Okuqukethwe
Khohlwa izincomo, isibhamu sokuqala sokungathembeki
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Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana, kanye nomuzwa wokuthi "kukhona okushodayo" ngezinye zezimbangela ezingaholela ekungathembekini
Kuyo yonke le minyaka, imibhangqwana izithola inezinkinga eziningi okufanele ibhekane nazo. Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, njengakho konke, ziyaphela, futhi ukugcina ubudlelwane namandla osuku lokuqala kudinga umzamo omkhulu nothando ezinhlangothini zombili. Kepha, akubona bonke ubudlelwano obunokuqina okunjalo, futhi abaningi bayakhubeka emigodini ebekwa yimpilo phambi kwabo. Ukungathembeki, isihloko okukhulunywa ngaso buthule kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuheha ukunakwa okuningi, ngesinye sezithiyo ezinkulu umlingani angazithola, futhi izikhathi eziningi kuba nzima ukunqoba.
Uma sikhuluma ngokuthi yiziphi “izinyathelo” zokuqala ezisebenza njengezinkomba zokubona ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukungathembeki kwabashadikazi, abekho kanjalo, kepha sibhekene izindlela zokuziphatha ezingashukumisa ukuwohloka nobudlelwano nokuthi zigcina ziholele ekungathembekini.
Ukubaluleka kokuxhumana
«Lapho izisekelo zobudlelwano ziguqulwa, kulapho elinye lamaqembu ezithandani lingathembeki. Kungenzeka ngoba ukungabi nokuxhumana, ngenxa yezinkinga ezithinta ezocansi, ngoba babona sengathi uthando luyashoda… kepha umbhangqwana ngamunye wehlukile ”, kuchaza uLaia Cadens, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo nesiyingcweti kwezengqondo. Ngokunjalo, uphawula ukuthi singathola ezinye izinto ezibhebhethekisayo, njengemithwalo yemindeni noma izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bezenhlalo. «Okubangela ukungathembeki ukuthi kwenzeke yinto ethinta izinto eziningi, ukufingqwa kokuhlukahluka okuhlukahlukene, yize kujwayelekile izinkinga zilele endaweni yezocansi futhi kuthinta, ”kusho uchwepheshe.
Ucwaningo olwenziwe uhlelo lokuqomisana ngaphandle komshado uGleeden lukhombisa ukuthi ama-77% abesifazane abangathembekile akhombisa ukuthi ukuntuleka kwezincomo namagama amnandi avela kozakwethu yisona sizathu sokungathembeki kwabo. U-Laia Cadens uyachaza ukuthi umphumela oyimbangela usungulwa, ngoba, lapho owesifazane ezwa ukuthi umlingani wakhe akamazisi, akasho izinto ezinhle, akamniki ukuncoma, ukuzethemba, ukuzigqaja nokuzicabangela kuthintekile. «Akukhona ukuthi umlingani wakho kufanele akhe ukuzethemba kwakho, kepha uma kufanele ukuqinise, futhi uma kungenzeki, abantu abaningi bafuna lokho kuqinisekisa kwabanye, ukuze bakwazi ukugcwalisa amaphutha abazwayo, kusho uLaia Cadens, ogcizelela umbono wokuthi akufanele silindele ukuthi umlingani wethu abe yisikhungo sokuzethemba kwethu Kodwa-ke kufanele sikuqinise: ukuze ngazi ukungathembeki.
Kungani singathembeki?
Yize ekuqaleni ecacisa ukuthi asikwazi ukuhlanganisa, ngoba, kungakhathalekile ubulili bomuntu, izizathu zokungathembeki zingafana, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sichaza ukuthi amadoda amaningi, ngaphezu kokuswela ukuncoma, agcina ngokungathembeki njenge indlela yokuphunyuka kusuka kumuntu oyedwa bobudlelwano. “Empeleni sicabanga ukuthi kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani abantu bengathembeki kumlingani wabo, kodwa bonke bahlala entweni efanayo: ubudlelwano bami abunginiki engikudingayo, futhi ngizokufuna ngaphandle,” kusho uLaia Cadens , okhomba lokho futhi, hhayi wonke umuntu ofuna into efanayo ngokungathembeki: abakwazi ukuhlanganyela nabalingani babo ».
Ukungathembeki, ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, kuyindlela yokuzama ukulungisa izinkinga ezenzeka kubantu abashadile. Ngakho-ke, kungakhethwa njenge- ikhambi ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokuhlukana. “Kumele sikubone ngokukhethekile kombhangqwana ngamunye, kepha ngokujwayelekile, umuntu osemshadweni, noma umlingani ozinzile, futhi ozizwa sengathi ulahlekile, akafuni ukulahlekelwa yikho konke okunye, ngakho-ke ugcina ngokungathembeki , ”Kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo bese uphetha ngokuthi:« Kunabantu okuthi uma bebona ukuthi izinto azisebenzi baqonde phambili babhekane nenkinga, kodwa akubona bonke abakwaziyo; Ebudlelwaneni obuzinzile, noma ngabe yisiphi isinqumo esithathiwe, kuzofaka ukulahleka.