Ehlukaniswe phakathi kweqiniso lokungafuni ukudala izifundo ezingathandeki kodwa futhi ukumfundisa imingcele yokuhlobisa, abazali bangazithola kalula besebunzimeni lapho bebhekene nombuzo wokuthobeka. Okubalulekile wukusiza ingane ukuba iwuqonde umzimba wayo omusha kuyilapho iwuhlonipha.

Kunezinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko zesizotha:

• Lokho okubizwa ngokuthi isizotha esingokomzimba, okusho ukuphoxeka kwengane phambi kobunqunu bayo, okwabafowabo nodadewabo noma okwabazali bayo;
• A okuthiwa isizotha ngokomzwelo noma imizwa, lapho ebhekene nalokho azizwayo futhi akafuni ukwabelana nanoma ubani omunye.

Ngokuphathelene nokuvame kakhulu nokulula ukukuchaza, okungukuthi isizotha esingokomzimba somntwana, kuneminyaka nezikhathi lapho ivela khona futhi ikhula ngamandla. Ngaphambi kweminyaka emi-2 noma emi-3, umntwana uthanda ukuhlala enqunu noma enqunu. Akukho okumvimbayo futhi uzithola engasenayo ingubo yokubhukuda ogwini, ngaleyo ndlela ezizwa enethezekile. Khona-ke, lapho eneminyaka engaba ngu-4 noma engu-5 ubudala, ingane iba nozwela ngempela endaweni yangakubo futhi ibone umehluko. Amantombazane amancane enqaba ukugeza nomfowabo futhi afuna ngokuphelele ukugqoka i-bra esifubeni ogwini noma echibini. Yiminyaka futhi lapho izingane ziqaphela ukuthi ziyingxenye yobulili obuthile. Ngaleyo ndlela baba nozwela futhi banesithakazelo ngokukhethekile ekuhlukeni kwemizimba yabo neyezihlobo zabo.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma kuziwa endabeni yesizotha engokomzwelo, kunzima kakhulu ukukubona, futhi abazali abaningi bathambekele ekubeni nesimo sengqondo esingalungile. Ingane ezwelayo, ngokwesibonelo, ngeke ithande nhlobo, ukuthi izihlobo zayo zijabule ngokuchotshozwa kwayo komunye noma omunye wabafundi efunda nabo. Nokho iningi labazali lithola lobu budlelwano bothando bezingane “bubuhle.” Lena yindlela abajabula ngayo ngokuvusa imizwa esafufusayo yengane yabo kubangani babo, izihlobo kanye namanye amalungu omndeni. Lezi zithenjwa ngezinye izikhathi zingayilimaza ingane uma inesizotha ngokomzwelo.

Uma ingane yakho inesizotha futhi ikwenza ukuqonde, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyihlonipha futhi uqikelele ukuba ungayiphazamisi. Ngaphandle kweminyaka engu-2 noma engu-3, ​​futhi ikakhulukazi uma ingane ingakhululekile, kuhle ukuyeka ukugeza naye noma ukugeza zonke izingane zakini ngesikhathi esifanayo. Manje kubalulekile ukuthi wonke umuntu athole ubumfihlo nesikhathi sakhe ngaphandle kokukwabelana nabafowabo nodadewabo futhi ngaphandle kokuphoxeka ngobunqunu babo nobalabo abasondelene nabo.

Ungayihlekisi ingane yakho uma ibonisa izimpawu zokuphoxeka noma icela ukuba ube wedwa kancane. Lokhu ukukhetha okuvamile. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile lapha ukuthi ubahloniphe futhi uqinisekise ukuthi nabanye abantu abadala benza okufanayo. Zinike isikhathi sokukhuluma naye ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini emphazamisayo futhi umsize azizwe engcono ngesimo asisabayo, njengokukhumula egunjini lokushintshela, isibonelo.

Okokugcina, gwema ngempela ngangokunokwenzeka ukubhekana naye ngobunqunu babanye. Ungahambi nqunu futhi ukhuthaze nezinye izingane zakho ukuba zenze okufanayo. Mchazele ukuthi lokho akuzwayo kungokwemvelo nokuthi akufanele azizwe engakhululekile ngemizwa yakhe. Uma enemibuzo ngomzimba wakhe nowabanye, mchazele ngamazwi alula futhi umfundise ukuthola owakhe i-anatomy nobunqunu bakhe ekusithekeni kwakhe.

Ngezinye izikhathi lesi sizotha esivela kungazelelwe sifihla amahloni ajulile engane. Lona wakamuva, egconwa esikoleni noma ekhaya, uzwela kakhulu kulolu hlobo lokugconwa, ahlehle kuye futhi azihlukanise ngesizotha okungesona esodwa ngempela. Ngakho-ke kufanele niqaphe, njengabazali, ukuze nibone lolu hlobo lokuziphatha futhi nihlanganyele ngokushesha ezingxoxweni. Mchazele ukuthi angakwazi ukukuvulela isifuba futhi akwethembe ukuze ukwazi ukumsiza ekudambiseni isimo esimkhathazayo kanye / noma esimphatha kabi.

Ukuthobeka kwengane kuyinto evamile ngokuphelele ekukhuleni kwayo kanye nokuhlanganiswa kwayo ezweni labantu abadala. Ngokuxoxisana nenhlonipho, abazali banesibopho kubo ukubasekela futhi bagxilise kubo izisekelo zempilo emphakathini ukuze bathole imizimba yabo ngokuthula nangokuyimfihlo.