Izingane zifunda ukuthi umhlaba unonya futhi awunabo ubulungisa lapho bengena egcekeni. Ukuhlolwa kokuqala endleleni yengane inkundla yokudlala, lapho kukhona ezinye izingane. Ngenkathi umama etshiyoza ngenjabulo nabangane bakhe, bexoxa ngezinwele ezintsha zika-Yulia Baranovskaya, kuqubuka izinkanuko ezingathi sína phakathi kwezingane. Imidlalo yebhokisi lesihlabathi ivamise ukuphetha ngempi enzima yefosholo nebhakede.
Efulethini, ingane ihlale izizwa ivikelekile. Manje le ngane yasekhaya egqoke ingubo e-ayinwa futhi neminsalo emikhulu iphumela egcekeni. Hhayi bengenalutho, kunjalo. Amathoyizi angcono kakhulu apakishwe ngobunono kubhakha omuhle. Lapha uzothola isikhunta esisha sesihlabathi, unodoli wakho oyintandokazi onezinwele ezibomvu, kanye nebhere elibomvu - isipho esivela kugogo wakho. Ngemva kwemizuzu engu-30, intombazane ikhala izinyembezi. Umfana wakwamakhelwane waphonsa isikhunta esihlahleni esiminyene, ingubo kanodoli idabukile, ibhere lasala lingenasidladla. Umama usabisa ngokuyisa isiqhwaga emaphoyiseni, ugogo uthembisa ukuthenga ithoyizi elisha. Ngemva kwesonto, kwenzeka okufanayo. Kungani izinkanuko zobuntwana ezinjalo zivutha ebhokisini lesihlabathi? Abazali kufanele basabele kanjani lapho bephucwa amathoyizi enganeni yabo ethandekayo? Kukhona omama abakulungele ukujaha ukuvikela ingane lapho befika okokuqala, abanye babonisa ukunganaki ngokuphelele imiqhudelwano yezingane, futhi kukhona namanje abathi: “Zibhekane nawe. Yeka ukukhala! ” Ubani oqinisile?
- Izingane zithola isipiliyoni sazo sokuqala sokuxhumana ebhokisini lesihlabathi. Ukuthi ingane izokhululeka kangakanani lapho isikhulile incike kakhulu emidlalweni yangaphandle. Izingane ziziphatha futhi zizizwa ngendlela ehlukile ebaleni lokudlala. Abazali badlala indima ebalulekile lapha, izimfanelo zabo zomuntu siqu, izinhlelo zokubaluleka kanye namakhono abakwazi ukukudlulisela endodaneni noma endodakazini yabo. Futhi, izici zeminyaka yezingane azikwazi ukwehliswa.
Uma ubheka izingane zidlala ebhokisini lesihlabathi, uzoqaphela ukuthi ngokuvamile yizona kanye izingane ezikhangwa yiwo wonke amathoyizi azithandayo, zingawahlukanisi abe awazo noma amanye. Lesi sici sijwayelekile, njengomthetho, ezinganeni ezineminyaka engu-1,5 kuya ku-2,5.
Ukulangazelela amathoyizi amasha, ikakhulukazi umakhelwane we-sandbox, kunamandla kakhulu ezinganeni zale minyaka. Izingane zizama kakhulu ngokuthinta, futhi isithakazelo sazo singavuswa kokubili nge-spatula esithandayo esikhanyayo ngebhakede, nezinye izingane. Futhi lokhu kuvezwa akuphephile ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kule minyaka, umntwana, njengomthetho, akakakakhi ikhono lokuhlukanisa phakathi kwezinto zakhe kanye nabanye abantu. Futhi umsebenzi wabazali ukuphatha ngokuqonda izici ezingavamile zalesi sikhathi.
Kuyadingeka ukufundisa ingane ukuxhumana nezinye izingane, ukufundisa imithetho yokuxhumana. Lapha imidlalo ehlanganyelwe iyasiza. Ake sithi ukwakha inqaba yesanti enhle edinga isikhunta segceke lonke. Ezimweni lapho umntwana enesithakazelo kakhulu kwabanye, ebalimaza, khona-ke ngaphambi kokuphuma emhlabeni umntwana onjalo udinga ukufunda ukuziphatha okuhle ekhaya nabantu abadala. Uma umndeni unezilwane ezifuywayo, kufanele futhi uqaphe ngokucophelela umntwana ukuze angacasuli umngane wakhe onemilenze emine emizamweni yakhe yokufunda. Kuyadingeka ukukhombisa ingane ukuthi ungathinta kanjani isilwane, ukuthi ungadlala kanjani ngaso.
Izingane ezifika eminyakeni emithathu ubudala ziyathinteka kakhulu (kinesthetic). Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngenxa yezici zeminyaka yabo, abakayiphathi kahle imizwa yabo namakhono emoto. Futhi kuhle ukuqala ukufunda ukuthinta ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ekhaya, ngaphambi kokuba ingane ishiye ibhokisi lesihlabathi. Kusemndenini lapho ingane encane ithola khona imibono eyisisekelo ngezwe elimzungezile.
