Ngisho nomlayezo ofudumele futhi onethenda ungadumaza uma ungapelwanga kahle. Kubonakala sengathi sifunda okuthile ngombhali wencwadi phakathi kwemigqa. Yini ngempela? Futhi kungani sicasulwa ama-typos wabanye abantu?
Ama-pedants egrama kanye nesipelingi "ama-chauvinists" sekungamashumi eminyaka ebikezela ukwehla kolimi lokubhala. Izithunywa, izinkundla zokuxhumana, i-T9 edume kabi kuma-smartphone… Ibha yokufunda iyehla — futhi lokho kuyiqiniso. Kodwa ingabe kuhle ekuboneni inkulumo?
Ulimi ludlala indima enkulu ezindaweni eziningi zokuphila kwethu. Abanye baqala ukungezwani namaphutha, futhi ngokushesha baqala ukunamathela amalebula: ukubhala okungafundile kusho umuntu ongafundanga, umuntu ongafundiwe, ongahlakaniphile.
Ucwaningo lwakamuva lubonisa ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo kokwahlulela kusho okuningi mayelana nokuthi ubani ohlola ukufunda nokubhala kwabanye abantu. Izazi zolimi uJulie Boland noRobin Queen baseNyuvesi yaseMichigan bazimisele ukuthola ukuthi abantu basabela ngendlela ehlukile kanjani emaphutheni abhaliwe.
Ocwaningweni, abaphendulile abangu-83 balinganisele izikhangiso ezivela kubaqashi bamanga abafuna abahlala nabo. Okuqukethwe kwakuhlala kufana, kodwa isipelingi sasihlukile: amaphutha okuthayipha namaphutha ohlelo ayenezelwa emibhalweni.
Amaphutha okubhala abemancane, enziwe “ngokunganaki” (isibonelo, “abuot” esikhundleni sokuthi “mayelana”). Abazange baguqule incazelo yalokho okulotshiwe - ubuchopho bethu bafunda incazelo yokuqala. Nakuba amaphutha ohlelo (“wena” esikhundleni sokuthi “wakho”) ngezinye izikhathi ayeyishintsha ngokuphelele incazelo yombhalo.
Ama-introverts kanye nabantu abathule bavame ukucasulwa amaphutha kunama-extroverts.
Khona-ke, ngokusekelwe emibhalweni abayifundayo, izihloko kwakufanele zilinganisele ukuthi ziyamthola yini lowo ozobhapathizwa ethandeka, ehlakaniphile, noma ethembekile. Ukuhlola, ngokochwepheshe, kwakungahlobene nezinga lemfundo noma iminyaka yabahloli, kodwa nobuntu babahloli.
Okokuqala, bacelwa ukuba bagcwalise uhlu lwemibuzo. Khona-ke abalingiswa babo bahlotshaniswa nemodeli yakudala yengqondo ye-"Big Five": i-neuroticism, i-extraversion, ukuvuleka kokuhlangenwe nakho, ukubambisana (indawo yokuhlala), unembeza (ukwazi).
Phakathi nocwaningo lwabo, u-Boland noQuinn bathola ukuthi abantu abaqalayo kanye nabantu abathule bavame ukucasulwa amaphutha kunama-extroverts.
Abantu abane-neurotic abakhathazwa amaphutha olimi, futhi abantu abanonembeza kodwa abangavuleki kakhulu ikakhulukazi abangawathandi ama-typos. Njengomthetho, bangakwazi ukubekezelela amaphutha egrama. Abantu abaxabanayo nabangabekezelelani nabo, babonisa “ukungezwani” namaphutha ohlelo lolimi.
Ukuphatha ulimi ngendlela efanele akudingekile nje kuphela ukuze uqondane kangcono, kodwa futhi kubhekwa njengesici sokusebenza ngobungcweti.
Yiqiniso, imiphumela yocwaningo ngeke ikwazi ukuthinta impilo yangempela. Noma kunjalo, ukuphathwa kahle kolimi akudingekile nje kuphela ukuze uqonde kangcono omunye nomunye, kodwa futhi kubhekwa njengesici sobuchwepheshe.
Ngokwesibonelo, abanye abaqashi bayethemba noma bangabathembi abasebenzi ngokusekelwe ekwazini ukufunda nokubhala. Futhi ngisho nalapho ufaka isicelo somsebenzi, abazobhapathizwa bahlungwa ngokuhlolwa kwesipelingi.
Ezincwadini zomuntu siqu, amaphutha ohlelo angabulala ubuhlobo. Amagama akhethwe kahle nakhethwe kahle angenawo amaphutha angathinta ukukhethwa komuntu ongase abe uzakwethu. Ngokumelene nesizinda sokuthandwa kwemiyalezo "evilaphayo", ababhali bayo abangakakulungeli ukuthatha isikhathi sokulungisa amaphutha, abafundisi babukeka be-sexy.