Okuqukethwe
Singaphila ngenjabulo kuze kube phakade futhi saneliseke ngokwethu. Sinempilo enhle, sinomkhaya nabangane, sinophahla phezu kwamakhanda ethu, iholo elizinzile. Singenza okuthile, othile noma into egcwalisa ukuphila ngenjongo. Pho kungani utshani ngaphesheya komgwaqo bubonakala buluhlaza? Futhi kungani singajabule ngokwethu?
“Uma ungeke ukwazi ukushintsha isimo, shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngaso” kulula ukukusho kunokukwenza. Abacwaningi be-positive psychology bahlonze izizathu eziyishumi ezenza abaningi bethu bangajabule uma bengakwazi.
1. Okulindelwe lukhulu
Amathemba angenasisekelo kanye nokulindela okuphezulu kusebenza kabi: uma okuthile kungahambi ngohlelo, siyacasuka. Ngokwesibonelo, siphupha ngeholide elingokomoya nomndeni wethu, kodwa sithola ukuhlwa okungekuhle neze. Esinye sezihlobo asisihle neze, isimo siyashuba.
2. Ukuzizwa ukhethekile
Ukuzethemba okunempilo kuhle. Kodwa-ke, lowo ozibheka njengokhethekile uvame ukudumala kamuva: abanye ababoni ukuhluka kwakhe futhi bamphathe njengawo wonke umuntu.
3. Izindinganiso ezingamanga
Inkinga wukuthi sizithatha njengeqiniso, okuyizona kuphela ezifanele. Ukuzifela ngemali futhi ngelinye ilanga ubone ukuthi imali akuyona yonke into kuyigalelo elingeke lithathwe yibo bonke.
4. Lwela ukuthola okwengeziwe
Siyashesha ukujwayela esikuzuzile futhi sifuna okwengeziwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ikhuthaza njalo ukuphokophela phambili nokubeka imigomo emisha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sikhohlwa ukujabulela lokho okuzuziwe, okusho ukuthi silahlekelwa ukuzethemba.
5. Amathemba abekwe kwabanye
Sivame ukulinda ukuze "sijabule," sidlulisela umthwalo wenjabulo kumlingani, umndeni, noma abangani. Ngakho, asigcini nje ngokuzenza sincike kwabanye, kodwa futhi sizifaka engozini yokudumala lapho kuvela ukuthi banezinye izinto ezibalulekile.
6. Ukwesaba ukudumazeka
Ukwesaba ukuwa kukuvimbela ukuthi uqhubeke phambili, ukwesaba ukwehluleka akukuvumeli ukuba ulwele injabulo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukucinga umlingani ofanele noma umsebenzi wephupho. Yiqiniso, lowo obeka engozini lutho akakwazi ukulahlekelwa lutho, kodwa ngokwenza kanjalo asibandakanyi kusengaphambili noma yiliphi ithuba lokuwina.
7. Indawo engalungile
Abaningi bethu baxhumana ngokuyinhloko nabantu abangenathemba futhi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, baqala ukujabulela izindaba ezinhle kancane kancane. Lapho indawo ezungezile ibheka umhlaba ngezibuko ezimnyama futhi ikhipha amazwi abucayi nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, umbono omuhle ngezinto akulula.
8. Okulindelwe amanga
Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi injabulo nokwaneliseka kuyisimo esingokwemvelo ongahlala kuso isikhathi eside ngokuthanda kwakho. Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Injabulo iyedlula. Ukuthatha kalula, siyeka ukukwazisa.
9. Inkolelo yokuthi ukuphila kuqukethe “amabhendi”
Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuthi okuhle kuhlale kulandelwa okubi. Ngemuva komhlophe - omnyama, ngemuva kwelanga - isithunzi, ngemuva kokuhleka - izinyembezi. Ngemva kokuthola isipho esingalindelekile sokudalelwa, baqala ukulinda ngokukhathazeka uchungechunge lokwehluleka, okusho ukuthi abakwazi ukujabulela injabulo yabo. Lokhu kunciphisa izinga lempilo.
10. Ukudebeselela impumelelo yakho
Ngokuvamile asikwazisi lokho esikuzuzile, siyakuchitha: “Yebo, akukho lutho, sinenhlanhla nje. Kuzenzekele.» Ngokunika impumelelo izici zangaphandle, ngokwenza kanjalo sinciphisa amakhono ethu.
Uma siwazisa umsebenzi wethu, sikhumbula esesikuzuzile nalokho esiye sabhekana nakho, lokhu kusisiza ukuba sibhekane nezinselele ezintsha ngomoya ophansi. Bayoba baningi, kodwa abasona isizathu sokunganeliseki.
Umthombo: Zeit.de