Okuqukethwe
Ngenxa yemisebenzi yokudala neyezimoto enikezwa uthisha, ingane isebenzisa ikhono layo futhi yandisa uhla lwayo lolwazi. Ngemithetho yokuziphatha okuhle ebekwe wumphakathi, ufunda ngempilo emphakathini nasekuxhumaneni.
Lapho eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, ingane iqala ukudala
Ingane yakho manje yenza ngezinhloso eziqondile, iyakwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo isikhathi eside, iqondisa izenzo zayo kangcono. Nge, ukhiye, umphumela osobala: wenza futhi uphumelele izinto eziningi kakhulu.
Esigabeni esincane, imisebenzi eyenziwa ngesandla yenza ingxenye enkulu yohlelo lwayo: umdwebo, ikholaji, ukumodela… Upende, izitikha, izakhi zemvelo, izinto eziningi ezikhuthaza ubuhlakani bakhe ziyatholakala kuye. Kanye nale misebenzi evusa amadlingozi, ufunda nokuba yingcweti amathuluzi ahlukahlukene.
Manje usenombono lapho eqala ukudweba noma ukuthi uphatha ipulasitiki. Uliphatha kahle ipensela futhi, ngemva kokulungisa indlela yakhe yokubuka, ufuna ukukhiqiza kabusha indlu, isilwane, isihlahla… Umphumela awuphelele, yiqiniso, kodwa siqala ukuqaphela isihloko.
Ukufaka imibala kubasiza baqonde umqondo wesikhala. Ekuqaleni, lichichima kakhulu isikhala esitholakalayo; bese ekwazi ukuzilinganisela ohlakeni. Kodwa-ke, lo msebenzi, odinga ukusetshenziswa okuhle futhi ongakhangi emcabangweni, awujabulisi wonke umuntu. Ngakho-ke okungenani mnike ukukhetha kwemibala!
Inkathi ewujuqu ye "tadpole man"
Lo mfana unegama lakhe lokuthi ujwayelekile kubo bonke abancane emhlabeni jikelele, nokuthi ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kufakazela ukuthuthukiswa okuhle kwengane. Igama layo lesidlaliso elithi "tadpole" livela eqinisweni lokuthi ikhanda layo alihlukaniswanga nesiqu sayo. Iza ngesimo sendingilizi evamile kakhulu noma engaphansi, ehlotshiswe ngezici ezimele izinwele nezitho, endaweni engahleliwe.
Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kwakhe kokuqala: uba mpo (cishe iminyaka emi-4). I-oval eyengeziwe, icishe ifane nokuma komuntu. Umdwebi osemusha uyihlobisa ngezinto eziningi emzimbeni (amehlo, umlomo, izindlebe, izandla, njll.) noma izesekeli (isigqoko, izinkinobho zejazi, njll.). Khona-ke, phakathi nesigaba esiphakathi se-kindergarten (iminyaka engu-4-5), kufika i-symmetry.
Ubuningi bezakhi okuqinisekisa ukuziphendukela kwemvelo okuhle kwendoda. Kubonisa ukuthi ingane yakho iya ngokuya iwuqaphela umzimba wayo, ikwazi ukubona kahle futhi izizwa ikhululekile ukuveza imizwa yayo ngokudweba. Izinga lomsebenzi alinamsebenzi. Kungokufanayo nakwezinye izifundo, ngaphezu kwalokho.
Cishe eminyakeni engu-5 ubudala, ikhanda lendoda liyahlukana nesiqu. Manje ineziyingi ezimbili ezibekwe eyodwa phezu komunye. Ingxenye ihlonishwa kakhulu, futhi ingxenye ngayinye izihlomisa ngezakhi ezifanele. Kuwukuphela “kwe-tadpole” … kodwa hhayi okwabanye. Ngoba indaba akakaqedi ukumgqugquzela.
Ukufunda ukubhala kuqala enkulisa
Yiqiniso, ukufunda ukubhala kahle kuqala ku-CP. Kodwa kusukela ngonyaka wokuqala wenkulisa, othisha balungisa umhlabathi.
