Ngokombono we-etymological, ukuthethelelwa livela kwisiLatini ukuthethelela futhi ichaza isenzo" nika ngokuphelele ".

Ngale kwesici se-etymological, ukuthethelela kuhlala kunzima ukukuchaza.

Okwa-Aubriot, ukuthethelelwa qiniswa " ngomusa, okuncikene kodwa okuphelele, esikhundleni somphumela (isijeziso) esithathwa njengejwayelekile futhi sisemthethweni iphutha eliqashelwa ngokucacile noma icala ".

Kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRobin Casarjian, ukuthethelela ” isimo sengqondo sokuzibophezela ekukhethweni kwemibono yethu, isinqumo sokubona ngale kobuntu bomoni, inqubo yokuguqulwa kwemibono yethu […] »

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uJean Monbourquette ukhetha chaza ukuthethelela ngalokho okungeyikho : khohlwa, phika, uyaliwe, izaba, ukubonakaliswa kokuziphatha okuhle, ukubuyisana.

I-Contemporary Psychology iya ngokuya ibona izindinganiso zokwelapha zokuthethelela, noma ngabe lokhu kusesencane impela: ngo-2005, udokotela wengqondo waseFrance uChristophe André wavuma ukuthi “ konke lokhu kuwukuvula indlela, kodwa ukuxolela manje sekunendawo yakho kupsychology. Kodokotela bengqondo abangamaFulentshi abayizinkulungwane eziyishumi, mhlawumbe sisengaba yikhulu ukubhekisela kulokhu kwamanje kokwelashwa kwengqondo kwesintu okwavela eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule e-United States. ".

Icala, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inhlamba, ukushaya, ukudlwengula, ukukhashelwa noma ukungabi nabulungisa kuthinta umuntu ocasuliwe esimweni sakhe sengqondo futhi kubangele inxeba elijulile elingokomzwelo eliholela emizweni engemihle (intukuthelo, ukudabuka, ukucasuka, isifiso sokuziphindiselela, ukucindezeleka. , ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba, ukungakwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo noma ukudala, ukungathembani, ukuba necala, ukuphelelwa ithemba) okubangela impilo engokwengqondo ebuthaka kanye nomzimba.

Dance Phila kuzo zonke izinkinga, UDkt. Carl Simonton ubonisa ubuhlobo obuyimbangela obuxhumanisa imizwa engemihle genesis of cancers.

Udokotela wezengqondo wakwa-Israel uMorton Kaufman uthole ukuthi ukuthethelela kuholela ukuvuthwa okukhulu ngokomzwelo kuyilapho udokotela wengqondo waseMelika uRichard Fitzgibbons etholakala lapho ukwesaba okunciphile kanye nodokotela wengqondo waseCanada uR. Hunter a yehla ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, intukuthelo enkulu ngisho ne-paranoia.

Ekugcineni, isazi sezenkolo uSmedes sikholelwa ukuthi ukukhululwa kwentukuthelo ngokuvamile akuphelele futhi / noma kungathatha izinyanga noma iminyaka ukuze kwenzeke. Ukuthi nje “ngiyakuxolela” akwanele, nakuba kungaba isinyathelo esibalulekile sokuqalisa, ekuqaliseni ukuthethelela ngokweqiniso.

U-Luskin uchaze uhlaka lwenqubo yokwelapha yokuthethelela:

• intethelelo ilandela inqubo efanayo kungakhathaliseki ukoniwa okuthintekayo;
• ukuthethelela kuthinta impilo yamanje hhayi okwedlule komuntu;
• ukuthethelela kuwumkhuba oqhubekayo ofanele kuzo zonke izimo.

Kubabhali u-Enright noFreedman, isigaba sokuqala senqubo singokwengqondo ngokwemvelo: umuntu unquma ukuthi ufuna ukuthethelela ngesizathu esisodwa noma esinye. Ngokwesibonelo, angase akholelwe ukuthi kuyoba kuhle empilweni yakhe noma emshadweni wakhe.

