Kusukela ekuzalweni, futhi ngisho nasesibelethweni sikanina, umntwana uncela isithupha sakhe futhi akhiphe ama-endorphin (amahomoni okuzijabulisa). Ngakho-ke le reflex yokuncela iyapholisa futhi isiza ukulawula umjikelezo wokulala nokuphumula kwezingane ezincane.

Ivela ekukhulelweni kwayo esibelethweni, ingane ithanda ukumunca isithupha sayo futhi izizwa iqinisekisiwe ngokuthatha le reflex yokuncelisa. Ngemva kokuzalwa kwakhe naphakathi namasonto akhe okuqala okuphila, ngisho nokuncela iminwe ngaphandle kwesithupha sakhe, amathoyizi noma i-pacifier elungiselelwe le njongo. Ngesikhathi sokuhlaselwa kwezinyembezi, ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba noma ukucindezeleka, ngisho nokuphela kwendlela yokuphumelela ekuthuliseni nasekuthobiseni umntwana.

Kodwa-ke kufika isikhathi lapho lo mkhuba ungaba yinkinga. Cishe sekuyiminyaka emi-4 noma emi-5 lapho odokotela, odokotela bamazinyo futhi ochwepheshe bezingane baluleka abazali ukuba bayeke ukusebenzisa isithupha ngendlela ehlelekile ukuze balale noma bathulise ingane. Ngempela, uma lesi simiso siqhubeka isikhathi eside, singakwazi ukubona ukukhathazeka kwamazinyo, njengokushintsha kokuma kolwanga nezinkinga. i-orthodontics, ngezinye izikhathi akunakuhlehliswa.

Ngesikhathi sokukhathala, intukuthelo noma isimo esicindezelayo, ingane ingathola isisombululo esisheshayo nesipholile kakhulu ngokubeka isithupha emlonyeni futhi isebenze i-reflex yayo yokuncelisa. Kuyindlela esheshayo nelula yokuzizwa uqinisekisiwe futhi unethezekile.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lo mkhuba uvame ukukhiya ingane. Ngesithupha emlonyeni, unamahloni okukhuluma, ukumamatheka noma ukudlala. Okubi nakakhulu, uyazihlukanisa futhi akasaxhumani nabahamba naye futhi wehlisa izigaba zakhe zokudlala njengoba esinye sezandla zakhe simatasa. Kungcono ukumkhuthaza ukuthi agcine le mania ngesikhathi sokulala noma ukulala, futhi umkhuthaze ukuthi anikeze isithupha sakhe phakathi nosuku.

Ezinganeni eziningi, lokhu kulahlwa kuzoba lula futhi kuzokwenzeka ngokwemvelo. Kodwa uma ingane encane ingakwazi ukuyeka lo mkhuba wobuntwana yedwa, kukhona amathiphu amancane okumsiza ukuba enze isinqumo:

• Amchazele ukuthi ukuncela isithupha kwabancane kuphela manje usemkhulu. Ngokusekelwa kwakho kanye nesifiso sakhe sokubhekwa njengengane futhi engaseyena umntwana, ugqozi lwakhe luyoba namandla;
• Khetha isikhathi esifanele. Asikho isidingo sokuhlanganisa lolu vivinyo esikhathini esiyinkimbinkimbi yokuphila kwakhe (ukuhlanzeka, ukuzalwa komfowenu noma udadewabo, isehlukaniso, ukuthutha, ukungena esikoleni, njll.);
• Yenza kancane futhi kancane kancane. Vumela isithupha kusihlwa kuphela, bese wehlisela kuzimpelaviki kuphela ngokwesibonelo. Kancane kancane futhi ngobumnene, ingane izozihlukanisa kalula kulo mkhuba;
• Ungalokothi ugxeke. Ukumthethisa noma ukumhleka ngoba ehlulekile akusizi. Kunalokho, mbonise ukuthi akulutho nokuthi uzofika lapho ngokuzayo futhi umkhuthaze ukuba akhulume futhi achaze ukuthi kungani ebone isidingo sokuphinda athathe isithupha sakhe. Ngokuvamile kuxhunyaniswa ne-malaise, ukululama kwesithupha kungaqondwa futhi kushiwo ngamazwi ukuze ngokuzayo, kungenzeki. Ukukhulumisana ukuze wehlise umoya, nansi i-axis enhle ye-"deconditioning" yengane ukumsiza ukuba ayeke ukuhlanya;
• Futhi yinikeze imigomo ecacile nefinyelelekayo futhi wakhe umdlalo kule nselele. Kubalulekile futhi ukwazisa impumelelo yakho ngetafula, isibonelo, elizoligcwalisa empumelelweni ngayinye futhi elizoletha umvuzo omncane;
• Okokugcina, uma kungekho okusizayo, ungasebenzisa imikhiqizo ezonikeza ukunambitheka okubabayo eminwe yengane ukuze ihambisane nemizamo yakhe.

Esimweni esinzima sokudlula phakathi nosuku, noma ukukhathala okungazelelwe okungamenza afune ukuqhekeka, mnike umsebenzi ozohlanganisa izandla zombili futhi wabelane naye ngalo mzuzu. Ngokuphambukisa ukunaka kwakhe nokumthoba emdlalweni, uzomvumela ukuthi akhohlwe lesi sifiso sokumunca ebesibonakala sibalulekile kuye. Ukwanga noma ukufunda indaba nakho kuyizixazululo eziduduzayo ezizosiza izingane zikhululeke ngaphandle kokuzwa isidingo sokumunca izithupha.

Ukwenza ingane yakho iyeke ukuncela izithupha kuthatha isikhathi eside. Kuzodingeka ubekezele futhi umqonde futhi umsekele kuzo zonke izinyathelo zokufika lapho. Kodwa, ngemva kwakho konke, lokho akuwona yini wonke umsebenzi wokukhulisa izingane?