Ukuhlupheka kuyisimo esibuhlungu somzimba ngenxa yamakhaza, indlala, ukulimala nezinye izinkinga.
Ukuhlupheka kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nomuzwa wokuhlupheka, kodwa lokhu akulungile.
Ukuhlupheka njengomzwelo
Ukuhlupheka njengomzwelo - (ubuhlungu benhliziyo) kungaba khona lapho kungekho khona ukuhlupheka kwangempela, njengoba nje kukhona lapho kunezinkinga zangempela, umuntu angaba nesimo sengqondo sokulindela okuhle nesiqondile, ngaphandle kokuhlupheka. Isimilo sabantu abanomcabango ongemuhle. Ukubonakaliswa okujwayelekile kokuhlupheka ukucasuka, ukukhala, ukulila, ukudabuka, ukukhungatheka, usizi.
Ukuhlupheka njengokuhlangenwe nakho, njengomzwelo wokuhlupheka, ngokuvamile kuhlotshaniswa nokuhlupheka njengesenzakalo neqiniso, kodwa lokhu akunembile. Umuzwa wokuhlupheka (indlala, amakhaza, ubuhlungu bengqondo) ungaba lapho kungekho ukuhlupheka kwangempela, njengoba nje ebukhoneni bezinkinga zangempela, umuntu angaba nesimo sengqondo sokulindela okuhle nesiqondile, ngaphandle kokuhlupheka.
Ukuhlupheka kungaba indlela yokufuna komunye umuntu: uyabona ukuthi kubi kangakanani kimi, ngakho-ke wena, sikhohlakali, ubophekile … Indlela engavamile yokubopha nokudonsa komunye umuntu.
Abantu bohlobo abahlangabezana nakho (nemiphakathi efanayo) bakala ubukhulu benani ngesikhathi nokujula kokuhlupheka lapho kulahleka.
Umfelokazi uyakhala - kusho ukuthi uyamthanda. “Zonke izifiso zangempela kufanele zizuzwe ngokuhlupheka…”
Kuyacaca ukuthi lena akuyona indlela enengqondo kakhulu. Abantu bohlobo olusebenzayo (nemiphakathi efanayo) bakala inani lenani ngokuzimisela ukuthola nokunakekela ekusebenziseni.
Unkosikazi uyakhathalela - kusho ukuthi uyamthanda.
Injani imvelo yomuzwa wokuhlupheka? Ngokuvamile kuwukuziphatha okufundiwe, ngezinye izikhathi ngenjongo (inzuzo enemibandela) ukuheha ukunaka, kanye ukuzithethelela noma ukuzithethelela - ngokuzikholisa wena noma abanye ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwakwaziswa, futhi ngokuvamile kuwumdlalo wokudabukela. Uma ingane iphatheke kabi futhi ikhihla isililo ngesikhathi iphula inkomishi, ngeke ijeziswe. Futhi uma ungacasukile...
Ukuhlupheka ngisho nasezimeni ezinzima akudingekile, kunezindlela ezingcono zokuziphatha.
INkosi yanginika izimfanelo ezintathu ezinhle:
Isibindi sokulwa lapho kukhona ithuba lokuwina,
Ukubekezela - kwamukela lokho ongakwazi ukunqoba futhi
Ingqondo yikhono lokuhlukanisa omunye komunye.
Futhi, bheka isihloko esithi Ubuhlungu benhliziyo ngezansi.