Okuqukethwe
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singasishintsha kanjani isitayela sokunamathisela esikhule ngaso? Kungagwenywa kanjani ukukhathala kwengqondo? Ungaluthola kanjani ulimi oluvamile kokubili izingane ezikhulayo nabazali asebekhulile? Izimpendulo zale mibuzo neminye zingatholakala ezincwadini esizikhethele ezintsha.
"Isizukulwane SeSandwich"
Svetlana Komissaruk, Bombay
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Olga Shaveko sithi: “Phakathi kwezincwadi ezikhuluma ngobuhlobo phakathi kwabantu abadala nezingane, zimbalwa eziveza izizukulwane eziningana ngesikhathi esisodwa, ezinesimo sengqondo esingafani nemibono yazo yokuphila. - Incwadi yesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezenhlalakahle kanye nomqeqeshi weqembu uSvetlana Komissaruk ilungele umbono onjalo.
Uchaza ukuthi abafundi besizukulwane samaSandwich (labo manje asebeneminyaka engama-45-60) bangabaqonda kanjani abazali abadala, baxoxisane nabancane, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo bangazikhohlwa bona. Izizukulwane zichazwa ngokucacile ngama-engeli ahlukene: ngokombono wokunamathiselwe, ugqozi, icala, ukulindela ukuphelela, kanye ne-impostor syndrome. Kodwa ngaphezu kolwazi lwethiyori, le ncwadi ihlanganisa imidwebo yokuphila kanye nezindlela ezifinyelelekayo ezizokusiza ukuba uthethelele abazali bakho, uyeke ukwesaba izingane zakho futhi ufunde ukuzethemba, ukwamukelana ngaphandle kokuziba noma ukwehlisa.
Ngihlabeke umxhwele ngesu elikhethekile lombhali elithi “#invitation to experiment” – lena irubrikhi echaza izifundo ezahlukahlukene. Avumela umfundi ukuba ame futhi azindle ngalokho akufundile. Isibonelo, ukuhlola okwenziwa yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uCarol Dweck kwenza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu wokucacisa umehluko phakathi kokudumisa okuphumelelayo nokudumisa okungenangqondo. Futhi ukuhlolwa okuvela esahlukweni esithi "Imihlaba Emibili, Izingane Ezimbili" kuzosiza ekunqumeni ukuthi wena nabazali bakho niyingxenye yesiko elizimele noma lamaqoqo. Indlela enhle yokuzibona wena noma isimo esijwayelekile esivela ohlangothini olungalindelekile.
Le ncwadi izoba usizo hhayi kuphela kubameleli besizukulwane se-"sandwich", kodwa futhi nasezinganeni zabo ezikhulile. Udalula izindawo ezisengozini ebudlelwaneni nabazali, ogogo nomkhulu futhi aphakamise ukuthi kungashintshwa kanjani ukuxhumana noma acabangele ulwazi lwabadala. Izici ezihlukene zokuphila kwansuku zonke zembulwa ngendlela entsha futhi zakha isithombe esiphelele - kutholakala iwindi lengilazi elinebala, eligcina liba yi-stereoscopic.
"Okunamathiselwe ku-Psychotherapy"
Davis J. Wallin, Izwe Lesayensi
Isitayela sokunamathisela esihlakulela ebuntwaneni sibonakala kuzo zonke izimpilo zethu. Kodwa leli thonya alilona inani eliphelele: imodeli yokunamathiselwe okungavikelekile ingashintsha ngaphansi kwethonya lesipiliyoni esisha - isibonelo, ubudlelwano obuhlukile ngekhwalithi phakathi kwesiguli nomelaphi. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo uDavid J. Wallin sibonisa ukuthi abelaphi bangazuza kanjani entuthukweni emkhakheni wokucwaninga okunamathiselwe.
"Uqobo"
URenata Daniel, Isikhungo saseCogito
Ubumina abuyona nje isizinda sempilo yengqondo nekamoya yomuntu, kodwa ubuntu uqobo kubo bonke ubuqotho babo, ebunyeni bokwazi nokuquleka. Le ndida kunzima ukuyiqonda ngokunengqondo. Futhi yingakho umhlaziyi weJungian uRenata Daniel, ezihlola yena ngokwakhe, uphendukela ezithombeni ezivela ezinganekwaneni, amacebo avela kumafilimu nempilo. Uhambo olujabulisayo lokungena kuwe.
"Sane"
UDaria Varlamova, u-Alpina Umshicileli
Gcina idayari yemizwa, usakaze amandla ukuze ugweme ukukhathala kwengqondo; ukuqonda izimo zengqondo ezingakhi… I-workshop yezincwadi ka-Daria Varlamova iqukethe amathuluzi asize uDaria ngokwakhe ukuthi aphile ngendlela ephumelelayo ne-bipolar disorder. Zibuye zibe usizo ekunakekeni nasekushintsheni kwemizwa.
"Abantu abanobuthi"
Shahida Arabi, Mann, Ivanov futhi Ferber
U-Shahida Arabi ubelokhu ecwaninga ngesihloko sokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo iminyaka eminingi. Uchaza indlela yokubona i-manipulator (kanye ne-narcissist kanye ne-psychopath) futhi uphume ebuhlotsheni obubuhlungu ngokulahlekelwa okuncane kakhulu. Imisebenzi yokwelashwa kokuziphatha kanye nokuzivocavoca kuzokusiza ukuthi wakhe imingcele enempilo yomuntu siqu futhi uqale ukuzethemba.
"Isayensi Yokuthanda Ingane"
Ihlelwe nguZhanna Glozman, Meaning
Izisebenzi ze-Research Center for Child Neuropsychology eziqanjwe ngo-A. Luria zitshela abazali indlela yokuxazulula izinkinga eziphakama njengoba ingane ikhula, kungaba (ukungalaleli), amanga, ukukhathazeka okwandisiwe noma izifundo zesikole. Izihloko ziqukethe izimo eziningi eziqondile ezivela ekuphileni.
"Izisekelo Zokuhlaziya Okukhona"
Alfried Lenglet, Peter
Isikhathi singenye yezinto ezidingekayo ukuze uthole ukuphila okugcwele. Kodwa kukhona okunye: indawo, ukuphathwa ngendlela efanele, nokunakwa ngenhlonipho… Lo mhlahlandlela wereferensi uchaza ukuthi indlela yokuhlaziya okukhona isebenza kanjani nokuthi ihluke kanjani kwezinye izindawo zokwelapha.
“Ukwenza isikhathi somuntu kusho ukukhulisa ukubaluleka kwakhe, ngoba isikhathi somuntu sihlala siyisikhathi sokuphila kwakhe … Ukuzinika isikhathi sakho kusho ukukhulisa ubudlelwano nawe.”