I-Exclusive mothering: omama ngokwemvelo

Ngokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka uzozala

Okuningi kwe " omama imvelo »Khetha, ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwabo, ukwesekwa okuphelele ngombelethisi oyedwa. Noma shayela a a doula, noma umuntu ohamba naye lapho ezalwa. Ewadini yababelethayo, benza uhlelo lokuzalwa, uhlobo “lwenkontileka” olungakahleleki nethimba lababelethisayo. Kulo mbhalo, bazwakalisa izifiso zabo zokuthi bangabekwa ukuthinta okuthile (ukufakwa, ukuqapha, i-epidural, ukushefa, njll.) kanye nokubeka phambili kwabanye (ukukhetha izikhundla, ukwamukela ingane yabo ngesineke, njll.). ). Abanye banikeza ukuphila ezindaweni ezinganakekelwa kangako ngokwelashwa ewodini yababeletha (amakamelo “emvelo”, izikhungo zezempilo, izikhungo zokuzalwa, njll.). Abanye babo babelethela emakhaya, besizwa ngumbelethisi wabo.

Ingane yakho emthonjeni isikhathi eside iyophuza

Alikho ibhodlela lefomula lezingane lomama! Ukuncelisa ibele kuyanconywa, kokubili ngezinzuzo zako empilweni yezingane kanye nokuqinisa isibopho esihlanganisa umama nengane. Kumama, ukuncelisa kungathatha isikhathi eside kakhulu: kuze kube ngemva kokungena enkulisa.

Embhedeni wakho, nawe, ingane yakho izolala

I-“co-sleeping” (“co-dodo” ngesiFulentshi), ihlanganisa ukuba abazali benze indawo, ngisho nombhede ovamile, nezingane zabo. Komama abanekhono ekukhuliseni, lokhu kuhlanganyela kombhede womndeni kuqala kuphumela ekunceliseni ibele. Khona-ke ingahlala izinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala noma ngisho neminyaka yokuqala yengane. Lokhu kusondelana kwasebusuku kwakuzomqinisekisa futhi kuqinise ubuhlobo bakhe obungokomzwelo nabazali bakhe. Kulabo ababhekana nenkinga yokuya ocansini kwabashadile, abazali omama baphendula ngokuthi uthando alwenzeki embhedeni kuphela!

Ingane yakho ngokumelene nawe, njalo uyoyithwala

Komama, unqola akusona i-panacea, noma umthwali wezingane wakudala. Njengalokho okwenziwa ezimpucukweni zendabuko, bagqokisa abantwana babo endwayimaneni (indwangu ende, eqinile futhi enwebekayo eboshelwe esiswini nasezinqulwini zabo) noma ezimpahleni ezithwala izingane. Lokhu kuthwala akwenziwa ngaphandle kuphela kodwa nasekhaya: ingane ilele, iphila futhi idla igodle nomama. Lokhu kuthintana isikhathi eside kuzothuthukisa ibhalansi ye-psycho-affective kanye ne-psychomotor yengane.

Izidingo zengane yakho, yonke indawo izolalela

Akekho umama ongavumela ingane yakhe ikhale ngaphandle kokuyigona, noma okungenani ahlale eduze ukuze ambonise ububele. I-watchword ezinyangeni zokuqala zengane yabo: yonke into efunwayo. Ukulala, ukudla, ukuphaphama: usuku ngalunye ludlula ngejubane elikhethekile lengane ... lokhu kubonga ngenxa yokuthwala, okuvumela ukuthi enze imisebenzi yakhe ngenkathi enelisa izidingo zomntwana (ongakwazi ikakhulukazi ukuncela isihlilingi!)

Ukukhulumisana ngenhlonipho, uzosungula nengane yakho

Umgomo oyisisekelo wokuba umama: umntwana, kusukela ekuzalweni, ungumuntu ogcwele, onelungelo lokuhlonishwa nokulalela njenganoma yimuphi omunye. Ukuze bakhulume kangcono nomntwana, omama besifazane ngezinye izikhathi baprakthiza ulimi lwezandla, ngokwendlela yase-United States. Lokhu kuze kuvumela abanye ukuba benze inhlanzeko yemvelo yezinsana (usana, olushiywe ngaphandle kwenabukeni, lubekwa ebhodweni lapho lubonisa isidingo).

Imfundo emnene yengane yakho uzoyijabulela

Omama omama nabo bangomama “abaqwashile”. Ngokumelene ngokuqinile nanoma yisiphi isijeziso sokushaywa, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kunoma yisiphi isijeziso, bathanda ukulalela ngentshiseko, noma ubuciko bokuzibeka endaweni efinyeleleka kubantwana babo ukuze bazisize ziveze ukukhungatheka kwazo futhi zizibonise ukuthi ziyaqondwa (kodwa ngaphandle kokuyekethisa). ).

Organic, elula futhi fair kuphela uzodla

Ukulima okujulile namakhemikhali ako, ukuhwebelana kwembulunga yonke kanye “nokwesabeka kwakho kwezomnotho”: izifundo eziningi omama bemvelo abazaziyo ngokukhethekileyo. Kokubili ukuze kulondolozwe iplanethi nezakhamuzi zayo futhi kuvikelwe impilo yomkhaya, bakhetha imikhiqizo yezinto eziphilayo kanye naleyo evela ekuhwebeni ngendlela efanele. Ukuze zilahlwe, zikhetha ukuthi ziwasheke, ikakhulukazi amanabukeni ezingane zawo. Abanye bakhethe ukuphendukela ekubeni lula ngokuzithandela, indlela yokuphila ehloselwe ukususa izinto ezingenasidingo emphakathini wabathengi, ngokukhetha amanethiwekhi obumbano endawo.

Ngomuthi we-allopathic uzoqapha

Abanye omama bemvelo babonisa ukungathembani okuthile (ngisho nokungathembani okuthile) emithini yokugoma nama-antibiotic. Nsuku zonke, ngangokunokwenzeka, bathanda imithi yemvelo noma ehlukile: i-homeopathy, i-naturopathy, i-osteopathy, i-etiopathy, imithi ye-herbal, i-aromatherapy (amafutha abalulekile) ...

Kusukela emfundweni yakudala uzogqama

Abanakekeli bezingane bavamise ukungabaza ukuphathisa uMnyango Wezemfundo Kazwelonke inyama yenyama yabo, abasolwa ngokuqeqesha abafundi nokuba yindawo yodlame nokuncintisana. Ngakho-ke esikoleni sendabuko, bakhetha ezinye izindlela zokufundisa, ezisihlonipha kangcono isigqi somntwana ngamunye (Montessori, Freinet, Steiner, New Schools, njll.). Abanye bahamba baze bayeke isikole ngokuphelele: bazoqeqeshelwa imfundo yomndeni.