Okuqukethwe
"Yonke imindeni engajabule ayijabule ngendlela yayo" - okuhlangenwe nakho kwabameli bezehlukaniso kuyasiphikisa lesi sisho esidumile. Bayavuma ukuthi amakhasimende amaningi agcina esemahhovisi ngenxa yezinkinga ezifanayo.
Abameli abangochwepheshe bamacala edivosi bayizibukeli ezihamba phambili embukwaneni wobudlelwano obunqamukile. Nsuku zonke, amakhasimende abatshela ngezinkinga eziholele ekwehlukaniseni. Uhlu lwezikhalazo eziyisishiyagalombili ezijwayelekile.
1. “Umyeni akavamile ukusiza ngezingane”
Kuyaye kuvele ukuthi omunye wabashadile akanelisekile ngokwabiwa kwemithwalo yemfanelo emndenini. Lolu daba lubucayi kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa nezingane. Kuthatha isikhathi esiningi nomzamo ukubayisa emakilabhini, ezindaweni zokungcebeleka, kanye nokuqokwa kodokotela. Uma omunye womshado enomuzwa wokuthi uzidonsela konke kuye, ukucasuka nokucasuka kuyakhula nakanjani. Uma umbhangqwana uze ehhovisi labameli, kusho ukuthi sebezame konke abangakwenza.
2. "Asixoxi ngezinkinga"
Imvamisa izinkinga zabashadile azikho kulokho abakushoyo, lokhu abakushoyo kuyingozi kakhulu. Kuvela inkinga, kodwa abalingani abafuni "ukunyakazisa isikebhe", bayathula, kodwa inkinga ayipheli. Umbhangqwana uyayicindezela inkinga, kodwa bese kuvela enye. Kunzima nakakhulu ukubhekana nakho, ngoba ukucasuka kuyaphila ngenxa yenkinga yangaphambili, engazange ixazululwe.
Bese bezama ukuthula bese becindezela inkinga yesibili. Bese kuvela owesithathu, ibhola liyaphithana nakakhulu. Ngesinye isikhathi, ukubekezela kuyaphela. Ukungqubuzana kuqubuka ngenxa yesizathu esithile esiwubuwula. Abashadile baqala ukuthuka ngenxa yazo zonke izikhalo ezingashiwongo kanye nezinkinga eziqoqiwe ngesikhathi esisodwa.
3. “Abukho ubulili nokusondelana phakathi kwethu”
Ukuncipha kokusondelana ngokomzwelo kanye nokwehla empilweni yocansi yizikhalazo ezidume kakhulu. Izinkinga zasekhaya zibuqeda ubuhlobo phakathi kwabashadile. Ukuntuleka kocansi kumane nje kuyiphuzu leqhwa, okuyingozi kakhulu ukuntuleka kokuxhumana nokusondelana. Imibhangqwana kufanele iqonde ukuthi umsebenzi wobudlelwano awupheli lapho bethi yebo e-altare. Ubudlelwano budinga kusetshenzwa nsuku zonke. Kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale uthintana nomngane wakho womshado nsuku zonke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngesikhathi sokudla ndawonye noma ukuhamba nenja.
Abathengi bakhala ngokuthi abashade nabo sebeyimilutha yezinkundla zokuxhumana. Kodwa lokhu kuwuphawu lwenkinga ngomlando wamakhulu eminyaka, sikhuluma ngokuvukela umbuso. Umyeni uthanda okuthunyelwe kowayethandana naye, lokhu kukhula kube izincwadi zocansi, bese bedlulela emihlanganweni yomuntu siqu. Kodwa umuntu othambekele ekungathembekeni uzothola indlela yokushintsha ngaphandle kwamanethiwekhi omphakathi. Eminye imibhangqwana iyakwazi ukubhekana nokungathembeki, kodwa iningi alikwenzi.
5. "Siphila njengomakhelwane"
Abathengi bavame ukuvuma ukuthi abashade nabo sebeyizihambi kubo. Akafani nakancane nalona abafunga naye ukuthi basosizini nasentokozweni. Umbhangqwana uba abantu abahlala ndawonye. Baxhumana kancane nomunye.
6. "Umyeni wami unobugovu"
Ubugovu buzibonakalisa ngezindlela eziningi: ukuncisha imali, ukungafuni ukulalela, ukuvaleka ngokomzwelo, ukungafuni ukuthwala imithwalo yemfanelo yasendlini neyokunakekela izingane, ukungazinaki izifiso nezidingo zomlingani.
7. “Sibonisa uthando ngezindlela ezahlukene”
Abantu ababili bayathandana kodwa abazizwa bethandwa. Komunye umngane womshado, ukubonakaliswa kothando kuwusizo oluzungeze indlu nezipho, komunye, amazwi amnandi, ukuthinta okumnene nokuzilibazisa okuhlangene. Ngenxa yalokho, omunye akazizwa ethandwa, futhi omunye akazizwa sengathi izenzo zakhe ziyaziswa.
Lokhu kungafani kuyabavimbela ekunqobeni ubunzima. Baqala ukulwa ngemali noma ubulili, kodwa abakuntula ngempela ukusondelana ngokomzimba noma ukuzijabulisa. Thola ukuthi yiluphi ulimi lothando olujwayelekile kuwena nakumlingani wakho, lokhu kungagwema ukuvakashela ummeli.
8. "Angibongwa"
Esigabeni sokuqomisana, abalingani balalela ngokucophelela futhi bajabulisane ngazo zonke izindlela. Kodwa lapho umshado usuvaliwe, abaningi bayayeka ukukhathazeka ngenjabulo yomngane wabo womshado. Amaklayenti ayavuma ukuthi ayengajabule iminyaka eminingi, ayelindele izinguquko, kodwa ukubekezela kwawo kwanqamuka.
Abantu abavamile ukuhlukanisa ngenxa yesenzakalo esisodwa, njengokuthandana kanye noma ukulwa okukhulu. Imibhangqwana itshala imali eningi emshadweni. Kunezizathu eziningi ezinhle zokunquma ngesehlukaniso. Uma umuntu enquma ukuwuqeda umshado, kusho ukuthi waqaphela ukuthi uyojabula noma angajabuli ngaphandle komngane wakhe.