Okuqukethwe
Ngokuqinisekile sizothola okungenani oyedwa wabo kumbhangqwana wethu uma sihlala ndawonye isikhathi eside ngokwanele. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi umshado wakho usuzophela. Lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthi uvumele izinto ukuba ziqhubeke, kuyilapho ubudlelwano budinga “ukubuyekeza” ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ungacabangi ukuthi uma umlingani wakho enza sengathi uzohlola umshado wakho, kufanele uphendule ngendlela efanayo. Kukhona indlela yokuphuma kuzo zonke izinkinga. Inikezwa ochwepheshe bethu.
1. Uchitha isikhathi nawe, kodwa hhayi nawe.
Kusho ukuba segumbini elilodwa, kodwa nithule ningenzi lutho ndawonye. "Lolo hlobo lwesikhathi alubalwa," kusho umelaphi womndeni u-Aaron Anderson waseDenver, eColorado. “Ngisho noma nihlala eduze komunye nomunye kusihlwa ngemva komsebenzi futhi ngamunye ebhalelana nabangane bakhe ezingosini zokuxhumana, niqonde ngqo, ubungenaso ngempela yini isikhathi salokhu phakathi nosuku?”
okukhipha: qhamuka nento ezomenza abeke phansi ilaptop yakhe akujoyine.
2. Akakufaki ohlelweni lwakhe lwempelasonto noma ngemva komsebenzi.
Konke kumayelana nenani lapha. Ukuhlangana nabangane nokwenza izinto zokuzilibazisa kuyadingeka komunye nomunye wenu, kodwa akufanele kuthathe sonke isikhathi sakho samahhala. “Qala ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ungekho, nenza izinto ozithandayo, futhi kakade usukulungele ukuphila ukuphila okuhlukene,” kusho uBecky Whetstone, umelaphi womndeni waseLittle Rock, e-Arcasas.
okukhipha: qala umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa ohlanganyelwe (ukuhamba kusihlwa, amakilasi ezemidlalo noma okudansa epaki) futhi ushiye ubusuku ngabunye "ngomphefumulo."
3. Akabuzi ukuthi belunjani usuku lwakho?
Uma izingxoxo zakho zasekuseni zizwakala njengomhlangano emnyangweni wezokuthutha, kukhona okumele kwenziwe ngakho, ngaphandle kwalokho uzophenduka abalingani bebhizinisi. "Shayela osebenza ngamapulangwe? — Yebo sithandwa. Bese uthatha izingane u-ode isidlo sakusihlwa." Kukhona futhi wena, imicabango yakho kanye nolwazi lwakho, imibono yakho yansuku zonke. Kwakubalulekile ngesikhathi niqala ukuthandana, futhi akusabalulekile kangako manje.
Qala ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi uhlukene futhi usuvele uphakathi nendawo yokuphila impilo ehlukene.
okukhipha: U-Aaron Anderson uthi: “Phela, ngenxa yokuthi wahlola ukuphila kwakho konke akusho ukuthi kufanele unikeze impendulo evumelanayo. — Ungapheli amandla ngaphandle kokulwa! Mbuze ukuthi luhambe kanjani usuku, yini ebisemsebenzini namuhla - thatha igxathu eliya phambili. Uma bekuwumkhuba nje ongakushiyeli isikhathi sokuxoxa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzobuyela esithakazelweni sakho sangaphambili ngomunye nomunye.
4. Akanaso isithakazelo ocansini.
Ubuqili buphelile, ukushayela kuphelile - futhi kubonakala sengathi umlingani wakho ujabulile ngalokhu. Lokhu kwenzeka ngezizathu eziningana. Ungacabanga ngazo ngenkathi uhlezi ezingutsheni zakho zasekhaya ekhishini futhi umbambatha izinhlangothi zakho eziyindilinga.
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, nithunjwa ngomunye nomunye kangangokuthi nichitha yonke isekhondi lempilo ndawonye kukho konke ukubonakaliswa kwayo. Ukuvuleka okunjalo kunecala lakho: umkhuba, isimiso futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo. “Ukusondelana ngokomzimba kuyagwenywa nalapho imizwa yakho ilimele,” kusho uJenny Ingram, umelaphi womkhaya eNashville, eTennessee. - Ungavuli ngokuphelele, shiya amanye «amagumbi» evaliwe. Ukungagwegwesi okuphelele kanye ne-naivety akusona isiqalo esingcono kakhulu sobudlelwano obude.
okukhipha: buyisela ubufazi, xhumana nomlingani wakho kwasekuqaleni njengendoda.
5. Ujwayele ukugxeka abangani nomndeni wakho.
Umlingani wakho manje naye useyingxenye yomndeni wakho, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi akanasimilo njengabo. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi ukuphawula okuqondiswe kothile emkhayeni wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungubani, ngokwezinga elithile, kuyizimpendulo eziqondiswe kuwe. Lokhu ukuziphatha okungamukelekile.
okukhipha: “Khuluma ngaso leso sikhathi,” kusho u-Becky Whetstone. “Ungaqali wedwa futhi ungamvumeli umlingani wakho ukuthi akhulume ngabangani nomndeni wakho, ngoba ngaleyo ndlela beqa imingcele yakho futhi bakushiye ungesekwa.” Ukuze kungaphenduki ekugcineni ukuthi kukhona yena - ekahle, futhi kukhona abanye - umndeni wakho, kuhlanganise nawe.