Ukumethemba: imishwana eyi-10 "ebulala"! (angasho)

“Mfana omkhulu, ungakhali! (ayisabi isiphepho ...) “

Ukususa ukubethela: Indlela yokufinyelela ingane ekwakhiweni kwayo, ukubaluleka kwayo, okunganyakazisa izisekelo zobunikazi bayo ngakho-ke, ngendlela echemile, ukuzethemba akuthuthukisayo. Iphinde imtshele ukuthi mkhulu kakhulu ukuthi angaba nemizwa. Lokhu kuholela ekutheni azikhiyele esikhundleni sokuthi aziveze. Kunalokho, mlalele bese uthi “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ubusaba…” 

Kunalokho ithi:   ” Ulimele. Sizobheka lokhu ndawonye. ” 

“Qaphela, uzowa! “

Ukususa ukubethela: Sizwa ku-loop esigcawini! Kodwa-ke, lapho, sibuza ngokuqondile amandla engane, izinsiza zayo. Simbuka ngokungazethembi. Nomncane uyazizwa. Kunalokho, ukumnika umbono oqondile futhi uthi “zinakekele”, singakhetha ukuthi “Ubone izitebhisi ziphakeme. Zisize ngokubeka isandla sakho lapho, unyawo lwakho lapho… ”Ube usuphelezela izenzo zakhe ngezwi ngomlayezo womusa wokuzethemba nezeluleko. 

Kunalokho yithi  : "Ungathatha isandla sami ukuze ngikhuphuke lesi sinyathelo."

“Yabona udadewenu wenza kahle! (… Ukuhamba, ukudweba ikati, ukufunda…)”

Ukususa ukubethela: Lokhu kuqhathanisa ezingeni elibi kuphakamisa ukuthi umgomo uwukufana nomunye, kanye nokunye. Nokho, ingane ihlukile. Uma, ngokwesibonelo, ngisho nomntwana osacathula engakuthandi ngempela ukufunda, singamkhuthaza ngokuthi “KULUNGILE, ngiyazi ukufunda akuyona into yakho ngempela, kodwa kamuva, siyokwenza lokho. yenzani ikhasi elincane lokufunda ndawonye. Ngakho-ke umxwayisile futhi ungabelana naye ngalesi sikhathi.

Kunalokho yithi  :  Ngemva kwesikhashana, sizokwazi ukufunda ndawonye!”

” Ngabe uyisimungulu noma yini ? “

Ukususa ukubethela: Umusho uyaqhuma lapho engaqondi ngokushesha ngokwanele, ewisa okuthile, noma engenzi njengoba bekulindelekile kuye ... Uhlasela ngokuqondile isifiso sokudla sengane, ukuthanda kwayo ukufunda nokuthuthuka. Uma engenalo ilungelo lokwenza amaphutha, njengoba umusho ubonisa, ngokushesha okukhulu, akasafuni ukuzama ukuze angathathi ingozi yokwehluleka. Ezinye izingane ezisacathula zenqaba ngisho nokudweba, ukusebenza noma ukuphendula umbuzo kathisha, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokwesaba esikoleni. Lokhu kudala umgoqo, okungewona amahloni, ngoba akafuni ukuhlukumezeka esithunzini sakhe. 

Kunalokho yithi :   “Kubukeka sengathi awuqondanga. “

Sikutshela imishwana eyi-10 ongayisho enganeni!

“Udla okwengulube! “

Ukususa ukubethela: Lo musho uveza umqondo wokuthi umzali akafuni ukuthi ingane idlule esigabeni “sokwenza kabi”. Kufanele isebenze ngokushesha. Iqiniso lokuthi ingane “iphelele”, izibamba kahle, ikhuluma kahle… yilokhu abashwabana abakubiza ngokuthi “ukudla kwe-narcissistic” kumzali. Ikakhulukazi manje lapho ingcindezi yezemfundo nezenhlalo inamandla kakhulu.

