Umama ngokuqinisekile ungumuntu osondelene kakhulu futhi odingeka kakhulu wengane kusukela ekuzalweni, nguye kuphela ongaqonda lokho akudingayo. Kodwa uma umama engakwazi ukubhekana nesimo, khona-ke uthumela indodakazi yakhe kubaba - ngokuqinisekile uyazi impendulo yanoma yimuphi umbuzo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, angakwazi ukuxazulula noma iyiphi inkinga! U-Natalia Poletaeva, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umama wezingane ezintathu, usitshela ngendima kababa empilweni yendodakazi yakhe.
Ngezindlela eziningi, ngubaba othonya ukwakheka kokuzethemba okufanele endodakazini. Ukutuswa nokunconywa okutholwa kubaba kunomphumela omuhle entombazaneni, kunikeze ukuzethemba kwayo. “Baba, ngizokushada!” ingazwakala entombazaneni eneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Abazali abaningi abazi ukuthi kufanele basabele kanjani kulokhu. Ungesabi - uma indodakazi yakho ithe izoshada noyise kuphela, kusho ukuthi ibhekana ngokugcwele nemisebenzi yayo! Ubaba uyindoda yokuqala indodakazi efuna ukumjabulisa. Ngakho akumangalisi ukuthi ufuna ukuba umkakhe. Uyakulangazelela ukunaka kwakhe futhi uzizwa ejabule.
Ubaba ofunda izimfihlo zokukhulisa indodakazi uyoba yigunya elingenakungatshazwa kuyo. Uyohlale emxoxela ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe futhi acele iseluleko. Uma intombazane yakhulela emndenini ophumelelayo, ikhula, ngokuqinisekile izoqhathanisa insizwa noyise. Uma indodakazi, ngokuphambene nalokho, inezinkinga ekukhulumisaneni nobaba, khona-ke okhethiwe wakhe wesikhathi esizayo kungenzeka ukuthi uhluke ngokuphelele kuye. Ubaba udlala indima enkulu ekuhlonzweni kwengane ngokobulili. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwakheka kwezici zomlingiswa wesilisa nowesifazane kwakheka enganeni kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-6. Ukukhuliswa “kukababa” kunikeza indodakazi ukuzethemba ekukhulumeni nabobulili obuhlukile, okuyosiza esikhathini esizayo ukuthola injabulo yomkhaya.
Ubaba nendodakazi kumelwe babe nesikhathi esichitha ndawonye. Izingxoxo ezisuka enhliziyweni, imidlalo nokuhamba ngezinyawo — lezi zikhathi indodakazi yami izozikhumbula futhi izazise. Ubaba uqhamuka nemidlalo eyenza uMama adunyelwe yikhanda. Ngayo, ungakwazi ukukhuphuka izihlahla futhi ubonise izinombolo eziyingozi (ngokusho kukamama) ze-acrobatic. Ubaba uvumela ingane okwengeziwe futhi ngaleyo ndlela uyinikeze umuzwa wenkululeko.
Indodakazi iyabona ukuthi umama ngokwakhe uvame ukuphendukela kubaba ukuze athole usizo — konke okudinga isibindi namandla enyama kwenziwa ngubaba. Uqonda ngokushesha ukuthi owesifazane udinga ukusekelwa kwabesilisa futhi angakuthola.
Ubaba akufanele ayeke izinkinga zendodakazi yakhe encane, ngisho noma ngezinye izikhathi zibonakala ziwubala futhi ziwubala kuye. Indodakazi idinga uyise ukuthi alalelisise zonke izindaba zayo. Umama naye uyathakazelisa, kodwa ngesizathu esithile, umama unethuba elikhulu kunobaba ukwenqabela okuthile.
Kunombono wokuthi ubaba uqinile, futhi umama uthambile, ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso ngempela? Ukuzijwayeza kubonisa ukuthi obaba abavamile ukujezisa amadodakazi abo. Futhi uma upapa ephawula, ngokuvamile kuba ephuzwini. Futhi ukudumisa kwakhe “kuyabiza”, ngoba indodakazi ayikuzwa kaningi njengokukanina.
Okufanele ukufihle, obaba abaningi baphupha ngendodana kuphela, kodwa ukuphila kubonisa ukuthi obaba bathanda amadodakazi abo kakhulu, ngisho noma kukhona indodana emndenini.
Uma abazali behlukanisile, yebo, kunzima kakhulu ngowesifazane ukunqoba imizwelo futhi aqhubeke nokugcina ukuxhumana noyise wengane.Nokho, uma kungenzeka, usazama ukulandela imithetho ethile:
- beka isikhathi sokuxhumana phakathi kwendodakazi yakho nobaba (isibonelo, ngezimpelasonto);
- lapho ukhuluma nengane, khuluma njalo ngobaba njengomuntu ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni.
Yiqiniso, ayikho iresiphi eyenziwe ngomumo yenjabulo yomndeni, kodwa ekukhuleni okuvumelana kwentombazane, bobabili abazali bayadingeka.-bobabili umama nobaba. Ngakho-ke, bomama abathandekayo, themba owakwakho ngokukhuliswa kwendodakazi yakho, bheka indlela ehlangene yokufundisa naye futhi uhlale ugcizelela ukufaneleka kwakhe!