Izingane ezinhle zayizolo ziphenduka amahlongandlebe. Osemusha uqhela kubazali bakhe futhi enze konke ngokudelela. Abazali bayazibuza ukuthi benzeni. Udokotela wengqondo uDaniel Siegel uyachaza: isizathu izinguquko ezingeni lobuchopho.
Zicabange ulele. Uyihlo ungena ekamelweni, akuqabule esiphongweni bese ethi: “Sawubona, sithandwa. Uzodlani ngesidlo sasekuseni? "Oatmeal," uyaphendula. Ngemva kwesigamu sehora ufika ekhishini - isitsha esishisayo se-oatmeal sikulindile etafuleni.
Yile ndlela ubuntwana obubukeka ngayo kwabaningi: abazali nabanye abantu abaseduze babesinakekela. Kodwa ngesinye isikhathi saqala ukuqhela kubo. Ubuchopho buye bashintsha, futhi sanquma ukuyeka i-oatmeal elungiselelwe abazali bethu.
Yilokho abantu abakudingayo ebusheni. Imvelo ishintsha ingqondo yengane ukuze umnikazi wayo angahlali nonina. Ngenxa yezinguquko, ingane iyasuka endleleni evamile yokuphila futhi iya endleleni entsha, engaziwa futhi engase ibe yingozi. Ubudlelwano bentsha nabantu buyashintsha. Uyaqhela kubazali bakhe asondele nontanga yakhe.
Ingqondo yentsha idlula ezinguqukweni eziningi ezithinta ubudlelwano nabantu. Nazi ezimbalwa ezibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukukhuphuka kwemizwa
Njengoba iminyaka yobusha isondela, imizwelo yomntwana iba namandla. Intsha ivame ukubhaklaza iminyango futhi ithukuthelele abazali bayo - kunencazelo yesayensi yalokhu. Imizwa yakheka ngokusebenzisana kwe- limbic system kanye nesiqu sobuchopho. Emzimbeni wentsha, lezi zakhiwo zinethonya elinamandla ekuthathweni kwezinqumo kunasezinganeni nakubantu abadala.
Olunye ucwaningo lwabeka izingane, intsha, kanye nabantu abadala kusithwebuli se-CT. Abahlanganyeli ekuhlolweni baboniswe izithombe zabantu abanobuso obungathathi hlangothi noma abanemizwa eshiwo. Ososayensi baqophe ukusabela okunamandla ngokomzwelo entsheni kanye nokusabela okusesilinganisweni phakathi kwabantu abadala kanye nezingane.
Manje sizizwa kanje, kodwa ngomzuzu kuzohluka. Abantu abadala mabaqhelelane nathi. asizwe esikuzwayo
Futhi, intsha ivame ukubona imizwelo kwabanye abantu, ngisho noma bengekho. Lapho intsha iboniswa izithombe ezinemizwelo engathathi hlangothi ebusweni bayo kusithwebuli se-CT, i-cerebellar amygdala yayo yenziwa yasebenza. Kwabasha kwabonakala sengathi umuntu osesithombeni ubhekene nemizwa engemihle.
Ngenxa yokuphakama kwemizwa yentsha, kulula ukucasuka noma ukucasuka. Isimo sabo sengqondo sishintsha njalo. Abaziqondi kahle. Omunye umfana wake wathi kimi: “Chaza lokhu kubantu abadala. Manje sizizwa kanje, kodwa ngomzuzu kuzohluka. Abantu abadala mabaqhelelane nathi. Ake sizwe lokho esikuzwayo." Lesi iseluleko esihle. Uma abantu abadala becindezela intsha futhi bezama ukuyijezisa ngokuba nemizwelo kakhulu, lokhu kuyayiqhelelanisa kuphela.
Ukukhangwa kwengozi
Sine-neurotransmitter dopamine emzimbeni wethu. Ibandakanyeka emsebenzini ohlangene wesiqu sobuchopho, i-limbic lobe kanye ne-cerebral cortex. I-Dopamine iyona eyenza sizizwe sijabule lapho sithola umklomelo.
Uma kuqhathaniswa nezingane kanye nabantu abadala, intsha inamazinga aphansi e-dopamine kodwa ama-spikes aphezulu ekukhiqizeni i-dopamine. I-Novelty ingenye yezimbangela eziyinhloko ezibangela ukukhululwa kwe-dopamine. Ngenxa yalokhu, intsha ikhangwa kukho konke okusha. Imvelo idale uhlelo olukwenza ulwele uguquko nobusha, likuphushele kokungajwayelekile nokungaqiniseki. Ngelinye ilanga lokhu kuyophoqa insizwa ukuba ishiye ikhaya labazali.
Ingqondo yentsha igxile ezintweni ezinhle nezijabulisayo zesinqumo, ishaya indiva imiphumela engemihle futhi engaba yingozi.