Kunalokho yithi :   "Thatha isikhathi sakho usondeze isipuni sakho." “

“Ungamane ume lapho njengesilima!” “

Ukususa ukubethela: Ngalo musho, umzali akabunaki isikhathi somntwana. Omama kufanele babe "omama abagijima", abanomthwalo omkhulu wengqondo, nezinto eziningi okufanele zenziwe, ngokushesha okukhulu. Umuntu omdala akakwazi ke ukubekezelela ukuthi ingane yenza konke ukubuyisela umzuzu lapho kuyodingeka ahlukane naye aye enkulisa, esikoleni. Ukuhamba kuwukwehlukana, futhi ingane ihlale izwa ubuhlungu enhliziyweni yayo. Kukubazali ukuzinika isikhathi sokuhlukana. Ukusho isibonelo: “Ngiyazi ukuthi udabukile ngokuthi siyahamba namuhla ekuseni, kodwa sizophinde sihlangane namuhla kusihlwa.” Futhi, izingane zivame ukubheka izinto abantu abadala abangaziboni noma abangazibala. Intuthwane, igatsha lesihlahla esinyakazayo ... Ungase uthi: “Uyibonile intuthwane, namuhla ebusuku, sizoyibheka, kodwa kufanele sihambe manje.” Endleleni uzongitshela ukuthi uboneni ”. Eqinisweni, ngokubuka ingane yakhe, umuntu omdala uyobona ukuthi ulokhu ezungeza ngoba nje inake, ithathekile.

Kunalokho yithi :   “Ubuka (noma ucabanga) okuthile okuthakazelisayo!” “

“Ubukeka kanjani, ukame izinwele zakho, ugqokile noma uzigcobe kanjalo?” “

Ukususa ukubethela: Lapho, umbuzo wesithombe somntwana. Uma kushiwo ngamahlaya, kulungile. Uma kungumbuzo wokuthi akahle, ukuthi uyahlekisa, sithinta ngokuqondile isithunzi sakhe, ukubaluleka kwakhe, isithombe sakhe. Uma enze amabala esikibha sakhe ngokwesibonelo (futhi kuvamile ukuba ingane ingcole!), Singathanda ukuthi “Angifuni uphume kanjalo.” Ukuthi ugqoke kahle uma uya esikoleni kuyangijabulisa ”.

Kunalokho yithi :   "Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ugqoke kahle ukuze uye enkulisa." “

"Ake ngikwenzele!" “

Ukususa ukubethela: Lo musho uveza inkinga yesikhashana. Umuntu omdala kufanele avumele isikhathi sokuhlangenwe nakho kwasebuntwaneni. Futhi ukuze avumele ingane ukuba yenze ukuhlola kwayo, umuntu omdala kumelwe azi ukuthi angazihlela kanjani ngesigqi sakhe. Noma ejahile. Isigwebo esinjalo simtshela nokuthi akanawo amandla okuzenzela yena. Uma umngane emtshela ukuthi mubi esemncane, lokho akubi nomthelela ofanayo nokuthi abazali bakhe bayamtshela. Okukhudlwana, eminyakeni lapho abangani bebala kakhulu, izowa.

Kunalokho yithi :   “Ungaqhubeka nokwakha kwakho namhlanje ebusuku. “

“Yeka ukukhala, ugangile, mubi!” “

Ukususa ukubethela: Lokhu kusho ukuthi ingane ayinayo indawo esigqini sabazali, ukuthi ayivumelani. Njengoba ikhala, intombazane encane izwa ukuthi "Ungasishiya sodwa" futhi ingane izwa sengathi iyacasuka. Ubona ukuthi akamukelekile ekubonakalisweni kwakhe kwasebuntwaneni, ukuthi akahlangabezani nalokho okulindelwe abazali bakhe. Nakuba engakakhulumi, uyaluqonda uhlangothi olubi lwamazwi abazali bakhe. 

Kunalokho yithi :   “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ukhala ngoba ukhathele…”

“Ukhuluma umbhedo njalo! “

Ukususa ukubethela: Eminyakeni yemibuzo emikhulu (kungani? Senza kanjani izingane?), Ujahidada uxoxa izindaba ngalokho acabanga ukuthi uyakuqonda ngomhlaba. Kukude nokucatshangelwa futhi kunengqondo, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, kuyacatshangelwa futhi kuyamangaza. Kubalulekile ukubavumela kancane kancane bayeke ukukhohlisa futhi babambe iqiniso. Yebo, akazivezi njengomuntu omdala, kodwa inkulumo yengane ayisona ngempela isiphukuphuku. Singasho ukuthi kuye: “Hhayi-ke, ucabanga ukuthi kunje … akufani neze…”

Kunalokho yithi :   “Okushoyo kuyangimangaza kakhulu…”