Okudingayo ukwazi ngomuntu ozoshada naye ukuze wakhe umndeni oqinile, kusho ososayensi.
Wonke umuntu wesifazane uphupha ngendoda ethembekile, enothando, enothando futhi ethembekile. Futhi kubalulekile ukuthi naye wayengubaba omuhle. Kepha ukuqonda kanjani uma okhethiweyo wakho ezoba njalo? Ososayensi bayeluleka: funda kabanzi ngobuntwana bakhe. Uma bekujabulile, futhi abazali bomkhwenyana besathandana futhi behloniphana, ngakho-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwane bakho buqine.
Ukufakazela lokhu, ososayensi baseHarvard benze ucwaningo oluyingqayizivele olwathatha iminyaka engama-78. Sonke lesi sikhathi, babebuka inqwaba yamadoda avela eBoston - ngaleso sikhathi base besakhula. Abafana babebuzwa njalo ukuthi baphila kanjani, baphendula uthotho lwemibuzo. Ochwepheshe bakhulume nezihlobo zabafana nabafundisi bezenhlalakahle ukuze baqonde isimo abakhulela kuso. Iminyaka yadlula futhi amadoda aqala eyawo imindeni. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho kwavela khona ukuthi labo ababenobuntwana obunokuthula nobudlelwano obuthembekile nabazali babo babejabule emshadweni.
“Ithonya lesikhathi esidlule lisaqhubeka ngisho nasebekhulile,” kusho umcwaningi uRobert Waldinger waseHarvard Medical School. - Ingane enobuntwana obujabulisayo ifunda ukuphatha imizwa yayo, futhi lokhu kuyayisiza lapho isikhulile. Lesi sici sinikela emshadweni oqinile futhi ophephile. Manje ababambiqhaza bocwaningo sebengaphezu kweminyaka engama-80. Futhi basajabule ndawonye.