Futhi yini okufanele uyenze manje ngalokhu ukuze ususe umthwalo wezakhiwo kanye nokuzethemba okuphansi, kweluleka isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Irina Kassatenko.
Abazali abakhethiwe. Futhi, ngeshwa, akubona bonke abakule lottery yokuphila abanenhlanhla. Kwamukelwa ngokuvamile ukuthi into embi kakhulu enganeni isehlukaniso sabazali noma ukuba umlutha wotshwala. Kepha akukho okulimazayo emphefumulweni wengane - ukugxekwa okungapheli. Akungenisi izilonda ezisobala emphefumulweni, kepha, njenge-toxin, usuku nosuku, ukwehla ngethonsi kudicilela phansi ukuzethemba kwengane.
Ukubhujiswa komphefumulo womuntu okhulele emndenini onomama ogxekayo kukhulu kakhulu: ukuzethemba okuphansi, ukuthembela ngokweqile emibonweni yabanye, ukungakwazi ukuthi cha nokuvikela amalungelo nemingcele yomuntu, ukuzindela nokuzizwa okungapheli ukuba necala kumane nje kuyingxenye yaleli “fa.” Kepha kukhona nezindaba ezinhle: ukwazi kwethu kuyaqhubeka nokushintsha futhi kuhlanganise ulwazi olusha nesipiliyoni esisha. Besingenacala ngokwenzeka kithina njengezingane, kepha singakhetha ukuthi senzani ngempilo yethu namhlanje.
Indlela ephumelela kunazo zonke yokwelapha umphefumulo wakho kungokwelashwa kwengqondo. Kepha akushibhile futhi akutholakali njalo. Kepha kuningi okungenziwa wedwa - ukudambisa umphefumulo. Uthethiswe kakhulu uma…
… Kunabantu abanobuthi abaseduze kwakho
Okufanele ngikwenze: yakha indingilizi yezenhlalo enempilo. Zibuze njalo lo mbuzo: abantu abanjani abaseduze kwami? Lwela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi kumbuthano wakho osondelene bebebancane abantu abafanayo abanobuthi, abagxekayo. Ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngezintombi zakho noma ukhetha umlingani. Yize kubo ungadonswa ngokungazi, ngoba lena inguqulo ejwayelekile yokuxhumana yakho.
… Awazi ukuthi uphendule kanjani ekugxekweni
Okufanele ngikwenze: ukufunda. Thatha lesi sifundo unomphela futhi ufunde ukusabela ekugxekweni ngesithunzi, ngaphandle kokwenza izaba noma ukuhlasela ngokubuyekeza. Uma udinga ukuchaza okuthile, kuchaze. Uma ukugxeka kwakha futhi kunengqondo ukushintsha okuthile, kucabangisise bese uvuma ukuthi omunye umuntu uqinisile.
… Angazi ukuthi ungakwamukela kanjani ukunconywa, ukubongwa kanye nezincomo
Okufanele ngikwenze: yeka ukuncokola nokuphika ukubuyisela. Mane umomotheka ngobumnene bese uthi, “Ngiyabonga, kuhle kakhulu!” Futhi akukho nelilodwa igama elivela ochungechungeni oluthi “not for anything”, “ebelingenziwa kangcono.” Kuzoba nzima futhi kungabi ngokwemvelo ekuqaleni. Jwayela, uzophumelela. Musa ukwehlisa ukufaneleka kwakho.
… Gxila embonweni kamama wakho
Okufanele ngikwenze: hlukanisa "izwi" lakho kunina lakho ekhanda lakho. Ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini, zibuze lo mbuzo: "Yini engalungela umama?" Bese uzitshele: “Kepha angiyena umama! Yini ezongilungela? "
… Uziphathe kabi
Okufanele ngikwenze: funda ukukhuluma wedwa ngokucophelela. Ungazigxeki ngokwengqondo, kepha, kunalokho, zisekele. Esikhundleni sika- "Idiot, kungani ngisho lokho!" zibuze: “Yebo, bekungcono ukungasho lutho, ngokuzayo ngizokwenza ngenye indlela! Yini engingayenza manje ukunciphisa lokho okwenziwe? "
… Bayesaba ukwenza amaphutha
Okufanele ngikwenze: shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo emaphutheni. Qala ukushintsha izinkolelo mayelana namaphutha uye ezinempilo ezinjengokuthi "Amaphutha ayingxenye evamile yokufunda", "Akukho ntuthuko ngaphandle kwamaphutha." Mhlawumbe nangamahlaya: "Uchwepheshe ngumuntu owenze wonke amaphutha endaweni ethile." Gxila kubo, uphawule ngezenzo zakho nezenzo zabanye.
… Angazi ukuthi ufunani ngempela
Okufanele ngikwenze: qala ukulalela izifiso zakho. Kubalulekile. Kusezifisweni lapho kutholakala amandla okugqugquzela nokufeza, ukugcwaliseka kwezifiso zethu okuletha injabulo enkambisweni nokweneliseka ekugcineni. Qala ukunaka bese ubhala phansi zonke "izifiso namaphupho akho" bese uwafaka ebhokisini elihle. Noma yini enkulu noma encane, engafinyeleleka noma engakatholakali. Ngakho-ke, uzokwethula engqondweni yakho isimo esisha sokuphila okunempilo kuwe: “Ngibalulekile, ngibalulekile futhi ngiligugu. Futhi izifiso zami zibalulekile futhi zibalulekile! ”Noma yini engasetshenziswa, yisebenzise.
… Izidingo zakho akuyona into esemqoka kuwe
Okufanele ngikwenze: lalela wena ukuthi ufunani okwamanje. Noma iziphi izidingo zakho: ngokomzimba - ukukhathala, ukoma, indlala. Ingqondo - isidingo sokuxhumana, isidingo sokuxhaswa ngokomzwelo. Futhi ubenelise ngangokunokwenzeka.
… Ungazincomi
Okufanele ngikwenze: Yakha ulwazimagama lokuzincoma. Thola amagama angama-3-5 noma imishwana ongathanda ukuzwa kwabanye (mhlawumbe unyoko) bese uqala ukuzisho kuwe (kuwe noma ngokuzwakalayo uma kungenzeka). Isibonelo: “Nkulunkulu, yeka ukuthi ngingumuntu omuhle kanjani!”, “Okhaliphile!”, “Akekho obengakwenza lokho!” Ukwazi kusebenza ngokusebenza ngomshini, futhi kuqala ukukholelwa kulokho okuzwa kaningi, futhi akunandaba ukuthi kusuka kubani. Vele uzame ngaphandle kokubhuqa. Amanga ngeke akusize.
… Iya kumama wakho ukuze akusekele
Okufanele ngikwenze: hlunga lokho owabelana nomama wakho. Yeka ukunyathela iharika elifanayo ngethemba lokuthi kulokhu ngeke zishaye. Ungathathi okubalulekile, okujule kakhulu ekwahluleleni kukamama, wazi ukuthi uzothola uhlangothi olubi lwesithombe. Futhi ungayi kuye ukuze uthole ukusekelwa okungokomzwelo angazi ukuthi angakunikeza kanjani. Ukuze wenze lokhu, yenza intombi enhle! Futhi nomama wakho, xoxani ngezihloko ezingathathi hlangothi emphefumulweni wakho.