Ukwenzelani ubaba?

Ukungahlanganyeli okwanele kwamadoda ekukhuliseni izingane kuyinkinga yomphakathi wanamuhla. Isimo esivamile: umyeni uhlala ematasa emsebenzini, futhi inkosikazi isekhaya nezingane. Futhi-ke kuvela, njengasehlaya: "Darling, thatha ingane yakho enkulisa, izokubona ngokwakho." Nokho, eqinisweni, ubaba angakwazi ngisho nokwenza okungaphezu kukamama, kodwa akazi ngakho.

Kukholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi oyinhloko futhi okuwukuphela kwendoda yomyeni ukusekela izinto ezibonakalayo zomndeni. Kodwa ekuphishekeleni imali, izinto ezilula kodwa ezibaluleke kakhulu ziyakhohlwa. Lokhu akulona iphutha lamadoda, bathanda izingane zabo futhi bafuna ukuzinakekela. Abakufundisi ukuthi ungaba kanjani umzali. Futhi uma usiza amadoda ukuba aqonde injongo yawo, khona-ke mhlawumbe kuyoba nemindeni enobungane kanye nezingane ezijabulayo.

Abazali abazalwa, benziwa

Ukuba ngubaba akunzima kangako kunokuba umama. Isifiso sakho sokuba ubaba wangempela sibalulekile, ngoba izingane zikhula ngokushesha, ngaphandle kwakho noma ngaphandle kwakho. Ngakho-ke ake sibone ukuthi yini elindeleke kubayeni benkosikazi, imuphi umnikelo ubaba angaba nawo emkhayeni. Ukwenzelani ubaba?

Mphelelise futhi usekele umama. Abesifazane banemizwa ngokwemvelo, akufanele basolwe ukuthi ezimweni ezinzima, imizwa ithatha izintambo. Yilapho ubaba edingeka khona ngokucabanga kwakhe okunengqondo kanye nengqondo. Isibonelo, uma ingane igula, siza umkakho ukuthi athole ukuthi yimuphi udokotela okufanele axhumane naye, iseluleko sakhe sokulalela - ogogo noma udokotela wezingane wendawo. Ngisho noma ukhathele kakhulu, vumela umkakho akhulume, ungamsoli ngokwesaba nokungabaza. Futhi uma unesikhathi samahhala, mnike isandla sokusiza, ngoba isisombululo esisodwa sababili silula. Kwesinye isikhathi udinga nje ukubuza ukuthi ungasiza kanjani. Vikela umkakho ekucindezelekeni, umnakekele ukuze ube nesikhathi esiningi.

Thatha ingxenye esebenzayo. Ngokusho kochwepheshe, sichitha imizuzwana engu-40 kuphela ngosuku sikhuluma nengane. Futhi uma ubaba ehamba lapho ingane isalele futhi iza lapho isivele ilele, khona-ke ukuxhumana kungaba imizuzwana engu-40 ngesonto. Yiqiniso, awukwazi ukuyeka umsebenzi wakho. Kodwa zama ukunikela isikhathi sakho samahhala enganeni yakho: khuluma naye, qaphela izinkinga zakhe nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, usize ngenkuthalo ukuzixazulula. Imizuzu engu-30 nje yokuxhumana kwansuku zonke phakathi kukababa nengane yanele ukuba ingane izizwe ivikelekile. Uma inkosikazi ingashongo ukuthi yini ethokozisayo emini, zibuze. Bonisa isinyathelo sokuqala.

Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo. Xazulula zonke izinkinga eziqhamuka emndenini ndawonye. Babili abantu ababambe iqhaza ekwakheni umndeni, okusho ukuthi ingane idinga ukukhuliswa ndawonye. Umsebenzi kababa uwukuthwala umthwalo wokunakekela umndeni wakhe. Lapho owesifazane ethi ubhekene nobunzima, ngokuvamile lokhu kuwumthwalo wemfanelo, hhayi imisebenzi yasekhaya. Kungani kufanele omama kuphela bakhathazeke ngezingane zabo? Common child — izinqumo ezivamile.

Ngendlela, mayelana nosofa. Kusukela eqinisweni lokuthi ubaba uzofika ekhaya ngehora ngaphambili futhi ahlale eduze nekhompyutha, ngeke kube lula kunoma ubani. Ukuxazulula izinkinga emsebenzini, ukuxazulula izinkinga ekhaya - awekho amandla anele akho konke? Kodwa emva kwakho konke, owesifazane kufanele asebenze, futhi anakekele izingane, futhi athenge ukudla, futhi apheke ukudla, futhi ahlanze, futhi ahlale ethwele umthwalo omkhulu, ngezinye izikhathi umthwalo ophindwe kabili. Ngoba uma kwenzeka okuthile, ukhathazeka ngabantwana, futhi kuzomele ubeke izaba endodeni yakho ukuthi awukunaki! Ukushiya owesifazane yedwa, bese ethi - kuqedile, akufani nendoda.

Hlela ikusasa lomndeni. Yini ongayipheka ngesidlo sasekuseni noma i-sweater okufanele igqoke enganeni, umama ngokwakhe anganquma. Kodwa ukuhlela amasu kuwumsebenzi wenhloko yomndeni. Iyiphi inkulisa ongayinikeza, lapho ufunda khona, ubani ozophatha, isikhathi esingakanani ingane esichitha ekhompyutheni, indlela yokuthukuthela, lapho ichitha khona ngempelasonto. Ukuhlela amasu kusho ukwenza izinqumo mayelana nendlela yokuthuthukisa nokufundisa ingane, yiziphi izindinganiso okufanele zigxiliswe kuyo. Umsebenzi kababa ukujabulisa ingane. Injabulo yezingane yikhono lokufunda, ukucabanga nokwenza izinqumo bebodwa. Ngubaba ongahlakulela lezi zimfanelo.

