Izindaba ezixoxwa ezinganekwaneni zingafundisa okuningi. Kodwa kulokhu udinga ukuqonda ukuthi hlobo luni lwemiyalezo abayiphethe. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Ilene Cohen wabelana ngemicabango yakhe ngalokho opopayi be-Walt Disney abakufundisa kokubili izingane kanye nabantu abadala.
"Inganekwane ingamanga, kodwa kukhona ukusikisela kuyo, isifundo kubantu abalungile," kubhala uPushkin. Namuhla, izingane zikhulela ezinganekwaneni ezivela emasikweni ahlukene. Yini efakwe emiqondweni yabantu abancane ngendaba entsha - nendala -? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Ilene Cohen uye wabheka kabusha imilayezo abalingisi be-Disney abayidlulisela ezinganeni nakubantu abadala. Wagqugquzelwa ukuba acabange ngokuvakashela ipaki lokuzijabulisa laseDisneyland nendodakazi yakhe encane - eminyakeni eminingi ngemva kokuba u-Ilene ngokwakhe elapho okokugcina.
“Mina nendodakazi yami sesibuke opopayi abaningi bakwaDisney. Bengifuna ukumethula ngabalingiswa engangizithanda mina. Ezinye izinganekwane zangikhuthaza ngiseyingane, ezinye ngaqala ukuziqonda lapho ngimdala,” kusho uCohen.
E-Disneyland, u-Ilene nendodakazi yakhe babone uMickey noMinnie bedansa bezungeza isiteji futhi becula ngokuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuhlala uwena.
“Ngazibuza ukuthi kungani kusukela ebuntwaneni ngizama kanzima ukushintsha futhi ngingaboni ukuthi abalingiswa bami beDisney engibathandayo babefundiswa okuhluke ngokuphelele. Bengingaqondi ukuthi kufanele uziqhenye ngokuthi ungubani, ”kuvuma udokotela wengqondo.
Izindaba ze-Disney zikhuluma ngesidingo sokulandela iphupho lakho, ukuzuza impumelelo futhi uzilalele usendleleni eya enjongweni. Khona-ke ukuphila kwethu kuyoba ngendlela esiyifunayo. Lokhu akusizi kuphela izingane, kodwa nakubantu abadala.
Nokho, lapho indodakazi u-Ilene ibheka izithixo zayo ngelukuluku, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sacabanga ukuthi—ingabe abalingiswa bopopayi ababathandayo bakhohlisa izingane? Noma ingabe izindaba zabo zifundisa okuthile okubalulekile ngempela? Ekugcineni, u-Ilene waqaphela ukuthi izinganekwane ze-Disney zazikhuluma ngezinto ezifanayo abhala ngazo ezihlokweni zakhe nakubhulogi.
1. Ungazisoli ngokwedlule. Sivame ukuzisola ngesikushilo nesikwenzile, sizizwe sinecala, siphuphe ngokubuyela emuva silungise amaphutha. Encwadini ethi The Lion King, uSimba wayephila kudala. Wayesaba ukubuyela ekhaya. Wayekholelwa ukuthi umndeni wawuzomlahla ngalokho okwenzeka kuyise. USimba wavumela ukwesaba nokuzisola ukuba kulawule ukuphila kwakhe, wazama ukubalekela izinkinga.
Kodwa ukuzisola nokucabanga ngesikhathi esedlule kulula kakhulu kunokwenza okwamanje. Kudinga isibindi ukuzemukela futhi ubhekane nezinto ezikusabisayo nezikukhathazayo. Thatha iziphetho bese uya phambili. Lena ukuphela kwendlela yokuthola injabulo.
2. Ungesabi ukuba nguwe. Kudingeka sibe yithi, ngisho nalapho wonke umuntu esizungezile esihleka. U-Ilene Cohen uthi: "Opopayi bakwaDisney bafundisa ukuthi ukuhluka akuyona into embi."
Izici yizo ezisenza sibe bahle. Kuphela ngokubathanda, uDumbo omncane wayengaba yilokho ayeyikho ngempela.
3. Ungalilahli izwi lakho. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kithi ukuthi ngokuzishintsha kuphela, sizokwenza abanye bajabule, kuphela labo esibathandayo bazokwazi ukusithanda. Ngakho-ke u-Ariel ku-Little Mermaid wayeka izwi lakhe elihle ukuze athole imilenze ngokubuyisela futhi abe no-Prince Eric. Kodwa izwi lakhe yilona kanye ayelithanda kakhulu. Ngaphandle kwezwi, u-Ariel walahlekelwa ikhono lokuziveza, wayeka ukuba yedwa, futhi kuphela ngokuthola amandla akhe okucula ekugcineni wakwazi ukufeza iphupho lakhe.
4. Ungesabi ukuveza umbono wakho. Abaningi bayesaba ukusho abakucabangayo, besaba ukuthi bazokwahlulelwa. Ikakhulukazi ngokuvamile abesifazane baziphatha ngale ndlela. Phela, isizotha nokuzithiba kulindeleke kubo. Abanye abalingiswa be-Disney, abafana no-Jasmine (Aladdin), u-Anna (Oqandisiwe) kanye noMerida (Onesibindi), abaphikisa imibono ecatshangwayo, balwela lokho abakholelwa kukho, bakhuluma izingqondo zabo ngaphandle kokwesaba.
UMerida akavumeli muntu ukuthi amshintshe. Intando eqinile nokuzimisela kuyamsiza ukuthi afinyelele lokho akufunayo futhi kuvikele lokho ayigugu kuye. U-Anna wenza konke ukuze abe seduze nodadewabo, aze athathe uhambo oluyingozi lokumthola. U-Jasmine uvikela ilungelo lakhe lokuzimela. Amakhosazana anenkani afakazela ukuthi awukwazi ukuphila ngemithetho yomunye umuntu.
5. Landela iphupho lakho. Opopayi abaningi be-Disney bakufundisa ukulwela umgomo naphezu kokwesaba. U-Rapunzel wayephupha ngokuya edolobheni lakubo futhi ebuka izibani ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, kodwa akakwazanga ukuwushiya umbhoshongo. Wayeqiniseka ukuthi kuyingozi ngaphandle, kodwa ekugcineni intombazane yathatha uhambo olubheke ephusheni layo.
6. Funda ukubekezela. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuze ufeze iphupho, udinga ukubekezela. Indlela eya emgomweni ayihlali iqondile futhi ilula. Kudingeka ukubekezela nokusebenza kanzima ukuze uthole okufunayo.
Izwe elimangalisayo lezinganekwane ze-Disney lisifundisa okuthile okungenakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuthi umuntu omdala. “Ukube ngangiyibuke ngokucophelela lemifanekiso yopopayi ngiseyingane, ngangingase ngikwazi ukuqonda okuningi kusenesikhathi futhi ngigweme amaphutha engangiwenza,” kuvuma uCohen.
Mayelana nombhali: U-Ilene Cohen uyi-psychotherapist kanye nomfundisi e-Barry University.