Igama ukubanda igama elisho, ngolimi olujwayelekile, ukungabibikho noma ukuncipha kwenjabulo ngesikhathi socansi noma ngezinye izikhathi ukunganeliseki ngokocansi.

Kulesi simo, i-frigidity ingahambisana nalokhu:

• akukho orgasm, noma anorgasmia
• ukuntula isifiso socansi (sikhuluma ngakho hypoactive isifiso socansi), i-anaphrodisia noma ukuncipha kwe-libido.

Kukhona "amadigri" amaningana kanye nokubonakaliswa okuhlukahlukene kwe-frigidity, kusukela ekungabibikho okuphelele kwemizwa ngesikhathi socansi, kuya ekuphikisaneni okusobala phakathi kokuqina kwesifiso kanye nobumpofu bemizwa yomzimba, kuhlanganise nokuzijabulisa. "Okuvamile" kodwa akuholeli ku-orgasm¹.

Igama ukubanda ngokwesiko isetshenziswa ukuchaza ukuphazamiseka kwabesifazane, nakuba ukungabikho kwenjabulo yocansi noma isifiso kungasebenza nakwabesilisa. Ayisasetshenziswa odokotela, ngenxa yegama layo eliphikisayo kanye nokuntuleka kwencazelo enembile.

Ngakho-ke leli shidi lizosebenza kakhulu ku-anorgasmia kwabesifazane, ukuntuleka kwesifiso bephathwa ishidi low libido.

I-Anorgasmia nayo ikhona emadodeni, kodwa ayivamile².

Okokuqala singahlukanisa:

• anorgasmia okuyisisekelo : lo wesifazane akakaze abe ne-orgasm.
• anorgasmia secondary noma ezuziwe: owesifazane usevele waba nama-orgasms, kodwa akasekho.

Singabuye sihlukanise :

• Ingqikithi ye-anorgasmia: Owesifazane akalokothi abe nayo i-orgasm ngokushaya indlwabu, noma abe nobudlelwane, futhi ayikho i-orgasm ebangelwa ukukhuthazwa i-clitoral noma isitho sangasese sowesifazane.
• i-anorgasmia lapho owesifazane engakwazi ukufeza i-orgasm ngokwakhe, kodwa hhayi phambi komlingani wakhe.
• i-coital anorgasmia: owesifazane akanawo i-orgasm ngesikhathi sokuhamba komthondo emuva naphambili esithweni sangasese, kodwa angathola i-orgasm ngokuvuselela i-clitoral yedwa noma nomlingani wakhe.

Okokugcina, i-anorgasmia ingaba ehlelekile noma yenzeke kuphela ezimweni ezithile: sikhuluma nge-anorgasmia yesimo.

Ubani othintekayo?

I-clitoral orgasm yaziwa ngabesifazane abangaphezu kuka-90%, ngisho noma ingekho ehlelekile ekuqaleni kwempilo yabo yocansi futhi idinga isikhathi sokutholwa kwabesifazane abangazange benze indlwabu ngaphambi kobudlelwane babo bokuqala. ucansi.

I-orgasm ye-vaginal ayivamile, njengoba cishe ingxenye yesithathu yabesifazane ihlangabezana nayo. Ibangelwa wukunyakaza kuphela komthondo. Enye ingxenye yesithathu yabesifazane bathola lokho okubizwa ngokuthi yi-vaginal orgasm kuphela uma i-clitoris yabo ishukunyiswa ngesikhathi esifanayo. Futhi ingxenye yesithathu yabesifazane ayikaze ibe ne-orgasm yesitho sangasese sowesifazane.

Ngamanye amazwi, isitho se-orgasm yowesifazane yi-clitoris, kakhulu kakhulu kunesitho sangasese sowesifazane.

