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Ungabhekana kanjani kahle nempilo yakho yansuku zonke nezingane ezingamawele: izeluleko zethu!
Ukuba abazali bamawele akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kuwukuxokozela okukhulu emndenini. Indlela yokuphatha nsuku zonke izingane zakhe ezimbili eyedwa futhi fusional? Ezinye izimpendulo no-Émilie, unina ka-Inès no-Elsa, amawele aneminyaka eyisithupha ubudala namuhla, kanye noClotilde Avezou, udokotela wezengqondo nochwepheshe bewele.
Abazali bamawele bayazi ukuthi impilo yansuku zonke ingasheshe ibe yinkimbinkimbi ne-duo yezingane okufanele inakekele cishe ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ungaluhlela kanjani kahle usuku ukuze ungakhohlwa lutho? Yimaphi amathiphu okuthi konke kuhambe kahle? Sikutshela konke...
Iba nenhlangano "engamasosha".
“Umthetho ongunombolo 1 uma ungumama wamawele: ube nenhlangano yezempi engenangqondoe! Ngeke sikushiyele indawo okungalindelekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, siyakuqonda ngokushesha okukhulu! », Kusho u-Émilie, umama ka-Inès no-Elsa. “Abazali bamawele abeza ukuzoboniswana bavame ukuba nezingane ezineminyaka emi-2-3. Lesi yisikhathi sokuthola ukuzimela, futhi akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, "kuchaza uClotilde Avezou, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, uchwepheshe we-twinning. Kuye, kusobala ukuthi yonke into kumele ilinganiswe nsuku zonke ngumzali. Ngemva kwalokho, kuye ngokuthi amawele akhulelwa kanjani, omama bangase bavumele noma bangavumi ukucela usizo kumlingani wabo. ” Uma amawele ezalwa ngokwemvelo, omama bazokwazi ukuzwakalisa ukukhathala kwabo futhi babuze abashade nabo, noma ogogo nomkhulu, kalula ukuthatha izintambo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, omama abathole amawele abo nge-IVF abavamile ukuzivumela ukuthi bathi bakhungathekile,” kuchaza lo chwepheshe.
Lungiselela konke ngayizolo
"Uma kufanele uphathe" kabili "usuku oluzayo, kungcono ukwenze ngobusuku bangaphambilini. Silungisa izikhwama, izingubo zakusasa, ukuze sichithe isikhathi esincane ngangokunokwenzeka ekuseni ”, kuchaza umama wamawele. Elinye icebiso elihle: “Ngibeka eceleni wonke amamenyu esikole. Ngishintsha amasonto ambalwa futhi ngithathe ugqozi kulawa mamenyu amisiwe ukuze ngihlele ukudla kweviki, kusengaphambili, kusukela ngempelasonto lapho ngiyothenga. Kungisindisa isikhathi esiningi. Lapho amadodakazi ami enakekelwa umzanyana, ngenza incwadi lapho engangibhala khona konke okwakuwakhathaza. Engangikulungiselele isidlo sakusihlwa, imithi engangizoyiphuza… Ngamafuphi, yonke into umzanyana ayedinga ukuyazi usuku nosuku,” kuchaza yena.
Impelasonto, impilo evumelana nezimo
“Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokungafani nesonto lapho yonke into yayihlelwe kusenesikhathi. ukuphila komkhaya ngempelasonto kwakuhluke ngokuphelele. Ngizamile ukwethula ukuguquguquka okwengeziwe maqondana nesonto, ikakhulukazi ngenxa yesigqi sesikole samantombazane namahora ami okusebenza,” kuchaza umama wamawele. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, amadodakazi akhe aye akhula, manje okwenza umama axoxe nawo kusengaphambili ngalokho afuna ukudla noma ukupheka ndawonye, isibonelo ngeMigqibelo.
Hlukanisa phakathi kwama-binoculars
“Ngenxa yemisebenzi yabo yangemva kwesikole, ekuqaleni, ngangifuna ngempela ukuthi amadodakazi ami abhaliswe esifundweni sezemidlalo esifanayo. Eqinisweni, ngemva kwesikhashana Ngabona ukuthi abayithandi nhlobo imisebenzi yamasiko efanayo noma izinkundla zokucobelelana ngolwazi », Imininingwane umama. Kunjalo esikoleni! Kusukela enkulisa, u-Émilie wayefuna amadodakazi akhe abe sekilasini elihlukile. “Kubalulekile ukugcina ubuntu bamawele afanayo. Ngikhumbula ukuthi ngangihlale ngibagqokisa ngendlela ehlukile futhi lokhu kusukela bazalwa. Njengezinwele zezinwele, azizange zenziwe ngendlela efanayo! Uyanezela. Kufanele ulalele ngamunye wabo, wamukele umehluko, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ungawaqhathanisi omunye nomunye! “Ngangihlala ngizitshela ukuthi kwakungabantwana ababili abazalwa ngosuku olulodwa, kodwa yilokho kuphela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi babefana kukho konke,” uyasho futhi.
Gwema ukuncintisana
“Kukhona futhi umbango oqinile phakathi kwamawele. Futhi njengoba bebancane, ngizama "ukuphula" le duo, futhi ikakhulukazi ulimi lwabo oluthile.. Ngemva kwesikhashana, la mawele ayesenendlela yokukhuluma eyingqayizivele, engabafaki abazali ngaphandle. Indima yami bekuwukuphoqa ukuthi bakhulume ngendlela eqondwa wonke umuntu, ”kufakaza umama ka-Inès no-Elsa. Kuyindlela yokuhlukanisa i-duo ngokubeka igama lomzali, ngokuncipha. “Ukuze ngigweme noma yikuphi umbango phakathi kwamadodakazi ami, ngivame ukubiza imihlangano yomndeni, lapho sixoxisana khona ngokuthi kuqhubekani noma cha”, uyachaza. “Amawele asondelene njengezelamani, kodwa imvamisa asuke esebudlelwaneni besibuko lapho eqhudelana khona ukuze aziqinise futhi akhule. Ungangabazi ukubeka phansi uhlaka olucacile nolunembayo. Lokhu kungabonakala ngesithombe esikhulu, amakhodi ombala ashintsha ngokuya ngokuziphatha kwezingane, ”kuphetha isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.