Ukuba yisibonelo. Kukholakala ukuthi abafana bakopisha ubaba, futhi amantombazane akopisha umama, kodwa lokhu akukhona kuzo zonke izimo. Ingane ibheka abazali bobabili futhi ikhumbule konke ukuziphatha kwabo. Uma ubaba engavumela igama eliqinile phambi kwengane, khona-ke kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umama uchaza kanjani, ngeke kusebenze. Futhi ngeke ujwayelane nenhlanzeko ingane uma indlu ihlezi ingcolile. Yenza lokho ofuna ingane yakho ikwenze. Futhi qiniseka ukuthi uyavumelana ngezindawo ezibalulekile zemfundo: ukuphoqelela ukudla noma ukungadli, ukuvumela ukubukela i-TV ngemva kwehora lesishiyagalolunye kusihlwa, noma ukugcina isimiso sohlelo. Emndenini lapho umama nobaba bengakwazi ukuthola ulimi oluvamile, ingane ngeke iphumule futhi ingavikelekile.

Thola ukuthi yikuphi okuhle nokubi. Kunombono wokuthi umsebenzi kamama uwukuthanda, futhi ubaba ukufundisa. Kunemibono eminingi mayelana nendlela yokufundisa ngendlela efanele. Kodwa ukuchaza ingane ukuthi yini enhle, yini embi, kudingekile ngazo zonke izindlela. Ngokuvamile izingane zilalela uyise kakhulu kunonina. Umsebenzi kababa ukuchaza futhi abonise ngesibonelo sakhe ukuthi ukuya kumama kubi, kodwa ukuthi ngiyabonga ngemva kwesidlo sakusihlwa kuhle. Bafundise ukugcina izithembiso, bangazihluphi, bahloniphe abanye, bangakhapheli abangani, basekele umkhaya, balwele ulwazi, babone imali njengendlela kuphela, futhi babeke ubuciko phakathi kwezindinganiso zaphakade. Uma lokhu kuyinto evamile kuwe, ingane yakho izokhula njengomuntu. Kulula ukusho, kodwa kanjani?

Indlela yokufundisa indoda ukuba nengxenye ebalulekile ekuphileni komkhaya

Abafazi abaningi ngokwabo basusa abayeni babo ekubambeni iqhaza ekukhuliseni izingane: akazi lutho ngomntwana, uyaphazamisa kuphela, kungaba ngcono uma ethola imali eyengeziwe. Amadoda asengozini enkulu yokugxekwa: uma ukusho kabukhali kanye, ngeke kuphinde kusebenze. Abaningi ngokwabo bayesaba ukusondela kusana olusanda kuzalwa, ukuze bangalimazi. Futhi ubani owathi umama uyazi ukwenza kahle? Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi kulula ukuba matasa kunokuxabana nowesifazane.

Ngakho-ke, amakhosikazi kufanele avunyelwe ukuba nengxenye ezindabeni zomkhaya. Awukwazi ukuthwala yonke into emahlombe akho. Yebo, futhi indoda ifuna ukufaka isandla, kodwa akazi kanjani. Msize. Umyeni, njengengane, udinga ukunconywa, ukukhuthazwa, wathi awukwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga ebalulekile ngaphandle kwakhe. Indoda idinga ukuzwa ukubaluleka kwayo. Mvumele abambe iqhaza, mqondise.

Qaphela izincomo ezilandelayo:

• Thumela umyeni wakho ukuba ayoshaywa umoya nengane ngempelasonto.
• Asho ukuthi kwenzekeni ekhaya engekho.
• Cela ukuhlala nomntwana - uzoqonda ukuthi kunzima kangakanani.
• Ngokuvamile cela iseluleko ngalokho okufanele ukwenze esimweni esithile.
• Thumela ingane ukuxazulula izinkinga nobaba.
• Sitshele ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo losizo oludingayo njengamanje.

Akuwona wonke amadoda empeleni anesibopho njengoba singathanda. Kodwa bavele bacabange ukuthi ukwesekwa kumayelana nokusiza ngomsebenzi wasekhaya kuphela. Futhi ubani ofuna ukugeza izitsha futhi ashweleze ingane ememezayo. Ukuthi nje abachazwanga ukuthi umkabo udinga ukuqinisekiswa ngeseluleko sabo, ukuze asize ekuxazululeni inkinga ebuhlungu. Khona-ke uzokujabulela ukukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa, futhi izingane zizothula. Umama ozolile uyingane ezothile.

Umndeni ojabulayo uwumndeni lapho indoda ingumholi. Futhi inkosikazi, okokuqala, kufanele idale le nkohliso ukuze indoda ijwayele indima yayo. Futhi uma lokhu kuba yiqiniso, kuyoba nenjabulo ephindwe kabili.

Umndeni ungumkhumbi, lapho indoda kufanele ime futhi inkosikazi kufanele imsize. Umndeni uyiqembu lapho wonke umuntu kufanele enze izinto zakhe ukuze kuzuze umgomo ofanayo.

Iyini imigomo yomndeni wakho? Ufuna ukuzikhulisa kanjani izingane zakho? Yiziphi izimfanelo eziyinhloko ofuna ukuzigxilisa kuzo? Indodana noma indodakazi yakho kufanele ikhule ibe umuntu onjani? Yibuphi ubudlelwano bomndeni ofuna ukuba nabo? Ukuchaza konke lokhu nokukusebenzisa yilokho ukuhlela amasu, umsebenzi oyinhloko wenhloko yomndeni.

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