Ukubonga kungaletha izinzuzo ezilinganiselwe futhi kubangele injabulo. Ngakho, kubalulekile ukubonga ekuphileni. 

Ukubonga kungachazwa njengomzwelo omuhle phakathi kwabantu (McCullough, Kilpatrick, Emmons & Larson, 2001), ohlangabezana nezimo lapho umuntu ezibona njengomamukeli wenzuzo ehlinzekwa ngomunye ngenhloso (usizo noma isipho). .

Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukubonga kwandisa injabulo, kodwa futhi kunezinzuzo zomzimba. Ngakho, ukubonga bekuyothuthukisa isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela ezifweni. Ukuzwa amandla okubonga imizuzu eyi-15-20 ngosuku ngezinsuku ezi-4 kuye kwaboniswa ukuthumela isignali kuzakhi zofuzo kumaseli omzimba ukuze ziqale ukukhiqiza iphrotheni ebizwa ngokuthi "i-immunoglobulin A". Ukubonga kusiza futhi ukwehlisa i-hormone yokucindezeleka i-cortisol. Kungandisa futhi inhlalakahle nempilo yengqondo ngoba ivumela ukukhululwa kwama-neurotransmitters. 

Ukubonga kukholakala ukuthi kusiza ukunciphisa izici zokuvuvukala ezihilelekile ezifweni ezingapheli. Kungathuthukisa futhi impilo yenhliziyo. 

Sekukonke, ukuhlakulela isimo sengqondo sokubonga kuhlotshaniswa nokulinganisela okungcono kwama-hormone, umsebenzi ongcono wokuzivikela komzimba, amandla angcono okuphumula. 

Abanye abantu banesici sobuntu esigxile ekubongeni: bavame ukuzwa ukubonga ngenani elikhulu labantu, ngenani elikhulu lezinto kanye nomfutho omkhulu. 

Abanye bangaqeqeshelwa ukubonga!

Ukubonisa ukubonga kuwukwamukela ukusizwa kanye nokujabula ukuthola lokhu kusekelwa. Kulokhu, kubalulekile ukuqaphela inzuzo etholiwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iphathekayo noma engaphatheki kanye nezindleko zayo (umzamo odingekayo) bese siqaphela ukuthi umthombo wale nzuzo ungaphandle komuntu siqu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi omunye umuntu noma ukuphila. 

Ungakha futhi uqinisekise umuzwa wakho wokubonga ngokuthatha imikhuba, njengokugcina ijenali yokubonga lapho sibhala phansi bonke abantu nezinto esizibongayo. ngemva kokuvuka noma ngaphambi nje kokulala, bhala izinto ezi-3 ezinhle ngosuku lwakho lwayizolo (uma uzivocavoca ekuseni) noma namuhla (uma ubhala kusihlwa). Kungaba izinto ezincane: ukumamatheka kwengane, isikhashana sokuzola emini ...

Ungakwazi futhi ukugcina uhlu lwezinto esizibonga ngokukhethekile noma ube nembiza yokubonga lapho ushutheka khona amaphepha obhale kuwo izinto ezikujabulisayo. 

KuRobert Emmons, umcwaningi wezengqondo eNyuvesi yaseCalifornia, labo abahlale benza uhlu lwezizathu zokujabula “bazizwe bengcono ngabo, bakhuthele futhi banikeza ukumelana okungcono nokucindezeleka”.