Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi kudingeka sizithuthukise. Kodwa uma kukhona inguqulo engcono ngokwakho, khona-ke wonke umuntu mubi kakhulu? Futhi-ke yini okufanele siyenze ngathi namuhla - siwalahle, njengezingubo ezindala, futhi "silungile" ngokuphuthumayo?
Ngesandla esilula sabashicileli bencwadi kaDan Waldschmidt, ebizwa ngenguqulo yesiRashiya ethi "Yiba yinguqulo engcono kakhulu yakho", le fomula ingene ngokuqinile ekuqapheleni kwethu. Ekuqaleni, igama lihlukile: Izingxoxo ezi-edgy, lapho “unqenqema” kuwunqenqema, umkhawulo, futhi incwadi ngokwayo iyingxoxo (izingxoxo) nomfundi mayelana nendlela yokuphila emkhawulweni wamathuba futhi ubhekane nezinkolelo ezinomkhawulo. .
Kodwa isiqubulo sesivele sagxila olimini futhi siphila impilo yokuzimela, sisho ukuthi kufanele siziphathe kanjani. Phela, ukuphenduka okuzinzile akulona ingozi: amagama nezinkulumo esivame ukuzisebenzisa zithinta ukwazi, isithombe sangaphakathi semibono ngathi futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ubudlelwano bethu nathi kanye nabanye.
Kusobala ukuthi igama lesiRashiya elihehayo lasungulwa ukuze kwandiswe ukuthengisa, kodwa manje akusabalulekile: isibe isiqubulo esisikhuthaza ukuba siziphathe njengento.
Njengoba kunengqondo ukucabanga ukuthi ngolunye usuku, ngomzamo, ngizoba "inguqulo engcono kakhulu kimi", khona-ke ukuthi ngingubani okwamanje, kuhlanganise nokuphila kwami konke, "inguqulo" engaphili ngokungcono kakhulu. . Futhi zifanelweni izinguqulo ezingaphumelelanga? Ukugaywa kabusha nokulahlwa. Khona-ke kusele kuphela ukuqala ukususa "okungaphezu kwamandla" noma "okungaphelele" - kusuka emaphutheni ekubukeni, kusukela ezimpawu zobudala, kusukela ezinkolelweni, ekuthembekeni ezimpawu zomzimba nemizwa.
Kunombono we-pedagogical wokuthi udinga ukufuna okuningi enganeni futhi uyidumise kancane.
Kodwa nakuba kunjalo, abantu abaningi bayazilahla izindinganiso zabo. Futhi lapho benquma ukuthi kufanele bathuthele kuphi futhi bazuzeni, ababheki ngaphakathi, kodwa ngaphandle, ezimpawu zomhlaba zangaphandle. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bazibheka ngamehlo abantu abagxekayo nabanegunya kusukela ebuntwaneni.
Kunombono wokufundisa wokuthi kuningi okufanele kufunwa enganeni futhi kunconywe ukunconywa. Yake yathandwa kakhulu, futhi ngisho namanje ayikalahlekelwa ngokuphelele. "Indodana yomngane wami isivele ixazulula izinkinga zesikole esiphakeme!", "Usuvele umkhulu, kufanele ukwazi ukucwecwa amazambane ngendlela efanele!", "Futhi ngingontanga yakho .."
Uma ebuntwaneni abanye banikeza ukuhlolwa okunganele kokubukeka kwethu, impumelelo, amakhono, ukugxila kokunaka kwethu kwashintshela ngaphandle. Ngakho-ke, abantu abadala abaningi bayaqhubeka nokugxila ezimisweni ezishiwo yimfashini, ezisakazwa abezindaba. Futhi lokhu akusebenzi nje kuphela ezimpahleni nasezintweni zokuhloba, kodwa nasezinkolelweni: ubani ongasebenza naye, lapho uphumule ... ngokujwayelekile, ukuthi ungaphila kanjani.
Akekho kithina ongumdwebo, hhayi uhlaka. Sesivele sikhona ekugcwaleni kobuntu bethu.
Kuvela indida: uhlala emaphethelweni amakhono akho, unikeze konke okusemandleni akho, kodwa ayikho intokozo kulokhu. Ngiyaqaphela kumakhasimende: abukela phansi impumelelo yawo. Babhekana, badale okuthile, banqobe ubunzima, futhi ngibona ukuthi angakanani amandla, ukuzinza, ubuciko obukhona kulokhu. Kodwa kunzima kubo ukufaneleka ukunqoba kwabo siqu, ukuthi: yebo, ngikwenzile, kunento okufanele ngiyihloniphe. Futhi kuvela ukuthi ubukhona ngokwabo buphenduka inqubo yokunqoba: umuntu ulwela ukudlula imingcele yalokho okungenzeka - kodwa akekho empilweni yakhe.
Mhlawumbe awudingi ukuba yinguqulo engcono kakhulu yakho? Akekho kithina ongumdwebo, hhayi uhlaka. Sesikhona kakade ekugcwaleni kobuntu bethu: siyaphefumula futhi sicabange, siyahleka, siyadabuka, sikhuluma nabanye, sibona indawo ezungezile. Singathuthukisa futhi sizuze okwengeziwe. Kodwa akudingekile. Impela kukhona umuntu ohola kakhulu noma ohambayo, odansa kangcono, otshuza ajule. Kodwa nakanjani akekho ongaphila impilo yethu kangcono kunathi.