Lapho eneminyaka emithathu, ingane iba nomuzwa wamathoyizi ayo. Ingane iqala ngenkuthalo ukuvikela izithakazelo zayo ebhokisini lesihlabathi. Kule minyaka, kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane ukuba ihloniphe ngokucophelela imingcele yabo neyabanye. Akufanele uphoqelelwe ukwabelana ngamathoyizi uma ingane yakho ingafuni. Izingane zingabeka ukubaluleka okukhulu ezintweni zomuntu siqu. Ibhere elivamile libonakala liwumngane wangempela umntwana amxoxela izimfihlo ezijulile.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kuyasiza ukufundisa ingane ukwabelana ngamathoyizi futhi uyifundise ukudlala ndawonye nezinye izingane. Ngokwesibonelo, njengoba isidlale ngokwanele imoto yayo, indodana yakho ikhangwa izimoto ezikhanyayo zabanye abafana. Ngemva kokuqaphela lokhu, kuye ngokuthi isimo, ungakwazi ukweluleka ingane ukuba iye kwezinye izingane futhi ubameme ukushintshanisa amathoyizi isikhashana noma ukudlala ndawonye.
Ezimweni lapho ingane yakho icela enye ithoyizi, futhi ingafuni ukwabelana ngayo, kuyoba kuhle ukukhombisa ukuthi leli ithoyizi lenye ingane futhi kubalulekile ukuphatha ngenhlonipho izifiso zabanye abantu. Noma uthi, “Ngezinye izikhathi ezinye izingane zithanda nje ukudlala ngamathoyizi azo.” Ungakwazi futhi ukumema ingane yakho ukuthi uyicele ukuthi idlale ngethoyizi olifunayo kamuva, lapho umnikazi wayo elanele. Noma bandakanya izingane emdlalweni ohlanganyelwe lapho bobabili bezoba nentshisekelo kuwo. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi konke kwenzeka ngendlela ejabulisayo nengenazingxabano. Ngeke ukwazi ukubhekana nalokhu ngaphandle kwabazali.
Kuyafaneleka ukucabangela izici zenkundla yokudlala. Zonke izingane zihlukile, futhi isimo sengqondo ngamathoyizi sihlukile. Ezinye zezingane zafundiswa ukuzisingatha ngokucophelela, ezinye azizange. Futhi kwabancane kakhulu awukho umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwamathoyizi abo nawabanye. Akufanele uthathe unodoli owuthandayo uye ebhokisini lesihlabathi. Kungcono ukukhetha amathoyizi athakazelisayo ongenandaba nokwabelana ngawo.
Ingabe kufanele sigxambukele ezingxabanweni zezingane, kufanele sivumele izingane zibhekane nazo zodwa? Futhi uma uphazamisa, khona-ke ngezinga elingakanani futhi kuziphi izimo? Kunemibono eminingi ephikisanayo ngalezi zindaba, kokubili ngabazali nochwepheshe abasebenza nezingane.
UBoris Sednev ikholelwa ukuthi ngabazali abanikeza ulwazi oluyisisekelo oludingekayo. Ikakhulukazi ngokusebenzisa abazali, ingane ifunda indlela yokusabela kunoma yisiphi isimo ebaleni lokudlala. Omunye wemisebenzi yomama nobaba ukugxilisa amanani adingekayo empilweni. Kodwa kufanelekile ukuphazamisa imisebenzi yengane enkundleni yokudlala kuphela njengendlela yokugcina. Asikho isidingo sokukhawulela zonke izinyathelo zemvuthuluka. Kufanele ubheke ukudlala kwengane futhi, uma kunesidingo, umtshele ukuthi kufanele aziphathe kanjani ngendlela efanele. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kungcono ukulwela ukuxazulula izingxabano ezihlukahlukene ngokuthula. Isimo sakho sengqondo ngezimo esizoba ithuluzi elilungile elizosiza ingane yakho esikhathini esizayo.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yezokwelapha u-Elena Nikolaeva weluleka abazali ukuthi bangenele ezingxabanweni zezingane, bangahlali eceleni. "Okokuqala, kufanele usekele ingane yakho ngokuzwakalisa imizwa yayo:" Ingabe uyafuna ukudlala ngemoto yokudlala ngokwakho futhi ufuna ukuthi ihlale kuwe? "Kusho u-Elena. – Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakwazi ukuchaza ukuthi enye ingane walithanda ithoyizi lakhe, futhi umeme izingane ukushintshanisa nabo isikhashana. Uma ingane ingavumelani, naphezu kwayo yonke imizamo, ungaphoqi, ngoba lokhu kuyilungelo lakhe! Ungase uthi kwenye ingane: "Uxolo, kodwa uVanechka ufuna ukudlala ngemoto yakhe yokudlala." Uma lokhu kungasizi, zama ukubaheha ngomunye umdlalo noma ubahlukanise ngezindlela ezihlukene. Esimweni lapho umama womunye umntwana eseduze futhi engaphazamisi okwenzekayo, anganaki, enze ngendlela efanayo, ngaphandle kokungena engxoxweni naye. Phela abazali basuke bebambe iqhaza ekukhuliseni, futhi ngezenzo zakho usiza ingane yakho, ngaphandle kokuhlukumeza amalungelo omunye umuntu. “