakha impilo entsha ngemva kokuthatha umhlalaphansi, noma ukuthi ubuhlobo benu buyashintsha ngenxa yalezi zenzakalo.
Uma uqaphela lezi zinguquko, qiniseka ukuthi unaka kakhulu izindlela zakho ezivamile ezinempilo zokubhekana nokucindezeleka kanye / noma uzame ezintsha: ukubhala, amasu okuzindla noma imikhuba yezenkolo, uhambo oluya ezindaweni noma ukuvakashela umelaphi ozokusiza enhlekeleleni. Phakamisa okufanayo kumlingani wakho uma ubona ukuthi unezinkinga ezifanayo.
Hlela uhambo lapho nizoshintshana khona nikhulume ngendlela ozizwa ngayo nokuthi ubhekana kanjani nokuthatha umhlalaphansi. Kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa isikhathi ngokulinganayo ukuze umlingani oyedwa akhulume engxenyeni yokuqala yokuhamba, kanti omunye endleleni ebuyayo. Ningaphambanisani ukuze kukhulume wonke umuntu kuzwakale. Nikeza iseluleko namazwana kuphela uma uzakwethu ekucela ngokuqondile.
3. Ungathathi izinqumo ezinkulu
Phakathi nezivunguvungu ezingokomzwelo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugwema ukunyakaza okungazelelwe lapho wenza izinqumo ezinkulu zokuphila. Ningaba nezingxabano ezinodlame, zizolandelana izinyanga ezimbalwa, bese kuba nesilingo sokuvumelana neqiniso lokuthi umshado ngeke uphumelele.
Ukwehla kweholo kungazelelwe kungamesabisa oshade naye futhi angase afune ukushintsha kakhulu indlela yakhe yokuphila kanye/noma aye endaweni lapho izindleko zokuphila ziphansi.
Imizwa enjalo ingaba umthombo wezingxabano ezinkulu. Thatha isikhathi sakho futhi nithembisane ukuthi ngeke nithathe izinqumo ezinkulu ngesikhathi esimisiwe (okungcono izinyanga eziyisithupha kuya onyakeni). Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izinketho ezingenzeka zingaxoxwa phakathi kwabo kanye nochwepheshe emkhakheni othile.
4. Ungalindeli ukuthi isithandwa sakho sizokujabulisa.
Oshade naye unemisebenzi nezindaba zakhe, abezinikela kuzo zonke izinsuku iminyaka eminingi. Hloniphanani imikhuba uma nithatha umhlalaphansi nobabili nisekhaya. Thatha isikhathi sokwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho uthanda ukuchitha izinsuku zakhe nokuthi yini othanda ukuyenza ngokwakho. Uma ngamunye wenu enombono wezinto azithandayo, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthola izindlela zokuxhumanisa amashejuli akho ukuze afanele wonke umuntu.
5. Zithole kabusha kanye nezinto ozithakaselayo
Abantu abaningi bagxile kakhulu emsebenzini wabo iminyaka kangangokuthi bayakhohlwa ukuthi bathanda ukuchitha isikhathi sabo esikhululekile. Kungenzeka ukuthi uyekile ukuzilibazisa okuthandayo kodwa okudinga umsebenzi onzima noma okudla isikhathi (isb, ukubhaka, ukudlala insimbi yomculo, ukulima ingadi) ukuze wenze izinto ezilula ezikushiya unamandla ekupheleni kosuku olude lomsebenzi (isb, ukubukela i-TV. ).
Manje njengoba ungasadingi ukusebenza, yisikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi ukujabulela kanjani ukuchitha isikhathi sakho sokungcebeleka. Yini ekujabulisayo, yini obulokhu ufuna ukuyenza? Bheka imisebenzi ezokhiqiza futhi ikunikeze injabulo noma umuzwa wenjongo. Zilungiselele ukuzimangaza, uzitholele kabusha. Lesi isipho sakho nobabili kanye nozakwenu, okungenzeka agqugquzelwe umsebenzi wenu omusha - kangangokuthi usefisa nokubamba iqhaza kuso.
6. Yibani nelukuluku futhi nisekelane
Endodeni nenkosikazi asebehlale ndawonye isikhathi eside, kulula ukucabanga ukuthi sebefundene kahle. Ngeshwa, lokhu kuholela ekulahlekelweni yilukuluku nokuvuleleka, okugcina kukuminyanisa nobabili nomshado wakho. Kuyacika futhi kuyakhathaza ukuhlale ubikezela ukuziphatha komlingani wakho bese ucabanga ukuthi ngeke ashintshe. Lesi simo sengqondo singase sibe nemiphumela engemihle, njengoba izinguquko zethu ngokuvamile azinakwa futhi zithathwa kancane.
Nikezani omunye nomunye isikhala esengeziwe sokuphumula. Khumbula ukuthi uchithe amahora amaningi okuphila kwakho ngokuhlukana ngenkathi usebenza, ngakho-ke cishe kunezinto eziningi empilweni yomlingani ongazazi ngazo. Ake sithi owakwakho uyaqhubeka nokushintsha, hlakulela ilukuluku lokuthi kwenzekani kuye nokuthi kwenzekani kuye. Funa izindlela zokusekelana nokukhuthazana ukuze wenze iminyaka yakho yokuthatha umhlalaphansi ibe mnandi kakhulu kini nobabili.
Mayelana Nombhali: U-Katherine King uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisemtholampilo kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye noSolwazi Ohlangene Wesayensi Yengqondo e-William James College, efundisa i-gerontology, intuthuko yentuthuko, kanye nezimiso zokuziphatha.