I-Big bang: ungafunda kanjani ukungabilisi nganoma yisiphi isizathu

Ukukhathazeka, ukucasuka, intukuthelo, ukucasuka, ukwesaba - lapho le mizwa iqhuma, singaqala ukuklabalasa futhi sihlasele labo abasizungezile. Sibhekana nokuchichima okukhulu ngokomzwelo, futhi izihlobo ziwela ngaphansi kwesandla esishisayo.

Kwenzeka ngendlela ehlukile: sibamba imizwa futhi sibonakala "sibilisa" ngaphakathi. Yebo, abanye bathanda ukuziphatha kwethu kakhulu, kodwa kithi, intengo yokubamba imizwa iphezulu kakhulu. Ukubilisa kuvame ukuhambisana nokusabela kwengqondo: amehlo aba mnyama ngenxa yentukuthelo, imilenze iba ndikindiki, intukuthelo engashiwongo ishintsha ibe umphimbo obuhlungu, intukuthelo engavezwa ibe ikhanda elibuhlungu, nokukhathazeka okucindezelekile nokwesaba kubangela ukuminya noma okunye ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla.

Kwenzeka kanjani "ukubilisa" ngokomzwelo?

1. Thintana nabo ngaphambili

Ingabe uvame ukucasuka, ubilise futhi uqhume njalo? Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izici ezivusa lesi simo, ukutadisha izimo kanye nezimbangela ezibangela ukubilisa. Ngokwesibonelo, kungase kube umuzwa wokungabi nabulungisa lapho othile ecasukile phambi kwamehlo akho. Noma – ukumangala nokuthukuthela ngoba ukhohliswe ngokungafanele: isibonelo, basika ibhonasi kaNcibijane, osuvele wenze izinhlelo zayo. Noma - ukwephulwa kwemingcele, lapho zonke izihlobo zakho zifuna ukuza kuwe ngamaholide, lapho kuzodingeka uhlanze wonke amaholide.

Kuyafaneleka ukutadisha ngokucophelela zonke izimo ezandulela ukuqubuka kwemizwa engemihle, futhi uma kungenzeka zigweme. Khuluma nezihlobo mayelana nezimo zomhlangano ezikufanelayo, futhi uma kungenakwenzeka, khulisa ibanga. Thola kusenesikhathi emnyangweni wokubalwa kwezimali mayelana ne-premium ukuze ugweme ukumangala okungajabulisi.

Ungashintsha njalo, uma kungenjalo isimo, khona-ke isimo sakho sengqondo kuso, phawula imingcele, usho ngokucacile ukuthi yini engahambisani nawe, futhi unikeze esinye isisombululo.

2. Ukubilisa

Kulesi sigaba, sesivele sihileleke kulesi simo futhi sisabela kuso. Ngezinye izikhathi sicasulwa ngamabomu ukuze sikwazi ukusilawula. Kubalulekile ukufunda ukuqaphela amaqhinga anjalo angcolile. Zibuze ukuthi kungani umlingani wakho edinga ukuthi ubilise. Iyini inzuzo yayo? Ngakho-ke, phakathi nezingxoxo zebhizinisi, ngezinye izikhathi ukungqubuzana kucasulwa ngamabomu ukuze u-interlocutor anikeze ulwazi olubalulekile ngemizwelo, bese enza isivumelwano ukuze asindise ubuso.

Ebudlelwaneni bomuntu siqu, kwenzeka ukuthi umlingani usiphoqa ngokuqondile ukuthi sidlale umdlalo wakhe. Ngokwesibonelo, indoda icunula intombazane izinyembezi. Uqala ukukhala, bese ethi: “Nonke niyafana, niyafana nabanye, bengikwazi.” Intombazane ihileleka emdlalweni, iqala ukufunga ngothando, efakazela ukuthi "akanjalo", kuyilapho isizathu sokukhala izinyembezi sihlala "ngemuva kwezigcawu".

Ukuqaphela ukuthi iyini inzuzo ye-interlocutor, zama ukwehlisa ijubane. Zibuze ukuthi iyiphi into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukuze unamathele ezintweni ozithandayo.

3. Ukuqhuma

Njengamanje, akukho okunye esingakwenza ngaphandle kokuphuma ngokuphelele kulesi simo. Ngesikhathi sokuthinta nokuqhuma, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ubani oseduze nathi.

Ngeshwa, abaningi bethu bavame ukubekezelela futhi bangayivezi imizwa yabo kulabo okubhekiselwe kubo, njengomphathi noma ozakwethu bebhizinisi. Siletha le mizwa ekhaya futhi siyithululele kwabathandekayo, kulabo abasithandayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nababuthakathaka futhi abakwazi ukuphendula. Ngakho-ke, omama bathethisa izingane zabo uma bekuwusuku olubi emsebenzini, kuyilapho bona ngokwabo bemelana nolaka lwabayeni abangaqashelwa ngumphathi wabo.

Uma uzwa sengathi usuzoqhuma, bheka umphikisi ofanelekayo, umuntu ongakwazi ukumelana nomthelela wakho.

Ngokwesibonelo, umuntu omdala wesibili. Futhi, okungenani zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela oyifunayo. Phuma nje ukuze unciphise ingcindezi? Bese uthola enye indlela yokukhipha - isibonelo, hamba ejimini. Ukuthi uphuma kanjani esimweni kuncike ekhonweni lakho lokuziqonda nokulawula imizwa.

4. Ukuncipha kwemizwa

Intukuthelo nokucasuka kuthathelwa indawo amahloni nomuzwa wecala. Qaphela nabo. Yebo, lezi zilawuli zokuziphatha zisisiza ukuthi siqonde indlela yokuxhumana kangcono nabantu. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ungalahlekelwa isizathu sokubilisa, ngoba kuyisihluthulelo sokushintsha. Amahloni nomuzwa wecala kusitha imbangela, sibe namahloni okukhuluma ngokuthi yini eholele ekuqhumeni, futhi sigxile ekuqedeni imiphumela yako. Lokhu kusiza ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni, kodwa kufanele uhlaziye ukuthi yini eyandulela ukungqubuzana nokuthi yini engenziwa ngokuzayo ukugwema ukubilisa.

Uma kungekho zinyathelo zokuphepha ezithathwayo, isigaba sokubilisa nakanjani sizolandelwa ukuqhuma. Ngakho-ke, ziqaphele futhi ufunde ukuphatha isimo, ucabangela izici ezihlukile zesimo sakho somzwelo.