Engxenyeni encane, umfana wesikole uthuthukisa ulwazi lwakhe lwezindlela ezahlukene: iphuzu, umugqa, ijika, iluphu. Ukhiqiza imilo kanye nezibalo. Uhamba phezu kwezinhlamvu zegama lakhe lokuqala ukuze alibhale phansi kancane kancane. Kumelwe afunde ukubamba ipensela kahle, ngezindlawu ezenziwe isithupha sakhe nomunwe wangaphambili. Kudinga kokubili ukugxilisa ingqondo nokunemba. Akumangalisi ukuthi uma esesekhaya, udinga ukudedela umoya!
Ngonyaka wesibili, uqhubeka nemigqa okuzodingeka ayibambe ukuze abhale lezi zinhlamvu. Ukopisha amagama futhi abambe ngekhanda amanye awo.
Ohlelweni lonyaka odlule, kuzodingeka ukuthi kuhlanganiswe ukuthinta ukuze kunamathiselwe izinhlamvu. Kanye nokukhiqiza kabusha osonhlamvukazi nama-cursives nokulungisa usayizi wezinhlamvu kulowo wokusekelwa. Ekupheleni konyaka, umfundi wazi zonke izimpawu nezinhlamvu zokubhala ngesandla.
I-CP ithathwa njengesiqalo "sebhizinisi elibucayi". Kuyavunywa, manje kunesibopho semiphumela, kodwa othisha abaningi, nakuba befuna isiyalo nokuqina, basebenzisa imodi yokufunda ejabulisayo. Ngakho-ke bayayihlonipha imingcele yezingane ekugxiliseni nasekulinganisweni. Njengoba bephinde bacabangele iminyaka yomfundi ngamunye (kusukela eminyakeni emi-5½ kuye kweyi-6½ ubudala, ekuqaleni kwe-CP), okuba nomthelela ekuvuthweni kwabo, kanjalo nesivinini sokufunda kwabo. Akukho ukuntula isineke: inkinga yangempela iyohlale ilethwa ekunakekeleni kwakho.
Ingane ifunda ukuhamba emkhathini
Imisebenzi yezimoto nayo iyingxenye yohlelo lwesikole sasenkulisa. Bagxila ekuphishekeleni ukutholakala komzimba, indawo kanye nomzimba emkhathini. Lokhu kubizwa ngobuciko bomdwebo womzimba: ukusebenzisa umzimba wakho njengebhentshimakhi, futhi ungasewona amabhentshimakhi angaphandle ukuze uziqondise emkhathini. Lobu buciko kanye nekhono lakhe elikhulayo lokuxhumanisa ukunyakaza kwakhe kuzovula ama-horizons ezinganeni emkhakheni wemidlalo yangaphandle (ukweqa intambo, ukuhamba phezu kwe-beam, ukudlala ibhola, njll.)
Ukuze uthole indlela yakho esikhaleni, abantu abadala basebenzisa imibono engaqondakali edlala ngokumelene nabaphikisi: ngaphakathi / ngaphandle, phezulu / phansi, ngaphezulu / ngezansi… Futhi lokhu akulula ezinganeni ezingaphansi kweminyaka engu-6! Kancane kancane, ngoba uzobonisa ingane yakho izibonelo eziphathekayo, nokuthi izokwazi ukukulingisa ngokuqamba lezi zingxabano, zizomcacela nakakhulu. Kuba nzima uma kukhulunywa ngezinto angenazo phambi kwakhe. Yingakho umqondo webanga nobude bohambo uzohlala ungaziwa kuye isikhathi eside.
I-Lateralization iyingxenye yokutholwa komdwebo womzimba. Ukubonakala kokubusa kokusebenza ohlangothini olulodwa lomzimba ngaphezu kolunye kubizwa ngokuthi i-lateralization. Ingane encane empeleni i-ambidextrous futhi isebenzisa izandla zayo ezimbili noma izinyawo zayo zombili ngokunganaki. Abavamile abantu abasala kamuva. Cishe iminyaka emi-4, iqala ukusebenzisa okungcono kakhulu, ngendlela ezenzakalelayo, izitho neso ohlangothini olufanayo. Ngokucelwa okwengeziwe, ukuqeqeshwa okwengeziwe, amalungu ohlangothi olukhethekile aba namakhono amaningi.
Osebenzisa isandla sokudla noma kwesokunxele? Ukuthi abantu abasebenzisa isandla sokudla baningi akusho ukuthi abantu abanxele bazobe bengahlakaniphile. Ekuqaleni, bangase bahlupheke kancane kulokho cishe yonke into esendaweni yabo ehloselwe abantu abasebenzisa kwesokudla. Uma unengane enxele futhi nobabili nisebenzisa isandla sokudla, yiba nomngane oyinxele abafundise amakhono athile. Ukubopha izintambo zezicathulo zakho, isibonelo.