Lapho amazinga e-dopamine ehla, intsha iba nesithukuthezi. Konke okudala nokuhle kuyabacindezela. Lokhu kufanele kucatshangelwe lapho kuhlelwa inqubo yemfundo esikoleni esiphakathi nasesikoleni esiphakeme. Izikole nothisha kufanele basebenzise intshisekelo yangaphakathi yentsha ukuze bazigcine benentshisekelo.
Esinye isici sobuchopho bentsha ukuguquka kwenqubo yokuhlola okuhle nokubi. Ingqondo yentsha igxile ezintweni ezinhle nezijabulisayo zesinqumo, kuyilapho ishaya indiva imiphumela engemihle futhi engaba yingozi.
Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zibiza lolu hlobo lokucabanga ngokuthi yi-hyperrational. Kuphoqa intsha ukuthi ishayele ngokushesha, idle izidakamizwa futhi iye ocansini oluyingozi. Abazali abakhathazeki ize ngokuphepha kwezingane zabo. Inkathi yobusha iyinkathi eyingozi ngempela.
Ukusondelana nontanga
Okunamathiselwe kuzo zonke izilwane ezincelisayo kusekelwe ezidingweni zezingane zokunakekelwa nokuvikeleka. Eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila komuntu, uthando lubaluleke kakhulu: ingane ngeke iphile ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kwabantu abadala. Kodwa njengoba sikhula, ukunamathela akupheli, kushintsha ukugxila kwakho. Intsha ithembele kancane kubazali kodwa ithembele kontanga.
Ngesikhathi sobusha, sixhumana ngenkuthalo nabangane — lokhu kuyinqubo yemvelo. Kukubangane esiyothembela kubo lapho sishiya ikhaya lethu labazali. Endle, izilwane ezincelisayo azivamile ukuphila zodwa. Ukusebenzelana nontanga entsheni kuthathwa njengento yokuphila. Abazali banyamalala ngemuva futhi bazizwe benqatshiwe.
Ububi obukhulu balolu shintsho ukuthi ukusondelana neqembu lentsha noma ngisho nomuntu oyedwa kubonakala kuyindaba yokuphila nokufa. Izigidi zeminyaka yokuziphendukela kwemvelo zenza osemusha acabange: “Uma ngingenaye okungenani umngane oyedwa oseduze, ngizofa.” Uma abazali benqabela osemusha ukuba aye emcimbini, kuba usizi kuye.
Abantu abadala bacabanga ukuthi kuwubuwula. Eqinisweni, ubuwula abuhlangene nakho, bubekwe phansi ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Uma unqabela indodakazi yakho ukuya ephathini noma wenqaba ukuthenga izicathulo ezintsha, cabanga ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kuyo. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuqinisa ubudlelwano.
Iziphetho zabantu abadala
Abantu abadala kufanele bahloniphe inqubo yokukhula kwezingane. Intsha ibanjwa yimizwa futhi iphoqelelwe ukuba iphume ngaphansi kwephiko labazali, isondele kontanga yayo futhi iqonde okusha. Ngakho, ubuchopho kusiza intsha ukuthola «oatmeal» ngaphandle kwekhaya labazali. Osemusha uqala ukuzinakekela futhi afune abanye abantu abazomnakekela.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi ayikho indawo ekuphileni kwengane yabazali nabanye abantu abadala. Ubuchopho bomntwana buyashintsha, futhi lokhu kuthinta ubuhlobo bakhe nabanye. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali bakwamukele ukuthi indima yabo empilweni yengane nayo iyashintsha. Abantu abadala kufanele bacabange ngalokho abangakufunda entsheni.
Ukuqhuma kwemizwa, uthando, ukusebenzelana komphakathi, ubungane, izinto ezintsha nokudala kukhuthaza ukukhula kobuchopho futhi kubugcine busha.
Bangaki abantu abadala abaye bahlala bethembekile ezimisweni zobusha, benza abakuthandayo? Obani abahlala bekhuthele, bagcina abangane abaseduze? Ubani oqhubeka ezama izinto ezintsha futhi anganamatheli kokudala, alayishe ubuchopho bakhe ngokuhlola kokudala?
Ososayensi bezinzwa bathole ukuthi ubuchopho bukhula njalo. Babiza le mpahla nge-neuroplasticity. Ukuqhuma kwemizwa, uthando, ukusebenzelana komphakathi, ubungane, izinto ezintsha, nokudala kuvuselela ukukhula kobuchopho futhi kubugcine busha. Zonke lezi izimfanelo ezitholakala ebusheni.
Gcina lokhu engqondweni uma uzwa sengathi uklolodela umuntu osemusha ngokuziphatha kwakhe noma usebenzisa igama elithi «omusha» ngendlela eyindelelo. Ungahleki ngemizwa yabo kanye nokuhlubuka kwabo, kungcono ukuthi ube yintsha encane ngokwakho. Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi yilokhu esikudingayo ukuze sigcine izingqondo zethu zibukhali futhi zisebasha.