ILibertinism umkhuba wezocansi osuselwa kumqondo wenkululeko nokwethembana. Ivumela, ngaphakathi kwezithandani, ukuya ocansini nabanye abalingani, ngaphandle kokubuza imizwa. Kuyini ukuba libertine futhi kanjani ukuyibeka endaweni ebuhlotsheni bakho?

Igama elithi "libertine" lichaza umuntu ophila ngendlela ekhululekile, ngaphandle kokuhlonipha ukuziphatha okusebenzayo emphakathini. Namuhla, incazelo ibhekisa kakhulu endleleni yokuphila ngaphakathi kombhangqwana equkethe ukuzitika ngenjabulo yenyama ngenkululeko ecatshangelwayo, futhi okungabaza umbono wokuba nomuntu oyedwa.

Ngempela, i-libertine izivumela ukuthi ilale nabanye abantu ngaphandle kwalowo athandana naye. Lo mkhuba uthinta abesilisa nabesifazane, bayo yonke iminyaka namaphrofayili.

I-Libertinism ihlukile ekungathembeki, njengoba lapha ubuhlobo bobulili ngaphandle kombhangqwana baziwa omunye umlingani. Imibhangqwana yaseLibertine ibheka lezi zigigaba njengokuvunyelenwe ngazo futhi zifana nenjabulo yocansi nokwaneliseka, ngaphandle kokufaka umbhangqwana wabo engozini. 

Embhangqwaneni we-libertine, umbono wokwethembeka ubhekwa ngendlela ehlukile kunasemibhangqwaneni eshadile. Lapho sinikeza lo mlingani wethu lo mkhuba, akuyona indaba yokubatshela ukuthi asisayifuni, kepha kunalokho ukuthi sinokuzethemba okwanele ebudlelwaneni bethu nasemizweni yabo ukuze bakwazi ukubanikeza okusha. nakho.

Ngakho-ke, i-libertinism ibeka ukwethembeka okuqinile: umuntu esithandana naye akashintshi, futhi sihlala sithembekile kulo mbhangqwana. Imibhangqwana ye-libertine ihlukanisa ubulili bemizwa, futhi ibheka ukuthi ubudlelwane bobulili ngaphandle kwabashadikazi babo bumnandi nje, injabulo yenyama abanikezana ngayo abalingani. Kodwa-ke, ubudlelwano babo buhlala budingeka futhi kungaphakathi kubo lapho kutholakala khona uthando nentshisekelo.

ILibertinism umkhuba okufanele ufunwe yibo bobabili abalingani. Kuyindlela ethile yokusebenza ngaphakathi kombhangqwana, okumele icatshangelwe kahle ngaphambi kokusungulwa. Uma ufuna ukuzwa nakho nomlingani wakho, qala ngokubatshela ukuthi kungani ufuna ukuzwa lezi zinto nabanye abantu. Sungula inkhulumomphendvulwano bese ubona ukuthi umlingani wakho unentshisekelo noma cha.

I-Libertinism ingenziwa ezindaweni ezahlukene. Kukhona ngokwesibonelo amakilabhu noma imigoqo ikakhulukazi kulo mkhuba, lapho umuntu angahlangana khona neminye imibhangqwana ekhululekile. Lolu hlobo lwesikhungo ngokuvamile luyakhetha, futhi kufanele ube yilungu ukuze ulufinyelele. Nakanjani ungaya lapho ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza ukuze nje ubuke, futhi ubone ukuthi lo mkhuba ukulungele yini.

Kukhona nezinhlelo zokusebenza namawebhusayithi axhumanisa imibhangqwana ye-libertine. Okokugcina, ungakhohlwa ukuzivikela uma uya ocansini nabantu ongabazi isimo sabo mayelana nokuhlolwa. 

I-Libertinism, njengoba ivumela obala abalingani ukuthi bathandane nabanye abantu, ingaba yindlela yokuqeda umona. Ngempela, umbhangqwana we-libertine uthobela imithetho, futhi ukwethembeka kubalulekile. Ozakwethu bayatshelana konke mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kocansi, ayikho i-taboo noma imfihlo. Ngakho-ke, kuqeda ukungezwani nokulingana komona okungenza ukuqagela nganoma yibuphi ubudlelwano bomshado owengeziwe: lapha, konke kushiwo emini libalele.

Noma kunjalo, i-libertinism ayitholakali kuwo wonke umuntu. Abanye abantu ngeke bame bazi ukuthi umlingani wabo angaya ocansini nomunye umuntu. Kulokhu, umona kunalokho uzobhebhethekiswa ngenxa yalokhu kusebenza okusha. 

Ukushwiba kuwumkhuba wocansi ofana nenkululeko futhi owenziwa phakathi kwezithandani ezimbili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zikuphi ubulili. Umgomo "ukushintshanisa" abalingani bombhangqwana nomunye, isikhathi sobudlelwano bezocansi. Lokhu kungenzeka egumbini elilodwa, lapho-ke abathandi bangabonana khona: lokhu kubizwa nge-voyeurism. I-Swinging ikuvumela ukuthi uzwe ukuzwa okusha futhi uhlanganise nobusha kubulili bezithandani zakho.

Lo mkhuba, njengokuziphatha okuxekethile, kudinga ukuzethemba okuphelele kwizithandani zakho nakumlingani wakho. Kudinga futhi ukukhululeka komunye umbhangqwana, ukuze kungabikho ukungakhululeki ngesikhathi socansi. Ozakwethu kumele bonke banikeze imvume yabo ephelele, futhi igama lokubuka liyinkululeko: umqondo ukuzijabulisa nokwazi ukuthi umlingani wakhe naye uyakujabulela.