Okuqukethwe
Okufanele ukwenze uma ingane yakho inovalo kakhulu
Intukuthelo eshisayo, ukucasuka, "izidubedube emkhunjini" yizimpawu ezivamile zokukhula, izinkinga zeminyaka. Kepha kunezinye izizathu zokukhathazeka kwabazali. Kukuchwepheshe we-neuropathologist ukuthola ukuthi kungani ingane inovalo kakhulu, nokuthi ulayini uphakathi kokungalawuleki nokonakala. Akukho lutho olwesabekayo ngokuya kudokotela. Awunelisekile nge-polyclinic yombuso, lapho bazana khona ngokubona? Isikhungo esizimele sizosiza. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi "ukuqubuka" okunjalo kuyazimela.
Akumangalisi ukuthi ingane itatazele kakhulu - funa isizathu.
Kungani ingane yavele yathuka kakhulu
Izingane ziba novalo ikakhulukazi minyaka yonke, kusuka eminyakeni emi-2 kuye kwengu-3 ubudala (inkinga “yokuzimela”), ezineminyaka engu-7 nangaphezulu. Abazali bezwe okuningi ngobusha, futhi bakukhumbula bebodwa. Izizathu ezenze ingane yathuka kakhulu zihlobene nezenhlalo, ezomzimba nezingokwengqondo.
- Isifiso sokuzimela, ukwehlukana nabazali, yize ingane uqobo isengakwazi ukuzicabanga ingekho.
- Isimo. Abantu beCholeric bahlala befeza abakufunayo (ukumemeza, ukuhlanya).
- Ukukhathala. Izingane azifuni ukukhunjulwa ngokweqile. "Inkinobho" yabo yokumisa ayisebenzi, ngakho-ke izingane nezingane ezingaphansi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala bavikelekile emicimbini emide enomsindo, babuka opopayi namaholide asendle nazo zonke izihlobo nabangane.
- Ukwephulwa kwesimiso sosuku.
- Ukuchithwa. Abazali kwesinye isikhathi bakulungele ukunikeza izingane zonke izinto zokudlala, inqobo nje uma zingafuni ukunakwa, ukunakekelwa, nesikhathi.
- Ukuntuleka kokugxila okusobala nobunye babazali. Ubaba unikeza isibhontsi ukuze asidlale, umama uyasithatha. Noma umama athi "cha" namuhla nakusasa, futhi "yebo" ngosuku olulandelayo kusasa.
- Izinkinga zomzimba. I-Neuroses namuhla ayimangazi noma ngubani. Kwenzeka ukuthi ingane inovalo kakhulu ngenxa yokugula (impumu eminyene, amazinyo), izinguquko zehomoni (intsha), izinkinga zokukhula.
Akunasidingo sokumemeza indodana noma indodakazi yakho (yize abazali bengeyona i-iron, ungakuqonda ukusabela). Udinga ukuziconsa isilalisi bese uhlola isimo ngendlela efanele.
Ingane inovalo kakhulu: ukuthi yenzeni
Uma ukuwohloka kwenzeka njalo, udinga ukuya emtholampilo wezingane. Udokotela wezingane angabona izinkinga omama nobaba abangaziboni. Kwesinye isikhathi kusizwa udokotela wezinzwa.
Uma abazali benamahloni, kufanele ucabange ngengane - inzalo inovalo ngesifo sokuwa, i-autism. Udinga ukukhumbula ngomthwalo wakho wemfanelo ezinganeni.
Kepha izizathu zilele nakwezinye izindawo, lapho isixazululo senkinga sincike khona.
- Bakhuluma ngenhliziyo, bakhombisa ukuthi bayayithanda indodana nendodakazi yabo. Izingane zitshelwa ngokuthomba, uthando lokuqala kusengaphambili.
- Sidinga ukubasiza bazi futhi bazithuthukise. Izingxenye zenzalo nokusebenza ngokulingene komzimba kuzonciphisa ukucasuka ngokweqile.
- Buka ingane. "Imisebenzi" ethukile iqala phakathi kwesikwele noma ewindini lesitolo? Bayayigona ingane bathi ukuthenga kuzokwenziwa kamuva. Hhayi lokho? Ingane ishiywa yodwa, kepha hhayi kude. Akezwa manje - noma iziqalekiso, noma ukuqinisekiswa.
- Kuyadingeka ukuthi ube seduze nezingane futhi uhlale ukhuluma ngokusuka enhliziyweni.
Futhi kwesinye isikhathi, lapho ingane ihlala itatazela kakhulu, ukuthi yini abazali nabogogo abanakekelayo nabanozwela abazi ukukwenza, udinga ukuzihlola. Amagama nezenzo zomama nobaba ziyehlukana, ngabe umndeni awunayo inhlonipho yabantu abadala ngokuhloniphana noma ngo “I” wabo? Ngemuva kwalokho kuzodingeka ukuthi uvule umugqa nawe ...