Phakathi nalesi sigaba, ngokuvamile akanalo uzwelo kumoni. Khona-ke, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile somsebenzi wokuqonda, umuntu ungena esigabeni somzwelo lapho kancane kancane eba khona a uzwela kulowo owonile ngokuhlola izimo zempilo okungenzeka ukuthi ziholele ekubeni enze ukungabi nabulungisa akuthola. Ukuthethelela kwakuyoqala ngempela kuleso sigaba lapho uzwela, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nozwela, lubonakala luthatha indawo yokucasuka nenzondo.

Esigabeni sokugcina, awukho umzwelo omubi ophinde uvele lapho kukhulunywa noma kukhunjulwa isimo esonayo.

Ngo-1985, iqembu lezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo elixhumene neNyuvesi yaseWisconsin laqala ukucabangela indawo yokuthethelela ebhizinisini le-psychotherapeutic. Inikeza imodeli yokungenelela ehlukaniswe izigaba ze-4 futhi isetshenziswe ngempumelelo yizazi zokusebenza kwengqondo eziningi.

Isigaba 1 - Thola kabusha intukuthelo yakho

Ugweme kanjani ukubhekana nentukuthelo yakho?

Ingabe ubhekane nentukuthelo yakho?

Ingabe uyesaba ukuveza amahloni noma icala lakho?

Ingabe ukucasuka kwakho kube nomthelela empilweni yakho?

Ingabe uke wakhathazeka ngokulimala noma umenzi wobubi?

Ingabe uyasiqhathanisa isimo sakho nesomoni?

Ingabe ukulimala kubangele ushintsho lwaphakade empilweni yakho?

Ingabe ukulimala kushintshile umbono wakho ngezwe?

Isigaba 2 - Nquma ukuthethelela

Nquma ukuthi okwenzile akusebenzanga.

Zilungiselele ukuqala inqubo yokuthethelela.

Nquma ukuthethelela.

Isigaba 3 - Sebenzela ukuthethelela.

Sebenza ekuqondeni.

Sebenza ngobubele.

Yamukela ukuhlupheka.

Nikeza owonile isipho.

Isigaba 4 - Ukutholwa kanye nokukhululwa ejele lemizwa

Thola incazelo yokuhlupheka.

Thola isidingo sakho sokuthethelelwa.

Thola ukuthi awuwedwa.

Thola injongo yempilo yakho.

Thola inkululeko yokuthethelela.

« Inzondo ivukela izinhlobo ze-chic, ayizithakazelisi izingqondo ze-chimerical ezinothando kuphela, amawele acatshangelwayo, ingane eyonakele yomphakathi. […] Inzondo ([…] la mandla ashukumisayo, anikezwe amandla ahlanganisayo futhi anika amandla) asebenza njengekhambi lokwesaba, okusenza singabi namandla. Inikeza isibindi, isungule okungenakwenzeka, imbe imigudu ngaphansi kocingo oluhlabayo. Ukube ababuthakathaka bebengazondi, amandla abeyohlala enamandla kuze kube phakade. Futhi imibuso yayiyoba phakade » debray 2003

« Ukuthethelela kusivumela ukuthi siqale ukwamukela ngisho nokuthanda labo abasizwise ubuhlungu. Lesi isinyathelo sokugcina senkululeko yangaphakathi » UJean Vanier

« Njengabanye bafundisa abafundi babo ukudlala upiyano noma ukukhuluma isiShayina. Kancane kancane, sibona abantu besebenza kangcono, bekhululeka kakhulu, kodwa akuvamile ukusebenza ngokuchofoza. Ngokuvamile ukuthethelela kuthatha umphumela obambezelekile… siphinde sibabone ezinyangeni eziyisithupha, ngemva konyaka, futhi sebeshintshe kakhulu… isimo siba ngcono… kuba ngcono kumaphuzu okuzethemba. » De Sairigné, 2006.