Siyazi ukuthi ngokwesilinganiso, abesifazane baba ne-orgasm kanye kabili ngesikhathi socansi bazi ukuthi abanye "i-polyorgasmic" (cishe i-10% yabesifazane) futhi bangakwazi ukubopha ama-orgasm amaningana, kuyilapho abanye bengavamile kakhulu. , ngaphandle kokuzizwa ekhungathekile. Ngempela, injabulo ayifani ne-orgasm.

Ukuphazamiseka kwe-orgasm kungathinta ingxenye yesine yabesifazane⁴, kodwa kunezifundo ezimbalwa ezinkulu ze-epidemiological ezibhala lesi simo.

Olunye lwazo, ucwaningo lwe-PRESIDE, olwenziwa yi-questionnaire e-United States nabesifazane abangaphezu kuka-30, lulinganisela ukusabalala kwe-orgasm disorders cishe ku-000%.⁵.

I-anorgasmia yesibili ingaba njalo kakhulu kune-anorgasmia eyinhloko, ethinta i-5 kuya ku-10% yabesifazane.⁶.

Ngokuvamile, ukuphazamiseka kwezocansi kuthinta cishe u-40% wabesifazane. Kuhlanganisa ukungagcobi kahle kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane, ukungakhululeki nobuhlungu ngesikhathi socansi, ukuncipha kwesifiso kanye nobunzima bokufinyelela i-orgasm.⁷.

Izimbangela

Izinqubo zomzimba nezengqondo ezibangela i-orgasm ziyinkimbinkimbi futhi kusekude ukuba ziqondwe ngokugcwele.

Ngakho-ke izimbangela ze-anorgasmia nazo ziyinkimbinkimbi. Ukukwazi komuntu wesifazane ukufinyelela ku-orgasm kuncike ikakhulukazi eminyakeni yakhe, izinga lakhe lemfundo, inkolo yakhe, ubuntu bakhe nesimo sobudlelwane bakhe.⁸.

Ekuqaleni kwempilo yocansi, kujwayelekile ukuthi ungafinyeleli i-orgasm, ukusebenza kocansi okudinga isikhathi sokufunda nokuzivumelanisa nezimo kwesinye isikhathi eside uma kuqhathaniswa.

Kungase kungene izici ezimbalwa futhi ziguqule leli khono, ikakhulukazi⁹ :

• Ulwazi owesifazane analo ngomzimba wakhe,
• Ulwazi lozakwethu kwezocansi namakhono,
• Umlando wokuhlukumezeka ngokocansi (ukudlwengula, ukulala nezihlobo, njll.)
• Izinkinga zokucindezeleka noma zokukhathazeka
• Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala
• Ukuthatha imithi ethile (kuhlanganise nama-antidepressants noma ama-antipsychotics angabambezela i-orgasm)
• Izinkolelo zamasiko noma zenkolo ezizungeze ucansi (icala, "ukungcola", njll.).
• Ubunzima bobudlelwano
• Isifo esiyisisekelo (ukulimala komgogodla, i-multiple sclerosis, njll.)
• Izinkathi ezithile zokuphila, ezihambisana nokushintshashintsha kwamahomoni, ikakhulukazi ukukhulelwa nokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini.

Kodwa-ke, ukukhulelwa, ikakhulukazi ku-trimester yesibili, kungase futhi kube kuhle kakhulu ebuhlotsheni bobulili besifazane futhi ikakhulukazi ku-orgasm. Lesi sikhathi ngezinye izikhathi sibizwa ngokuthi "i-honeymoon yokukhulelwa" futhi kuyaziwa ukuthi abanye besifazane baba ne-orgasm yabo yokuqala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, ngokuvamile ku-trimester yesibili.

Inkambo kanye nezinkinga ezingenzeka

I-Anorgasmia ayisona isifo ngokwaso. Kuwukuphazamiseka kokusebenza okuba yinkinga kuphela uma kuwumthombo wokuphoxeka, ukungakhululeki noma ukucindezeleka kumuntu okhala ngakho noma kumlingani wakhe.

Abesifazane abakhononda nge-anorgasmia bangaba nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngakho, ikakhulukazi njengoba izixazululo zikhona.