I-feminism ayizuzi abesifazane kuphela kodwa namadoda. Inyunyana lapho owesilisa nowesifazane behloniphana futhi benamalungelo alinganayo iyoba namandla futhi ihlale isikhathi eside. Senze uhlu lwezizathu zokuthi kungani ubufazi buqinisa ubudlelwano.
1. Ubudlelwano bakho busekelwe ekulinganeni. Nisizana ukufeza imigomo futhi nikhulise amandla. Ndawonye ninamandla kunokwedwa.
2. Awuboshiwe yimibono yobulili ephelelwe yisikhathi. Indoda ingahlala ekhaya nezingane kuyilapho owesifazane eziphilisa. Uma lokhu kuyisifiso sobabili - yenza.
3. Uzakwethu akaxoxi ngawe nabangani futhi akalungisiswa yiqiniso lokuthi "bonke abantu benza lokhu." Ubudlelwano bakho bungaphezu kwalokho.
4. Lapho udinga ukuhlanza ifulethi noma ukugeza izinto, awuhlukanisi imisebenzi ngobulili, kodwa usabalalisa imisebenzi ngokuya ngokuthandwa komuntu siqu kanye nomsebenzi emsebenzini.
Ibhonasi enhle yokwabelana ngemisebenzi ngokulingana impilo yocansi ethuthukisiwe. Abacwaningi baseNyuvesi yase-Alberta bathole ukuthi imibhangqwana lapho amadoda enza khona eminye yemisebenzi yasekhaya yenza ucansi oluningi futhi yaneliseke kakhulu uma iqhathaniswa nezinyunyana lapho zonke izibopho ziwela kowesifazane.
5. Esinye isizathu sokwaneliseka okuphezulu kocansi emibhangqwaneni elinganayo ukuthi amadoda ayabona ukuthi injabulo yowesifazane ayibalulekile kangako kunokwabo.
6. Indoda ayikuhluleli ngenxa yesikhathi sakho esidlule socansi. Inani labalingane bangaphambili alinandaba.
7. Umlingani uyakuqonda ukubaluleka kokuhlela umndeni. Awudingi ukuchaza noma ukukufakazela.
8. Akazami ukukufundisa ngempilo. Ukuphazamisa, ukuphakamisa izwi, ukubheka phansi akuzona izindlela zakhe.
9. Niyazi nobabili ukuthi indawo yowesifazane yilapho enquma khona. Uma nobabili nifuna ukusebenza, kusho ukuthi umndeni uzoba nemali eyengeziwe.
10. Umlingani wakho uyaqiniseka ukuthi emhlabeni lapho abesifazane benikezwe amandla, kuzoba ngcono kuwo wonke umuntu. Isazi sabesifazane esaziwayo uPrince Henry wake wathi: “Lapho abesifazane benegunya, baqhubeka bethuthukisa ukuphila kwawo wonke umuntu obazungezile—imindeni, imiphakathi, amazwe.”
11. Umlingani uyawuthanda umzimba wakho, kodwa uyavuma: nguwe kuphela onquma ukuthi wenzeni ngawo. Indoda ayikufaki ingcindezi emkhakheni wezocansi nokuzala.
12. Ungaba umngane kalula nabobulili obuhlukile. Uzakwethu uyalibona ilungelo lakho lokuxhumana namanye amadoda nabesifazane.
13. Owesifazane angacela umshado ngokwakhe.
14. Umshado wakho ungaba wendabuko noma ongajwayelekile - unquma.
15. Uma umngane wendoda yakho eqala ukwenza amahlaya amabi wabesifazane, umlingani wakho uzombeka endaweni yakhe.
16. Indoda ithatha izikhalo zakho futhi ikhathazeke ngokungathi sína. Akababukeli phansi ngoba ungumuntu wesifazane. Kuye ngeke uzwe inkulumo ethi: "Kubukeka sengathi othile une-PMS."
17. Ubudlelwano anibuboni njengomsebenzi okumele niwenze, anizami ukulungisana. Akudingekile ukuba amadoda abe amaqhawe ezikhali ezicwebezelayo, futhi abesifazane akudingeki bazame ukwelapha izinkinga zamadoda ngothando. Wonke umuntu uzibophezela ngezindaba zakhe. Nisothandweni njengabantu ababili abazimele.
18. Uma ushada, uyanquma ukuthi uthathe isibongo somlingani wakho, ugcine esakho, noma ukhethe esikabili.
19. Uzakwethu akaphazamisi umsebenzi wakho, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, uyaziqhenya ngezimpumelelo zakho zomsebenzi. Uyakusekela endleleni eya ekugcwalisekeni kwezifiso, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa, umndeni.
20. Imisho efana nokuthi "yiba yindoda" noma "ungabi i-rag" iphumile ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ubufazi nabo buvikela amadoda. Umlingani wakho angaba nemizwelo futhi abe sengozini njengoba efuna. Lokho akumenzi abe nesibindi.
21. Umlingani uyakwazisa kuwe hhayi kuphela ubuhle, kodwa futhi ukuhlakanipha.
22. Uma unezingane, wena nomlingani wakho nixoxa nazo ngocansi.
23. Ukhetha ukuthi ubani kini ozothatha ilivu yomzali ekhokhelwayo.
24. Ngesibonelo sakho siqu, ubonisa izingane zakho imodeli yobudlelwane obusekelwe ekulinganeni.
25. Ngisho noma ninquma ukudivosa, kusobala kinina ukuthi bobabili abazali kudingeka bahileleke ekuphileni kwezingane.
26. Wena ngokwakho ubeka imithetho yomshado futhi unqume isimo sengqondo mayelana ne-monogamy.
27. Umlingani wakho uyaqonda ukuthi kungani usekela inhlangano yamalungelo abesifazane.
Hlaziya ubudlelwano bakho: bayihlonipha kanjani imigomo yokulingana? Uma umlingani wakho ehlanganyela izimiso zobulili besifazane, ngeke kudingeke ulwele amalungelo akho phakathi komndeni.
Mayelana nombhali: UBrittany Wong uyintatheli.