Emashumini amane eminyaka edlule sabanjwa ihlelo lemali. “Impumelelo eyimpumelelo”, “impumelelo”, imikhiqizo ebizayo… Ingabe yabajabulisa abantu? Futhi kungani abantu namuhla bephendukela kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ukuze bathole ubungane beqiniso nothando oluqotho?
Muva nje, kaningi, njenge-psychotherapist, ngiye ngacelwa ukuba ngisize ukuhlangana nomngane. Iklayenti linomndeni, izingane, nokho, isidingo sokusondelana okungokomoya, ubuqotho nokusondelana okulula komuntu sizwakala ngokucijile kakhulu.
U-Antoine de Saint-Exupery uthe kukhona okunethezeka okukodwa kuphela emhlabeni - ukunethezeka kokuxhumana kwabantu. Umuntu udinga umuntu ongaxoxa naye ngenjabulo amahora amaningi, kuphephile futhi kufudumele. Ngokubona kwami, yilokhu kuhlobana kwemiphefumulo okwenza sibe ngabantu.
Ukuheha umphefumulo
Ngokwesiko lamaSulumane, le nto yokukhanga ichazwa yiqiniso lokuthi kukhona indawo yokuhlala lapho imiphefumulo ikhona ngaphambi kokuzalwa emzimbeni womuntu. Futhi uma imiphefumulo yayiseduze kulesi sigodlo, khona-ke ekuphileni kwasemhlabeni bayohlangana nakanjani, baqaphelane ngalokho kukhangwa okungabonakali umuntu akulangazelela kakhulu.
Ezothando zakudala
Ibanga lobudala bezicelo ezinjalo likhulu impela: kusukela kwabangaphezu kweminyaka engama-40 kuya kwabangakabi neminyaka eyi-18. Bonke bahlanganiswe yi-nostalgia ... ye-USSR yothando. Kusho ukuthini?
Amafilimu "Ngihamba eMoscow" kaGeorgy Danelia kanye "Courier" kaKaren Shakhnazarov abhekwa njengophawu lwe-USSR yothando.
Bakhazimulisa ubungane ngenxa yobungane, njengenani elihlukile, elingenakunqanyulwa ekuzuzeni okunengqondo lapho isandla sigeza isandla.
Amanye amaklayenti ami, angatholi noma adumele ngobungane nabanye, akhetha izazi zefilosofi, ababhali bamakhulu eminyaka adlule njengabangane. Bebodwa nezincwadi, bazizwa njengabo. Bathola lapho behambisana nemicabango nemibono yabo.
Kukhona nezicelo eziningi zothando. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka kanje: ekuqaleni umuntu ufunda isikhathi eside, okuningi futhi ngenkuthalo, bese wakha umsebenzi, ibhizinisi ngokuhambisana namagugu pragmatism kwengqondo nomzimba. Kodwa ayikho injabulo. Isigaba senjabulo sihambisana kancane nenani lezinto ezibonakalayo, kodwa ngokuvikeleka nokunethezeka, yebo.
Ubungane, uthando, umusa, ukuphana, isihe phezu kwezinto ezibonakalayo azikho
Ngikhunjuzwa umhlangano nosomabhizinisi osezuze lukhulu kulo mkhakha wakhe. Ngangena ehhovisi elikhulu elimhlophe qwa, elinesibonakude esikhulu ngasefasiteleni. Wahlala kusofa omhlophe owenyuswe ngesikhumba senhlwathi. Usomabhizinisi wakhuluma kabuhlungu ngesizungu, ukukhashelwa, ukungabikho samanje uthando. Ngenkathi lowo owayengunkosikazi esho ukuthi ngemuva kwezivumelwano ezingaphumelelanga, wamgwilizisa endlini yokugezela ...
Izimiso zokuziphatha ezintsha namagugu amadala
Ngomnyakazo onengqondo obheke emgomweni ochazwe ngokuqinile, lezo zimfanelo ezingokwengqondo umuntu angakwazi ukuthanda ngazo, ukwenza abangane, ukuthanda izinto ezilula ezifudumeza umphefumulo ezweni elibandayo azithuthuki.
Kwi-Western pragmatism yomqondo nomzimba ayikho indawo yomphefumulo, umcabango wenhliziyo, njengoba kwasho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sakwaJungian uHenri Corbin, ebhekisa ezincwadini zezazi zeSufi zekhulu le-XNUMX nele-XNUMX. Umcabango wenhliziyo usixhumanisa nomphefumulo womhlaba. Umphefumulo womhlaba usigcwalisa ngokukhanya kanye nalelo wayini elingokomfanekiso u-Omar Khayyam abhala ngalo.
Ngokubona kwami, umcimbi "wokuziphatha okusha" njengento eyenzeka ekhulwini lama-XNUMX nawo uhloselwe ukugcwalisa isikhala se-pragmatism.
I-Logic yazi kahle ukuthi yini ezoholela umuntu ukusuka ephuzwini A kuye ku-B, kodwa kulokhu kunyakaza akukho ndawo yomcabango wenhliziyo, impilo yenhliziyo. Basafuna ukusenza sikholelwe ukuthi into esemqoka ekuphileni ukufunda kahle ukuze uthole imali eningi kamuva. Kodwa akekho othi imali ivame ukuchithwa ezidakamizweni eziyinkohliso ezigcwalisa umkhuhlane ongokomzwelo, ubuze nobuhlungu bokudumazeka.
Umzabalazo wokuqashelwa kwamalungelo alinganayo kanye nenkululeko yabantu ababebandlululwa phambilini uyisinyathelo esiya phambili. Kodwa kunoma iyiphi i-act-out kunengozi yokulahla ingane ngamanzi.
Mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukuthatha umkhumbi wekusasa lezo zindinganiso zendabuko "zezimiso zokuziphatha zakudala" njengobungani, uthando, umusa, ukuhlonipheka kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo.
“Sinesibopho ngalabo esibathobile”, kungakhathalekile ibala lesikhumba, umumo, inkolo. Umhlaba Wabanye kumele ube yingxenye egcwele yomhlaba yamagugu endabuko ngaphandle kokuphika noma ukulahla okukodwa noma okunye. Okuwukuphela kwendlela efanele umuntu iNdlela yolwazi nothando.
Angeke usho kangcono kunomphostoli uPawulu: “Uthando luyakhuthazela, lunesihe, uthando alunamhawu, uthando aluziphakamisi, aluzikhukhumezi; 5aluthukutheli, aluzifuneli okwalo, alucasuki, alucabangi okubi; 6aluthokozi ngokungalungile, kepha luthokozela iqiniso; 7limboza konke, likholwa yizinto zonke, lithemba konke, likhuthazelela zonke izinto.