Izifiso nezifiso zingangqubuzana. Kulokhu, kungcono ukulandela izifiso zakho, hhayi izifiso (imizwa), futhi ubeke phansi izifiso zakho ezifisweni zakho.
Cabangela isibonelo. Indoda ethile ihamba futhi ibone owesifazane okhanga ngendlela emangalisayo. Uqala inqubo yenjabulo (ngawo wonke umqondo) - futhi kuphakama isidingo. Okulandelayo, isifiso siyavuka: "Ngiyamfuna!". Kuze kube manje, yonke into ibonakala ilungile. Kuyindaba yesifiso. Uma konke kufana, khona-ke uzoqala ukusebenzisa uhlelo "lokulala nalo wesifazane."
Manje ake ucabange ukuthi isifiso sakhe siwumshado ojabulisayo nomkakhe. Futhi ukungafani kuyaqala - umzimba ufuna ubulili nalo wesifazane, futhi ikhanda lithi - "akunakwenzeka."
Phuma kunombolo yokuqala - ungakwazi ukuthola amaphuzu ngesifiso futhi wenze ucansi. Kulesi simo, isifiso sizophoqeleka ukuba sivumelane nezidingo nezifiso. Okusho ukuthi, indoda izoqala ukugwema isifiso sayo sangaphambili - umshado ojabulisayo. Lapha kufanelekile ukuqaphela ukuthi amadoda amaningi, ngokwezindaba zawo, ngokushesha (okungukuthi, ngokushesha, khona lapho) ngemva kocansi ohlangothini, umcabango uvela: "Yini isihogo?". Futhi injabulo - zero.
Indlela yesibili ayincono. Ungakwazi ukubeka umzimba ngaphansi kobuchopho, futhi wenqabe ukuya ocansini nalo wesifazane. Khona-ke umzimba ulalela ikhanda futhi kukhona ukwenqaba ubulili ngokujwayelekile. Ngoba ezingeni lezidingo kukhona ukuvinjelwa, ezingeni imizwelo - ukunengeka. Ngenxa yalokho, ubulili kulo mshado buba buthuntu, bube buthuntu futhi bube lusizi. Isiphetho siyabikezelwa.
Ingabe zikhona izinketho ezingcono? Udinga, okokuqala, ukulandela izifiso zakho, futhi okwesibili, ukuqondisa kabusha izidingo zakho nemizwelo. Zitshele: "Yebo, ngijabule." Zitshele: "Yebo, ngifuna owesifazane" (khumbula, hhayi lona, kodwa owesifazane nje). Futhi uzilethe ujabule futhi ukhokhiswe ngokukhanga umkakho.
Bese wonke unxantathu we «izidingo-izifiso-ufuna» usebenza ohlangothini olulodwa futhi - okuyinto futhi into ebaluleke kakhulu - kwenza umuntu ajabule. Ngokungafani neminye imiphumela emibili enikezwe ngaphambili.
Kungani?
Kungase kuphakame umbuzo onengqondo: “Kungani kungcono ukuphinda ubeke isidingo futhi ufune ukufisa”? Iqiniso liwukuthi, ezokuqala zivela ngokushesha. Isidingo sivuthwa amahora ambalwa, noma ngaphansi. Lapha, ake sithi, uphuze amalitha amabili kabhiya - uma ufuna, ngiyaxolisa ngokukhuluma iqiniso, zikhulule? Kakhulu, maduze nje.
Isifiso sivuka ngokushesha okukhulu. Lapha owesifazane udlula esitolo, abone isikhwama futhi - "O, yeka ukuthi kuhle kanjani!". Konke, isikhwama siyathengwa. Emadodeni, yonke into ihamba ngendlela efanayo, kuphela ngokunye.
Kodwa isifiso sivuthwa isikhathi eside, ngezinye izikhathi iminyaka. Ngakho-ke, uma sethula i-coefficient yesisindo esinemibandela, isifiso siphenduka sibe nzima kakhulu kunesidingo nesifiso. I-Desire ine-inertia ephezulu futhi kunzima kakhulu ukuyihambisa. Ngakho-ke, kuhlongozwa ukuveza isidingo nokufuna.