Ukubambezeleka okuncane ku-lateralization kungase kubonise okunye ukungasebenzi. Uma itholwa ineminyaka engu-5 ubudala, kungcono kakhulu: izokhuthaza ukufunda okuyinkimbinkimbi okufaka izimpawu zonyaka we-CP (okungukuthi ukubhala nokufunda). Kusukela eminyakeni engu-6 ubudala, kufanele uthintane. Ngokuvamile ukusetshenziswa kwezandla okungaqinisekile okuxwayisayo. Njengoba imisebenzi emihle yezandla ivame kakhulu engxenyeni yokugcina yenkulisa, uthisha uxwayisa abazali uma eqaphela inkinga.
Esikoleni nasekhaya ulungisa ulimi lwakhe
Lapho eneminyaka engu-3 ubudala, ingane yenza imisho, engaphelele kodwa eqondakalayo... ikakhulukazi ngawe! Esikoleni, sizomcela ukuba aveze imizwa yakhe phambi kwabanye, ukuze aqondwe yibo bonke. Uma lokhu kwethusa abanye ekuqaleni, kuyinjini yangempela yokwakha kangcono futhi aveze amazwi akhe.
Uvame ukuba yedwa engxoxweni. Phakathi kwazo, izingane azicasulwa ukungalaleli noma ukuvumela abanye bakhulume. Babelana ngale ndlela yokungakhulumisani. Kodwa akekho ongamela ukuziphatha okunjalo kumuntu omdala. Inguquko esuka ekukhulumeni uwedwa uye engxoxweni ayenzeki ngaphandle kwemfundo. Futhi kuthatha isikhathi! Qala ukumfundisa izinto eziyisisekelo njengamanje: ungaphazamisi, ungamemezi endlebeni yakho lapho usocingweni, njll. Uzoqonda, kancane kancane, ukuthi ngaphandle kwezingqinamba okushiwo lokhu, ukuxoxa. kuyintokozo ehlanganyelwe.
Uma ezibona eyinkaba yezwe kumele azi ukuthi akayena. Uyamlalela lapho ekhuluma futhi umphendule ngokuhlakanipha ukuze umbonise lokho. Kodwa kumelwe aqonde ukuthi abanye, kuhlanganise nawe, banezinye izithakazelo kanye nesifiso sokukhuluma. Ngakho-ke uzomsiza ukuba aphume ekuzicabangeni kwakhe, ukuphenduka okungokwemvelo kuze kube yilapho okungenani abe neminyaka engu-7 ubudala, kodwa okungamenza umuntu ongavamile uma ephikelela.
Uthola ulwazimagama lwakhe emithonjeni eminingi. umndeni ungomunye wabo. Unganqikazi ukusebenzisa amagama alungile, ngisho naye. Uyakwazi ukuqonda incazelo yamagama angajwayelekile ngenxa yomongo abekwe kuwo. Noma kanjani, uma engaqondi, mthembe, uzokubuza imibuzo. Ekugcineni, yenza umzamo wokuqeda imisho yakho. Ngisho noma eqagela izinhloso zakho, kufanele umnike lo mkhuba omuhle.
Uthanda ukuphinda amagama amabi, ikakhulukazi “ucaca-boudin” ongashabalali! Abazali abaningi bakubona njengethonya lesikole, kodwa awuphuthelwa namazwi ambalwa okuthuka? Nokho, kufanele sihlukanise lezi zinhlamba. Singabekezelela izinkulumo ezimibalabala ezikhulunywa ngaphandle kobubi, kodwa hhayi inhlamba ephula isithunzi sabanye, kuhlanganise nabangane. Okwamanje, ingane yakho ayiqondi ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukunukubezwa ngokobulili, kodwa kwanele ukuba yazi ukuthi kwenqatshelwe.
