Okuqukethwe
Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi akekho nhlobo eduze. Mhlawumbe, ngamunye wethu uke wabhekana nalo muzwa okungenani kanye ekuphileni. Kodwa umqeqeshi womndeni uLisa Copeland uthi lezi zinhlobo ezingu-11 zamadoda angashadile uzohlangana nazo ku-intanethi ngokuqinisekile. Futhi esimweni esithile, ukuxhumana nawo wonke umuntu kuyoba usizo. Kodwa yikuphi okukufanelayo, kukuwe.
1. Insizwa epholile
Uyintandokazi, ngokushesha uvela kwabanye, futhi, ngokuqinisekile, uzomkhetha kuqala. Uyathandeka futhi uyakwazi ukwenza uzizwe sengathi usezulwini lesikhombisa. Kepha futhi ungumuntu ogqame kakhulu ukuphula inhliziyo yakho…
Kuyathakazelisa kakhulu ukuchitha isikhathi naye - inqobo nje uma ungathembeli ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside.
2. Onothando
Ubhala nje, usevele ekubiza ngentombi yakhe. Uhlala efuna ukuthola imilayezo evela kuwe futhi uzokushayela izikhathi eziningana ngosuku.
Qinisekisa ukuthi akakuthathi sonke isikhathi sakho ngale ndlela: ngale ndlela ngeke ukwazi ukuxhumana nabanye, amadoda okungenzeka athakazelisayo.
3. Insizwa egibele isithuthuthu
Ungaphuthelwa iphrofayela yakhe ngenxa yesithombe sakhe egqoke izibuko kanye nesigqoko sokuzivikela: ufanelwe ukubukeka. Amadoda amaningi phakathi nokuphila anomsebenzi onjalo wokuzilibazisa. Phakathi kwabo kungase kube odokotela, abameli nosomabhizinisi.
Uma ungesabi ukuhlala esihlalweni esingemuva kuye, leli khandidethi linamandla.
4. Insizwa engenaso isithombe
Ungakwazi ukuxhumana naye, kodwa futhi ekukhulumisaneni, futhi ngemva kwakhe, uzohlala enjengoba ayenjalo: indoda eshadile ehlezi endaweni yokuphola noma ku-Tinder.
5. Ezothando kude
Uma ubuthanda ukuphupha kusukela ebuntwaneni, lokhu kungaba yisinqumo esilungele wena. Uchitha amahora efonini yakho udalula izimfihlo zakho ezijulile komunye nomunye. Yiqiniso, ngemva komhlangano womuntu siqu, "i-chemistry yocingo" ayihlali njalo.
Okuhlekisayo nakakhulu, ngemva kokufunda uhlu olukhulu lwezidingo, jabulela ukuthi uyahlangabezana nalo.
Njengomeluleki, ngiye ngahlangana nabashadile abahlala eduze ngokuqhathaniswa, amahora ambalwa ukusuka. Lolu uhlobo lwakho lozakwethu uma ungathandi isimiso sobudlelwano futhi nivuma ukuchitha izimpelaviki ndawonye.
6. Insizwa efuna i-psychotherapist
Ufuna isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, futhi lowo dokotela wengqondo nguwe. Amahora futhi ngaphandle kokukhokha, uzokutshela ngezinkinga zakhe nokungabaza.
Kodwa ungathatheki ngale nqubo, bheka umlingani ophile kahle ngokomzwelo.
7. "Umthengi we-inthanethi"
Amanye amaphrofayili ahlekisayo abhalwa yilabo ababhala lokho okhethwe nguye okufanele abe nakho. “Umude, mncane, ungudokotela noma unesi, awunazo izingane, awubhemi…”
Kodwa okuhlekisayo nakakhulu, ngemva kokufunda uhlu olukhulu, jabulela ukuthi uyahambisana nalo.
8. Umkhohlisi
Vele, lo akuyena umkhohlisi ozokucela imali yokuthuthukisa ibhizinisi lakho lekusasa elinenzuzo enkulu naye. Ngeke akuthathele imali, kodwa uyakwazi ukuyizuza inhliziyo yakho ngokushesha okukhulu.
Amadoda anjalo ahlala enezithombe ezinhle kakhulu nedatha ekhazimulayo. Uzojabula ukuthi umfana onjalo ukunakile. Futhi naye uyazi.
9. Abancane. mncane kakhulu
Owesifazane osekhulile: kukhona ngempela isigaba sezinsizwa ku-intanethi ezinesithakazelo kwabesifazane abadala.
Uma kufanela i-ego yakho, kungani kungenjalo? Into esemqoka ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi ungaphenduki, njengoba kusho amaBrithani, ku-Sugar Mama - "umama oshukela" - futhi ungaqali ukumphatha.
10. Indoda endala
Phakathi kwabo, abantu besikole esidala, abathembekile nabaqondile, bangabanjwa. Kungase kube khona abazokuphatha okwentokazi. Kunoma yikuphi, abaningi babo bayathakazelisa ukukhuluma nabo. Kuyafaneleka ukunikeza lolu hlobo lwamadoda angashadile ithuba okungenani kanye.
11. Indoda yakho
Ngeke abe muhle kunabo bonke.
Kodwa uyoba nesithakazelo kulokho okwenzayo, indlela ophila ngayo, futhi uyofuna ukukwenzela yonke into ukuze ujabule.
Wonke aku-inthanethi futhi alinde ukuthi uvele lapho. Kholwa nje.