Iphinde ilingise ukushintsha kwakho kwemisho nephimbo. Uzogqugquzelwa yi-syntax yakho ukuze athuthukise eyakhe. Njengendlela yokuphimisa, ithonya lakho linamandla endaweni yesifunda: ingane yabantu baseParis abakhulele eNingizimu ngokuvamile ithatha ulimi “lwasenyakatho”. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungacabangi ukuthi kufanele usebenzise i-tics yolimi alusebenzisa nabangane abalingana naye, kungase kumcasule. Hlonipha ingadi yakhe eyimfihlo.
Kunokuba uyibuyisele emuva, phinda lokho esanda kukusho ngokusebenzisa umusho olungile kuyilapho i-syntax yawo ingaqiniseki. Ngaphandle kokuphawula. I-Mimicry isebenza kangcono kunokusola!
Usemncane, kumele ubekezele!
Ukuzimela, kodwa hhayi ngokuphelele. Kunanini ngaphambili, ingane yakho icela ukwenza izinto zansuku zonke iyodwa. Etafuleni, iphelele, ngisho noma kufanele usike inyama yakho kuze kube yilapho uneminyaka engaba ngu-6 ubudala. Ukugeza, ukuxubha amazinyo, uyakwazi ukwenza. Waqala ukugqoka cishe iminyaka engu-4 ubudala, enezingubo nezicathulo okwakulula ukuzigqoka. Kodwa ukusebenza kahle nesivinini akukakafiki lapho kuhlangana khona. Ngokuvamile kuyadingeka ukuya ngemuva noma ukulungisa kabusha. Kwenze ngokuhlakanipha ukuze ungadikibali intando yakhe enhle!
Inhlanzeko nokwehluleka kwayo. Kuze kufike eminyakeni emi-5, inqobo nje uma behlala begcina isikhathi, ukuchama kwasebusuku akufanele kukhathazeke. Uma ziba njalo noma zihlelekile, futhi uma ziphikelela ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele sisabele. Uma ingane yakho ingakaze ihlanzeke ebusuku, thintana nokuhlola ukuthi ayinakho yini ukuvuthwa kokusebenza kohlelo lomchamo. Uma ekhona futhi “ephindela emuva”, bheka imbangela: umnyakazo, ukuzalwa, ukungezwani phakathi kobudlelwano bakho … Ungenzi sengathi uyayiziba inkinga. Ngoba enganeni yakho ayikhululekile neze ukuvuka imanzi te, ayilokothi ilale nabanye futhi izizwa inecala ngokukudalela inkinga. Futhi kuwe, ubusuku bumatasa futhi ubuthongo bakho buphazamisekile. Kuyadingeka ukuxoxa ngakho, ndawonye, nodokotela wakho, noma ngisho nodokotela wezengqondo.
Umbono wesikhathi usasondele. Ingane yakho izoqale iqonde umqondo wesikhathi ngenxa yereferensi evamile: khomba izenzo ezijwayelekile eziphawula usuku, kanye nezinguquko nezehlakalo eziphawula inkambo yonyaka. Umqondo wakhe wokulandelana kwezikhathi uzoqala ukusetshenziswa esikhathini esifushane. Uqala ukukwazi ukulindela ikusasa eliseduze, kodwa akufanele ucabange ukumtshela mayelana nesikhathi esidlule. Ngakho-ke, uma ecabanga ukuthi wazalwa ngezinsuku zamaqhawe, ungathukutheli!
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphimisela kokungabaza. Ungakwazi ukuphakamisa ingane yakho, kusukela eminyakeni engu-5 ubudala, ukuthi iphinde imisho ezohlola ukusho kwayo, kumodeli odumile "Amasokisi e-Archduchess awomile, a-archi-dry". Owakho ubunzima ekuwabizeni kuzokuxaka ngokushesha! Futhi akunandaba ukuthi incazelo yawo ayicacile. Ukuze zihlolwe, isibonelo: “Izazi eziyisithupha zicasha ngaphansi komsayiphuresi ovuthayo”; “Ngincamela uphaya we-apula othambile kunophaya ocwetshiwe katamatisi” njll.
Ukukhathazeka nini Kusukela eminyakeni engu-3 ubudala uma engakawaphimisi amagama akhe okuqala noma uma ukukhuluma kwakhe okuhlulekayo kungamvumeli ukuba aqondwe futhi azungeze iminyaka engu-6 uma ephikelela ekukhubekeni ngaphezu kongwaqa owodwa noma ababili. Uma kwenzeka ukungingiza, kuyadingeka ukusabela ngokushesha lapho lesi sifo sivela.